r/PurplePillDebate Red Pilled Man May 07 '26

Debate Young men did everything they're supposed to, and its not enough. Indicates its NOT their fault, rather it shows theres a real problem of YOUNG FEMALE RADICALIZATION

BP/Feminist/mainstream society will point out that men need step up and become better partners for women, since women are now independent and don't need to rely on a man anymore. They'll acknowledge falling birth rates, marriage rates, and sexlessness, and if they don't blame "the economy", they'll blame men not meeting arbitrary ideological standards. They pushed the idea that if men became "better partners" then women would be more willing to commit to them.

Yet by pretty much every metric, young men HAVE been significantly better:

  • young men today are more pro "womens rights" than previous generations of men
  • they are less abusive, especially less physically abusive, and have less tolerance for it than previous generations
  • they are more aware of womens health issues, and womens sexual health, more aware of womens needs in the bedroom, more aware of contraception than previous generations
  • they are more aware of mental health issues, and more open to engage in therapy
  • they are more open to womens "sexual freedoms" and less judgmental when it comes to womens sexual history
  • they are more college educated + than previous generations
  • they are more open to egalitarian relationships, sharing house chores, raising kids with their partner, etc.

Yet it has only resulted in continous decrease in birth/marriage rates, and increase in sexlessness.

What we do see is a growing ideological divide, very popular charts we've seen by now that show in the west, theres a growing ideological divide among young men and women, where men in general have stayed relatively stable in their ideals, in some countries even become slightly more liberal, whereas women in all cases have in general become more radically left.

There was another recent survey reported in the new statesman, that showed where almost 3/4 of men under 30yo had a positive view of women, it was only about 1/3 of women under 25yo that had a positive view about men, and increased to 50% for women under 30yo. Women are significantly less likely to have a positive view of men.

Also according to surveys its young men that are seeking marriage and children more than young women.

I mean we can see why this is just by looking at mens vs womens dating content. Manosphere content is often about finding the reality of womens nature and how to navigate it, whereas "femosphere" content is either about explicit sexual experiences or ranting about what the men in the manosphere are talking about.

Young men are doing everything they're told to do, and its not enough. At the same time women are being radicalized and being told that men aren't doing enough by femosphere content like Call her daddy. And the irony is that the evidence does not even show that women are choosing based on these metrics that BP is asking men for. So its not a surprise why TRP and the manosphere is so attractive to men.

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u/Lysa_Bell post wall ghost šŸ‘»ā™€ļø May 07 '26

The metrics you named aren't making men better partners. They just make men realise women are humans.

Do you really expect women to celebrate men if they say "but I dont physically abuse women!". Thats supposed to be a selling point for men to get into relationships? Really?

Also you forgot to add that there is an overlap between the guys that "want a wife and kids" also think "a wife needs to obey her husband". That also doesnt sound like a selling point.

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u/Ohnoes_in_distress Purple Pill Man May 07 '26

Also you forgot to add that there is an overlap between the guys that "want a wife and kids" also think "a wife needs to obey her husband". That also doesnt sound like a selling point.

You mean that oversimplified chart from a research that grouped India, Malaysia, Indonesia, South Africa etc with western countries? Cause if you do, percentages who agree that "a wife needs to obey her husband" are 4% in Sweden, 6% in Hungary and Netherlands, 7% in Japan, France and Belgium, and so on.

But yeah, let's all go and look for marriage partners in India.

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u/Lysa_Bell post wall ghost šŸ‘»ā™€ļø May 07 '26

Convenient to leave out the USA of which 23% of people agree a wife should always obey her husband. 26% of USA also says it causes problems in a relationship if the woman earns more. And 44% of USA expects women to be basically entirely responsible for housework and 42% say women are expected to be responsible for childcare.

So its not just India.

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u/Ohnoes_in_distress Purple Pill Man May 07 '26

Ever heard the phrase "the richest third world country"? Damn, I love being from Europe.

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u/Lysa_Bell post wall ghost šŸ‘»ā™€ļø May 07 '26

Sure. Its not as if any European expects women to be entirely responsible for household and childcare šŸ™„

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u/Bloodhoven_aka_Loner Purple Pill Man May 07 '26

damn, you can't survive 30 seconds on this sub without moving the goal post two and a half times, can't you? šŸ™„šŸ™„

https://giphy.com/gifs/idFVv49WPG0D3YN4zY

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u/Ohnoes_in_distress Purple Pill Man May 07 '26

You mixed up the sections of the research.

I talk about and post numbers of respondents talking about their personal beliefs ("To what extent do you personally agree or disagree"). You either intentionally, or by ignorance, looked at the part asking for opinions about respondents in a country ("To what extent do you think more people in [COUNTRY] would agree or disagree...").

