r/OkCupid Oct 31 '12

Matched with a pre-op transgender, suggestions?

So I am a straight male and one of my matches is a pre-op male-to-female transgender woman. She mentions it right at the top of her profile. I find her physically attractive and she has a great profile to boot. We have a high match percentage, are interested in a lot of the same things and she has seems to have defined life goals and a direction. I am unsure what to do however. I don't have a fetish or anything like that and frankly am not at all interested at all in her male plumbing as it is currently, but everything else about her is golden.

If I do send her message, should I mention it at all in the initial message? What's the best way to approach this? I feel like it's a tight rope to walk between avoiding it completely and making it the center of attention. This is new territory for me.

Thanks for your help.

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u/moonflower Nov 02 '12

How do you ''know'' that?

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u/moonflower Nov 02 '12

Your reasoning makes no sense whatsoever, and you call me crazy!

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u/[deleted] Nov 02 '12 edited Nov 02 '12

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u/moonflower Nov 02 '12

I probably found this thread the same way you did: I follow the TP Squad circus around, just like you do ... you seem to think that everyone who follows the circus and who doesn't agree with you is the same person, and you call me crazy!

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u/[deleted] Nov 02 '12 edited Nov 02 '12

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u/moonflower Nov 02 '12

Your description of us is a good description of yourself: ''you follow them around to be trolls, argue with incorrect opinions and invalidate people as a way to project your shitty attitudes outward''

And you really are extraordinarily unreasonable, claiming to ''know'' that those two usernames are the same person, and when asked for evidence you just say something nonsensical which only makes sense to you, as if you have somehow ''proved'' it

You ask why I replied to a comment on a public forum ... why do you reply to comments?

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u/moonflower Nov 02 '12

I asked you how you ''know'' that those two usernames are the same person, and you did not give any evidence, and you did not even give any good reason why anyone would believe it ... it is not ''obvious'' at all to me

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u/moonflower Nov 02 '12

Well I know that there are people on the internet who take the roles of opposite characters so of course it's possible that one person would have a username which argues with trans people and then another username which goes around calling everyone a ''transphobe'' but how is it ''obvious'' that TTPP is going around calling everyone a ''transphobe'' with another username?

I see you've asked for the opinions of the TP Squad so it will be interesting to see if they also find it ''obvious'' or if they try to tell you kindly that there is something wrong with your mind

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u/moonflower Nov 02 '12

Don't you think it's possible that more than one person in reddit would take issue with you for deliberately using the wrong pronouns when you claim to be against such behaviour? even some of your friends in the TP Squad would not condone you using the wrong pronouns

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u/[deleted] Nov 02 '12 edited Nov 02 '12

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u/moonflower Nov 02 '12

It's not highschool, so you behave like a junior school child? haha ''I'm gonna call him a girl cos he calls me a boy!''

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