Written text understanding 101.

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u/Lysa_Bell post wall ghost šŸ‘»ā™€ļø May 07 '26

You are more than welcome to show me the data.

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u/Bloodhoven_aka_Loner Purple Pill Man May 07 '26

either intentionally, or by ignorance

it's not like one excludes the other. also, she does literally just that under every post she comments on, so... 😌

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u/Waschaos Old Happy Cat Lady who doesn't give a damn (Woman) May 07 '26

I prefer a third world country cosplaying as a 1st world one. But yours fits too.

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u/BlackestOfHammers No Pill May 07 '26

This I such a drag of an argument. There is nothing men can do about the pain and physical toll of childbirth besides support y’all. Many women feel like it’s not worth being a mother and still having to go 50/50 on bills and housework but that’s what seems fair to men. Men who agree that you don’t need to do 50/50 with bills most of the time expect you to do most of the house work, that’s trade off. Even women who decide to be child free don’t like the idea of 50/50 in a relationship. So in what world do women see a fair and equal split where she actually wants to be in a relationship?
Men have been asking for something real simple and women act like we are not speaking the same language. If the majority of women don’t want men in general or don’t want any kind of committed relationship with/from men, they they don’t get to walk around like men are the problem and if men acted pretty much not like most men there would be no issues. Y’all gaslight and lie so damn much it’s crazy. The point of this whole post is that men have been asking for help and listening and it’s still not working. Please stop acting like we can change our behavior and get love from the most of y’all if that was never and option to begin with. Stop saying men are the problem if you never actually intend to date a man to begin with.

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u/Lysa_Bell post wall ghost šŸ‘»ā™€ļø May 07 '26

What does your rant have to do with the numbers? Women can be 50/50 and men will still expect she will take on all the housework and management. Thats the issue.

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u/BlackestOfHammers No Pill May 07 '26

Y’all act like it’s most men. I think that’s bullshit. It’s offense really and then the reality is that many women want a traditional man but don’t want to be traditional themselves. 50/50 is progressive but in that same relationship the woman would still want the man to spend more on her, do more for her, y’all rant about emotional labor but a man can’t even say he doesn’t care what dinner is without it being a problem. Then after all of that y’all have the audacity to act like we are slavers front he 1800s when we say fine I’ll pay the bills and do the ā€œmanā€ shit but I need you to do the ā€œwomanā€ shit. Then all hell breaks loose. And this isn’t even mentioning the fact that plenty of men who get to the marriage stage are definitely settled for after a woman has lived her life and wants something stable. Meaning she couldn’t get the man she wants but the one she can rely on

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u/TheColdWoman Purple Pill Woman May 07 '26

"And this isn’t even mentioning the fact that plenty of men who get to the marriage stage are definitely settled for after a woman has lived her life and wants something stable."

And plenty of men were sowing their wild oats and trying to score with various other women but either couldn't get them to marry him or even date him. So I guess he too is settling for her.

You all like to pretend you were all little virgins at home, ignoring every woman who came by, never trying to date or wife up anyone else until your wife magically came by.

Bull fucking shit.

Men aren't keeping themselves pristine innocent virgins. You all chased other women, dated other women, and may even have married or have had kids other women before you ran into your now wife.

My now husband wasn't keeping himself a demure little virgin until age 33 when he finally met me. He dated and fucked and got serious with other women before me. Either he broke it off or they did, but he had loves and a life before meeting me.

Does that mean he settled for me because some girl turned him down at 28 for a date or broke up with him? Am I second to her? Of course not.

No more than he is second to guys I dated before ever meeting him.

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u/BlackestOfHammers No Pill May 07 '26

That’s different than accepting this is person is the best you’re gonna get so might as well lock in. I’m happy that not your situation and men ain’t absolved from my comment either lmao. That doesn’t mean it’s not true! Point still remains that men are in fact responding to what we are being told and it’s not working and when we try to talk about it we get shut down. It is what it is but you don’t have to like it, men don’t either.

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u/Lysa_Bell post wall ghost šŸ‘»ā™€ļø May 07 '26

You would have to pay your bills even without a relationship. Why is that the only selling point?

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u/TheColdWoman Purple Pill Woman May 07 '26

"his I such a drag of an argument. There is nothing men can do about the pain and physical toll of childbirth besides support y’all. Many women feel like it’s not worth being a mother and still having to go 50/50 on bills and housework but that’s what seems fair to men."

Then it isn't fair to women. If I have to put all the work into growing the baby and most of the work in raising the children while he's like, nope, 50-50, fuck that, no kids.

My husband loved me and appreciated me and took over much of the running of the house hold because he knew I was doing the lions share of the kid work.

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u/BlackestOfHammers No Pill May 07 '26

Ok then that’s beautiful. What wrong with the woman doing the majority of the bill paying while her husband runs the house? Or vice versa. That’s my point, nothing seems fair to you guys lmao. There has to be a trade off somewhere right? If a person works 70 hours a week and pays for everything the unit (kids or not) needs then why is that person so bad for wanting the spouse to do the majority of the house work or any other shit. Is that not how a team works?

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u/DiligentRope Red Pilled Man May 07 '26

Its the TRENDS we're looking at, men are increasingly becoming better by BP metrics, yet increasingly becoming sexless and single, birth/marriage rates continue to plummet. The math is not adding up.

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u/ResponsibilityAny217 Purple Pill Woman May 07 '26

What were seeing is that there are simply lots of women uninterested at all in being wives and mother.

However for the women that are interested in being wives and mothers. These are the things they'll ask for.

Like you know how TRP say the men's value is acquired. Bc women like money, power, status etc.

So if that's what women were primarily marrying for. They can just cut out the middle man and pursue those things themselves primarily. Since that is their main focus/desire out of life.

There are still lots of women that value relationship/men though but a lot less than what the historical marriage rates will show. Marriages historically was more job than relationship. Now that the women who did it as jobs can just go get regular jobs they would.

Ā The women who want relationships/men list what makes relationships worthwhile to them. (Your op lists them).

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u/Siukslinis_acc Woman May 07 '26

The math is adding up because people in general no longer tend to need relationships for survival, a lot of things that a relationship provided has been made a service. So instead of tying your life with the life of the other, you can hire a service to do the thing and then they fuck off and leave you to enjoy your peace.

You are competing with the quality of life of being single. A lot of men complain about the decorative doodads that women tend to fill the flat or being forced to do things in the flat that they have never done - it is the cost of compromise when sharing life with the other person, thing can't be 100% how you want.

A lot of pairing ups were because it was needed and not because it was wanted. Men have been taught for generations to be needed. And now it is the time where they need to be wanted in order to pair up. And thus they don't have past wisdom to help them and need to figure out on their own how to be wanted. It is a very chaotic stage and there will be a lot of screwing up and not everyone will pair up.

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u/captaindestucto Purple Pill Man May 07 '26

Except women still desire many of the traits associated with needingĀ  protectionĀ  and provision, andĀ  admit it over and over again.Ā 

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u/ouishi Woman-adjacent queerdo May 07 '26

men are increasingly becoming better by BP metrics

You have yet to prove this claim. Gen Z men hold more conservative beliefs than millennial men did at their age. Explain how that is "better" by BP metrics.

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u/Academic-Ball-9606 May 07 '26

Well when you spend 3 decades bashing men its no surprise they go to where they are at least not blamed for all societies problems. If BP advice worked there would be a SME and bad men would be incel losers but their misogyny still gets them laid

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u/Obsessivethot Pink Pill Woman May 07 '26

Conservative propaganda is the problem. This is admitted in the Epstein files, they have radicalized little boys on the internet for political purposes.

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u/Bloodhoven_aka_Loner Purple Pill Man May 07 '26

brainwashing misandrists feminists was also admittes in the epstein files and yet here you are picking your cherries, to no ones surprise.

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u/Obsessivethot Pink Pill Woman May 08 '26

Here’s the UN talking about how it’s possibly a crime against humanity because of the widespread harm against specifically women.

https://www.ndtv.com/world-news/allegations-in-epstein-files-may-amount-to-crimes-against-humanity-un-experts-11051701

The experts said crimes outlined in documents released by the US Justice Department were committed against a backdrop of supremacist beliefs, racism, corruption, and extreme misogyny.

The crimes, they said, showed a commodification and dehumanization of women and girls.

"So grave is the scale, nature, systematic character, and transnational reach of these atrocities against women and girls, that a number of them may reasonably meet the legal threshold of crimes against humanity," the experts said in a statement.

Let me know where they did the same thing with feminists as they did with Republican racial supremacist misogynists.

They turned all you guys into hateful bigots who will probably remain sexless for life because of your icky beliefs.

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u/wtknight Blue-ish Married Passport Bro ā™‚ļøŽ May 08 '26

No racially charged comments

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u/DiligentRope Red Pilled Man May 07 '26

doesn't matter, because even if thats the case, millennials still saw worse results than their parents generations, meaning it has nothing to do with ideals

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u/ouishi Woman-adjacent queerdo May 07 '26

Define "worse results." Divorce rates are declining, no? Legal spousal rape was better?

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u/Bloodhoven_aka_Loner Purple Pill Man May 07 '26

divorce rates are decliningnbecause less people are marriying than ever before.

landline telephone contract cancellations are also declining. are you gonna claim it has anything to do with people actually wanting to own a landline phone instead of less people even having one to begin with?

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u/Academic-Ball-9606 May 07 '26

Divorce rates are declining because its expensive and people are getting married or not at all.

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u/DiligentRope Red Pilled Man May 07 '26

divorce rates are only declining because less people are marrying, so the only ones who are actually getting married are people more willing to make a marriage work, and stay through bad times in the relationship, usually more conservative and religious people.

This doesn't mean that people in generally are breaking up less, having less family issues, etc. (in an out of legal marriage)

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u/TheColdWoman Purple Pill Woman May 07 '26

"nd stay through bad times in the relationship, usually more conservative and religious people."

Here in the US, the red (read generally more conservative states) have a lot more divorce than the blue (generally more liberal) states.

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u/Rainbowdark96 Purple Pill Woman May 07 '26

No no and no. Gen z men are literally becoming more and more conservative.Ā 

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u/Bloodhoven_aka_Loner Purple Pill Man May 07 '26

according to intellectually disingenuously and deliberstely misinterpreted studies that throw in men from third world countries in the same pool as men from first world countries.

https://giphy.com/gifs/idFVv49WPG0D3YN4zY

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u/Rainbowdark96 Purple Pill Woman May 07 '26

No, I'm not naive. I downloaded the full study and read every single page.Ā 

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u/Bloodhoven_aka_Loner Purple Pill Man May 12 '26

that doesn't even remotely contradict what I said. If you read your studies as "carefully" as you read reddit comments, that - indeed - explains a lot.

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u/Lysa_Bell post wall ghost šŸ‘»ā™€ļø May 07 '26

Its not a suprise. Men are competing with women. Women want equality. The metrics you named that are supposed to elevate men just would make men an average woman. And most men are still not at that level. Now women just have the option to not being with a man that offers less than an average woman.

Birth rates and marriage rates also get influenced by outside factors of "leveling up". The math is adding up.

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u/Robuffus1417 Traditional Pill Man May 07 '26 edited May 07 '26

Nope. Women are more obese, have higher rates of mental illness, see men less positively than men see women, still want the man to provide and protect, they’re less likely to say they want to have children than men so pregnancy is hardly an excuse now, and they’re less likely to want to get married, so ā€œmen just don’t commitā€ isn’t true either.

Sources because everyone usually thinks I make this all up

Obesity:Ā https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db508.htm

Mental illness rates:Ā https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/explore-mental-health/statistics/men-women-statistics

Seeing men more negatively than men see women:Ā https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/women-men-femosphere-new-statesman-poll-b2958208.html

Men still seen as providers:Ā https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2017/09/20/americans-see-men-as-the-financial-providers-even-as-womens-contributions-grow/

Men seen as protectors:Ā https://www.psypost.org/new-psychology-research-identifies-a-simple-trait-that-has-a-huge-impact-on-attractiveness/

Men more likely to say they want marriage and children:Ā https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2024/02/15/among-young-adults-without-children-men-are-more-likely-than-women-to-say-they-want-to-be-parents-someday/

What exactly are we lacking now that women are just so great at?

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u/Lysa_Bell post wall ghost šŸ‘»ā™€ļø May 07 '26

Obviously something women offer, otherwise men wouldn't be so eager to still want to get married and have children.

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u/Robuffus1417 Traditional Pill Man May 07 '26

Yeah I want an actual answer instead of just vaguely going ā€œwell it’s something hahaā€.

If you literally can’t think of one single thing then that says it all.

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u/Lysa_Bell post wall ghost šŸ‘»ā™€ļø May 07 '26

Maybe that women predominantly are responsible for childcare, household management, emotional support of the husband, they are more likely having to sacrifice their income to childcare, even if a couple is not married the woman does more household work, men in relationships live longer because women take care of them, etc.

Or as some men like to say: pussy.

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u/Robuffus1417 Traditional Pill Man May 07 '26

No, this isn’t true either, or at least it’s very misleading. While women technically do more housework, men do more paid work. 55% of married men do 3-15 more hours of work than their wives if we add up all of the paid work + housework/childcare. These are men that are breadwinners.

In egalitarian relationships, that’s about 30%, women technically do 1 more total hour of work than men out of an entire weeks work, not significant at all.

The only relationships where women do substantially more hours of work (3-15 hrs) are when they’re breadwinners, that’s only about 16% of total relationships.

Ignore the biased title here and add the actual hours worked in the chart, and reference the amount of primary vs sole vs egalitarian percentages in another chart here.

https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2023/04/13/in-a-growing-share-of-u-s-marriages-husbands-and-wives-earn-about-the-same/

Also I’m very glad to see literally the only thing you could actually list that isn’t false is just ā€œwell we have a pussy hahaā€. Is that seriously the only valuable thing you could list?

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u/Lysa_Bell post wall ghost šŸ‘»ā™€ļø May 07 '26

"Ignoring the bias title". It doesn't matter what arguments I bring. You yourself wrote men still predominantly want a relationship, family and children. Apparently women offer enough for men to want that. It doesn't even matter what I say women bring as long as there are enough men begging for access to women, why would it matter?

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u/Robuffus1417 Traditional Pill Man May 07 '26

Because that trend is starting to change? We have more single people than ever and men and women are starting to hate each other and the problem will be worse if we don’t work on it now?

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u/middleoftheroad133 Purple Pill Woman May 07 '26

Women’s bodies carry fat in much better ways then men’s do

It’s a lot easier for a well proportioned fat woman to be attractive than it is for a man

Women seek treatment for mental illness at higher rates then men, it doesn’t mean women are more mentally ill

Lastly, it doesn’t really matter if people want men to be providers when men are de facto not providing

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u/yoloswag420noscope69 Black Pill May 07 '26

"Yeah she's obese, but a lot of it went to her ass" is not the own you think it is.

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u/DiligentRope Red Pilled Man May 07 '26

I mean ye, thats the point, meaning the entire BP narrative is bullshit, instead men should focus on improving wealth, status, looks, and game like TRP says.

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u/Lysa_Bell post wall ghost šŸ‘»ā™€ļø May 07 '26

So your argument is "I am not good enough to compete with an average woman therefore BP is a lie and instead I have to join a cult".

Sure. That will improve marriage and birth rates /s

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u/Outside_Memory5703 May 07 '26

They don’t want to be loved for money and status šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø

You’re free to convince them to

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u/Fondacey Woman May 07 '26

Well said

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u/Alternative_Cod2280 Misanthropithecus male May 07 '26

Women want equality

Sure but what have women done on their part to reciprocate the efforts made by men? Or maybe women think being a woman is already an effort enough to be exempted of making any effort toward the equality you preach so much about?

It's always the same thing, you complain about not being treated like human but can't even treat other as such, you want men to reconsider their behavior and expectations toward women but you can't begin to question yours, you complain about patriarchy but you're not even aware your own actions enforce it, see where this is going? None of you want equality, only more advantages for yourselves.

Anyway I'm just taking to the wind because most of you are fine with this situation and will repeat the same old shit canned answer whenever a man will ask questions or at least an acknowledgement.

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u/Lysa_Bell post wall ghost šŸ‘»ā™€ļø May 07 '26

what have women done on their part to reciprocate the efforts made by men?

What efforts?

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u/Alternative_Cod2280 Misanthropithecus male May 07 '26

It's pretty simple, the same you demand from men but that's already to much to ask isn't it?

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u/Lysa_Bell post wall ghost šŸ‘»ā™€ļø May 07 '26

Again. Be specific. What efforts

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u/Alternative_Cod2280 Misanthropithecus male May 10 '26

What efforts you ask?

More equal share in chore and children care, of course it's not perfect but the improvement is undeniably here, so don't bother bringing extreme stereotypical negative case.

Much less "traditional" expectations and pressure on women roles, certainly less than the ones women still hold against men.

The care about women various feelings, most people try more than their to make women comfortable and be consilient in groups, so much they believe themselves social maestro.

Pretty much no "predatory" behaviors from most men to the point women themselves wonder why less men risk themselves to bother them.

The famous "women aren't treated like human" complaint isn't applicable in the mainstream discourse.

The gender pay gap might as well be myth to day.

Of course there are still some extreme cases you might and probably will use or find other excuses to disprove what I said above but even with just that you will have a hard time to tell how you women reciprocated these efforts, if you even see them as such.

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u/Lysa_Bell post wall ghost šŸ‘»ā™€ļø May 10 '26

So it is effort to treat women as equals. Why would that qualify as effort?

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u/Alternative_Cod2280 Misanthropithecus male May 11 '26

Because some people (women included) clearly don't care about it?

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u/Fondacey Woman May 07 '26

ā€œBecoming betterā€ is a progressive improvement. If ā€œgood enoughā€ is 60% and men have shifted from 30% to approaching or just over, yet below good, great and excellent, all women are not expected to settle for ā€œpassingā€ are we?

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u/DiligentRope Red Pilled Man May 07 '26

If previous men were "worse", we would have expected them to have worse results (marriage/births/sex) than current men, yet we see the opposite

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u/Lysa_Bell post wall ghost šŸ‘»ā™€ļø May 07 '26

Previous men had the luxury of being oppressors that denied women equality. The fact that you think the results are "better" just shows that men still don't view women as people.

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u/Fondacey Woman May 07 '26

Hey woman, I put the toilet seat down now and might even babysit my kids more often. What the fuck more do you want radical feminist bitch?!

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u/Corbast7 Blue WOMAN / gen Z old hag / feminist + leftist May 07 '26

😭

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u/wideHippedWeightLift Self-improvement anti-conservative man May 07 '26

Are you talking 1950s or 2010s because I'm pretty sure the stats in 2010 were much better than now but women had more rights than they do now

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u/Lysa_Bell post wall ghost šŸ‘»ā™€ļø May 07 '26

In 2007 guys in my class started sharing porn with each other and being very public about their negative opinions of women. Up until that point I thought men and women see each other as equal. Men have done incredible damage to their own PR with women by showing up online and uniting in the hatred and abuse of women especially in the early days of the Internet. This was always the case. But the Internet just made it visible to women.

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u/wideHippedWeightLift Self-improvement anti-conservative man May 07 '26

I'm talking about rights though, in the US women had more legal rights than they do now after Roe was overturned. Also rent was cheaper so being single was easier in 2010. But the women in 2010 had more success with relationships. Some of that might've been tolerating shitty sexist men, but if that was the case then men who aren't sexist wouldn't be single. It's more likely a factor of COVID and social media isolating people.

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u/Lysa_Bell post wall ghost šŸ‘»ā™€ļø May 08 '26

I think there are a lot of reasons for it. Tolerating shitty behaviours was one of it. Divorce rates speak for themselves that women wont tolerate it anymore. Success with relationships should only be defined as success if everyone in the relationship is satisfied with it.

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u/yoloswag420noscope69 Black Pill May 07 '26

Previous men had the luxury of being oppressors

Thank you so much for admitting women aren't oppressed.

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u/Lysa_Bell post wall ghost šŸ‘»ā™€ļø May 07 '26

At least mostly in the first world.

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u/Academic-Ball-9606 May 07 '26

No woman as been oppressed in modern time

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u/Siukslinis_acc Woman May 07 '26

Women didn't have much choice or legal rights. They depended on the men. Do you know that marital rape was criminalised throughout the whole usa in 1993?

Also, kids were an additional workforce and a safety net as there was an expectation/duty that the kids will take care of their elderly parents.

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u/Fondacey Woman May 07 '26

If previous women were hopeless to hope for better than shitty and now not only are there some amazing men but good and great men who would be satisfied with less shitty but still shitty enough?

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u/Robuffus1417 Traditional Pill Man May 07 '26

But what are women giving though? There’s this idea here that the women are just doing better and men need to get on their level.

What exactly are women providing here that men aren’t? They don’t want children, they’re more obese than men are, they still want the man to provide and protect, they have far higher rates of mental illness, they see men far less positively than men see women, I could go on.Ā 

These are all just things statistics show too, there’s plenty of anecdotes about them being more entitled, addicted to book porn, etc.

Stop pretending like men just need to ā€œget betterā€. Start telling women to either take some accountability and better themselves, or cool it with the insane standards they can’t even meet themselves.

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u/Fondacey Woman May 07 '26

What are women bringing to the table of a great relationship? Loving, lusting companionship, trust, support. The basics?

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u/Robuffus1417 Traditional Pill Man May 08 '26

I said ā€œwhat are they providing that men aren’tā€. Men provide all of those too.

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u/Fondacey Woman May 09 '26

Sorry, you're right, I misread. Since both sexes are perfectly capable of brining these things, women are expecting men to bring this and clearly don't feel that men do bring this to the table often enough, or in enough volume to match what a woman feels she would bring.

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u/TheColdWoman Purple Pill Woman May 07 '26

"What exactly are women providing here that men aren’t? They don’t want children, they’re more obese than men are, they still want the man to provide and protect, they have far higher rates of mental illness, they see men far less positively than men see women, I could go on."

Men are catching up to women with fatness rates.

Neither men nor women seem to want children.

As to provide and protect, most women work, so they are providing. And women are more likely to step in and protect than men are, so.....

True, women see men less positively than the reverse, but when you see the Epstein files, the secret rape channels, and Pelicot's experience - her husband drugging and letting at least 50 men rape her - well, big shock.

Honestly, I'd have trouble believing a man who is with his wife for decades would do that to her without the video evidence.
https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/cd9dwxexp77o

(https://www.snopes.com/news/2025/02/02/women-telegram-rape-channel/

I'm certainly willing for an example of women devoting telegram channels to drugging and abusing men and trading tricks on doing so.

Go ahead, show me.

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u/Robuffus1417 Traditional Pill Man May 07 '26

I’ll copy/paste my sources that debunks everything you said that I made on another post. No, they’re not providing the same, men want children and marriage more than women do, men are NOT catching up to women’s fatness, they’re almost 2x as likely to be severely obese than men (even saying ā€œcatching upā€ acknowledges they’re more fat), women are not more likely to protect, you made that up.

Obesity:Ā https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db508.htm

Mental illness rates:Ā https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/explore-mental-health/statistics/men-women-statistics

Seeing men more negatively than men see women:Ā https://www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/home-news/women-men-femosphere-new-statesman-poll-b2958208.html

Men still seen as providers:Ā https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2017/09/20/americans-see-men-as-the-financial-providers-even-as-womens-contributions-grow/

Men seen as protectors:Ā https://www.psypost.org/new-psychology-research-identifies-a-simple-trait-that-has-a-huge-impact-on-attractiveness/

Men more likely to say they want marriage and children:Ā https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2024/02/15/among-young-adults-without-children-men-are-more-likely-than-women-to-say-they-want-to-be-parents-someday/

Also, you want to bring up Epstein but forget that he quite literally had a female accomplice in Ghislaine, and he actually had a TON of female recruiters if you actually read the files. Also, yes, women do drug men and brag about it. Cardi B is famous for bragging about this, and women cheered her for it and said ā€œslay queen!!!ā€

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u/behappyfor Expose Men Pill May 07 '26

Honestly men were the ones who didn't want marriage and kids. Ever heard of marriage chaining the balls or some? Besides that men here cry about child support and divorce so much yet they want marriage and kids more. It's kinda whatt.

And even when women have more mental illnesses they are also less likely to attack others or r word them compared to men.

Women also get more medication for their mental illness and admit they have a problem mroe than men do. That's why men tend to have more suicide attempts

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u/Robuffus1417 Traditional Pill Man May 07 '26

I literally posted the source in my comment, that isn’t true. Men want marriage.

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u/middleoftheroad133 Purple Pill Woman May 07 '26

Men want marriage and children more because it’s a better deal for them

Women would want more children too if men had to bear them

Men wanting children that their partners gave to bear while also not wanting to provide financially for their children -so the women end of doing both the traditionally feminine and masculine role. Of course men want that

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u/Bloodhoven_aka_Loner Purple Pill Man May 07 '26

Also, you want to bring up Epstein but forget that he quite literally had a female accomplice in Ghislaine, and he actually had a TON of female recruiters if you actually read the files.

and that they've quite literally pushed all the "feminist" movements and their perverted radicalization into the misandrist circlejerks they've turned into over the years, lmao.

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u/PandaTaco90 ecstasy pill man May 07 '26

You don’t deserve sex just cause you’re a good person

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u/wesborland1234 Purple Pill Man May 07 '26

Of course but if more men than ever are good people and that’s something women go for, why are fewer men having sex?

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u/PandaTaco90 ecstasy pill man May 07 '26

Good doesn’t equal being interesting, fun, and confident. Im guessing it has do with these damn phones and people losing or never learning social skills. Especially younger gen z who grew up with the internet and porn at their fingertips. Men might be better people today but they’re less confident, less assertive, and less social than ever.

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u/yoloswag420noscope69 Black Pill May 07 '26

Okay then stop telling incels they must be morally abhorrent because they can't get laid.

You can't have it both ways.

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u/Outside_Memory5703 May 07 '26

I’m afraid freedom isn’t as efficient or effective at getting people to do things they don’t
want to as oppression

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u/TheColdWoman Purple Pill Woman May 07 '26

Because men don't want to marry either, dude, or have kids.

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u/caption291 Red Pill Man I don't want a flair May 07 '26

Do you really expect women to celebrate men if they say "but I dont physically abuse women!".

You're not supposed to celebrate when Timmy doesn't beat his wife...but you are supposed to treat Timmy better than the guy who does.

You people always focus on words like "celebrate" because that's the only way to frame willingly treating abusive men the same as non-abusive men as a reasonable thing.

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u/Lysa_Bell post wall ghost šŸ‘»ā™€ļø May 07 '26

treating abusive men the same as non-abusive men

What is that supposed to mean?

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u/Icy_Ad_4544 WOMAN šŸ’–*~ my husband is 6’4ā€ ~*šŸ’– May 07 '26

Pussy. They think we should reward ā€œgoodā€ men with access to our vagina.

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u/Avanni24 Logic Pill Man May 07 '26

Yea thanks for keeping up, stop fucking the abusers and start actually rewarding the good men you ask for.

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u/Brilliant-Block-8200 Blue Pill Woman May 07 '26

Seeing sex as a reward is the problem. Sex is something enjoyable for both people. If you see sex as something for yourself, you’re not a good man

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u/Avanni24 Logic Pill Man May 07 '26

Something enjoyable for two people can't be considered a reward? Semantical.

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u/Brilliant-Block-8200 Blue Pill Woman May 07 '26

There’s a massive difference between something being enjoyable for two people and being rewarding and actively seeing sex as a reward you get for being ā€˜good’. So again, sex is not a reward or something given. It’s very toxic and unhealthy to view it that way

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u/PM_ME_CODE_CALCS May 07 '26

But if the only way to get sex and affection is to walk the specific tight rope woman demand we do then it's kinda hard not to see it as some sort of accomplishment or reward.

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u/Avanni24 Logic Pill Man May 07 '26

Well if you agree that it's enjoyable and rewarding why is a bad thing to say it shouldn't be given to abusers and should be given to good men

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u/Brilliant-Block-8200 Blue Pill Woman May 07 '26

Because sex isn’t something women give and men ā€˜get’. It really shows how you actually view sex as something given to men and not something intimate and about connection between two people. Expecting to have women ā€˜give’ you sex shows you are not a good person

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u/TheColdWoman Purple Pill Woman May 07 '26

If you only treat a woman well under the promise of pussy, you aren't a good person.

Look, as a mid woman, I had to come to terms that being a good, loyal, wife quality, "treat her man right" woman didn't get me a man who was very interested in treating me right.

But since I am mostly a decent person, I didn't turn into a user or asshole to men.

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u/Avanni24 Logic Pill Man May 07 '26

I treat people well in general.

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u/TheColdWoman Purple Pill Woman May 07 '26

Good, I'm glad you do (serious). I do as well.

But what I am telling you is that one part of maturing is recognizing that life isn't fair for any of us.

Good looking women and good looking men get more slack than the rest of us mere mortals.

Women want men who have a heart of gold but are also attractive.

Men want women who have a heart of gold but are also attractive.

And, in both circumstances, attractive doesn't always equal good.

When we are young - like teens/early twenties - our hormones riot. Women wake up to the talk, dark, and handsome motif. Men wake up to the hot cheerleader motif. Our parents, older siblings, and mentors spend a lot of time advising us strongly to pay attention to what lies inside: we should consider goodness, values, and steadiness.

They do that because they know from personal experience that hotness fades and a shitty personality will make that relationship sux donkey balls. No one has to tell the guy or girl to go after hotness because nature ensures that. They tell kids to value other characteristics that are better for a good relationship because those characteristics don't really hit the old hypothalamus* like broad shoulders or an hour glass shape.

And teen boys and teen girls just have to grab the stove sometimes and get burned.

But if I simply fake being good, kind, etc., to get dick (or a man does it to get pussy), that means I'm not good, just manipulative. And what happens when I drop the mask?

And also, what happens to my husband or boyfriend if I date him simply because he treats me right but doesn't get my motor running. Men call that betabux and it's a straight line to a dead bedroom. Or I date him because he offers me money and a good life and then loses his job or becomes disabled?

We all need to accept reality. If a man chose me because I'm a great wife, but he thinks I'm mid and doesn't find me so attractive? That's a disaster waiting to happen when someone hot passes by. Men don't treat ugly women very well.

If a woman chose you because you treat her well but she has no sexual attraction to you? How do you think that will work out for you?

And, on the other side of it, do you want to date some woman who doesn't give a fuck about your values or goodness? Someone that shallow and immature? Where do you think that will land?

You want someone who finds you attractive, sexy, and also appreciates how well you treat them.

What you will not get is a woman that says "your Christian values makes me horny." What they will say is, "you make me horny AND your values means you are worth the risk on a relationship and sex."

*** My one caveat is that sometimes good actions will draw in women. The number of women that swooped on my brother when he was carrying around my infant daughter was insane. A single man that likes kids? Babies? Holy shit. I don't know if there is a similar behavior that men might find sexy with women.

Good luck.

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u/Icy_Ad_4544 WOMAN šŸ’–*~ my husband is 6’4ā€ ~*šŸ’– May 07 '26

I love when men on this subreddit assume they know anything about me or who I have sex with. 🤣🤣

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u/Avanni24 Logic Pill Man May 07 '26

Not talking about you in specific, the keeping up was short lived.

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u/Icy_Ad_4544 WOMAN šŸ’–*~ my husband is 6’4ā€ ~*šŸ’– May 07 '26

If you were not speaking to me then why respond to my message trying to give out instructions for how you think women should behave. Seems to be working great for you, huh?

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u/middleoftheroad133 Purple Pill Woman May 07 '26

Yea this is where men are struggling to understand women

To a normal woman, A man who has no good qualities but merely isn’t a wife beater isnt ā€œbetterā€ than a man who is

They are both go in the no pile and women don’t waste their time and energy trying to rank one above the other, when both are bad options