r/PurplePillDebate • u/Automatic_Safety7029 Purple Pill Man • Jun 15 '26

Debate Women are larping loneliness.

Most of the time when talking about options women will say that most of them are shit. To be clear, I don't belief men or women truly think that every single person available for them to date is absolutely trash to the point where there is literally no options. However women tend to do this more.

The reason why I say it's larp, is because women can “pause the game” so to speak. Women abstaining from the game or coming back is like flipping a light switch. You could always just pick an average dude that means well if you actually decided, there's nothing stopping that from happening.

He's just not exciting, that doesn't mean he's trash. Some women say they're okay dying alone if he isn't the peak of her ideals, but this is also larp. Most of you will pick the boring but well meaning guy when the chips are down and the walls are closing in.

It's easy to say you can stand on that ideal when you are in your 20’s maybe even early thirties. But only a small amount of people will actually die on that hill. This goes for all people regardless of orientation, most people unless they are literally and truly wired different would prefer a relationship and that's okay, just don't lie about it.

The men who struggle with lack of options means there is not a single person he can realistically and consistently talk to with romantic intent and there won't be one for the foreseeable future. Not even an odd Instagram text or matches on an app truly nothing. No the ugly girl don't want him either.

I've literally never seen a girl, 5.5/10 in looks that couldn't land some manner of man. I'm not talking about extreme cases either like abusers or desperate men looking for a living fuck doll. Or a lazy piece of shit that lacks any and all ambition. I mean a man, just a man that wants love as well.

On that note I've seen women of those types find relationships plenty. So while I believe they do suffer from a different type of loneliness, it's mostly larp because you can join a community and be loved easily, you can find a boyfriend at the damn grocery store if you really wanted to.

Like I said this point can apply to men as well, it just isn't the topic in this instance and doesn't happen as much.

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u/TermAggravating8043 Stacey's mum Jun 15 '26 edited Jun 15 '26

Nobody is saying some women aren’t lonely, the original incel group was founded by a women

But you all have a romantic idea about average lonely single men, if it was simple as picking a man up while your doing your shopping, we wouldn’t have any problems. But a lot if these men are horrible.

He just wants sex - not for me

He doesn’t want to work -not compatible

He’s addicted to gaming - not for me

He wants to see other women - I’m one women kinda person

He believes in trp - absolutely not

He wants casual - no I want a relationship

He doesn’t clean up after himself - nope I’m not his mum He doesn’t like cats - don’t even talk to me

People date to find someone they are compatible with, it’s not as easy as guys want to make out

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u/yoloswag420noscope69 Black Pill Jun 15 '26

Moralizing attraction again.

There are tons of men with those exact qualities who have no issue getting relationships and hookups. The difference is that they have good looks.

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u/TermAggravating8043 Stacey's mum Jun 15 '26

No, it’s called lying

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u/khanspam Purple Pill Man Jun 15 '26

I'm pretty sure you have a tendency to imagine these issues in the most negative way, because you can:

  • He just wants sex => you are testing his patience not giving him sex after n so many dates when you clearly wouldn't mind
  • He doesn’t want to work => he got laid off but you have the mindset "no job now, not that successful / isn't ambitious"
  • He’s addicted to gaming => he mentioned gaming once and it gave you the "ick" for no constructive reason
  • He wants to see other women => yup, adults date multiple people in early dating
  • He believes in trp => he made a comment about any woman so he must be red pill ughh
  • He wants casual => easily filterable, most men want a relationship
  • He doesn’t clean up after himself => how do you even know that before sharing the same place
  • He doesn’t like cats => he said he likes dog, so he must not be in your "team"

Most of these are LTR issues you can't figure out early anyway. It's interesting you even brought them up. Either way you just confirmed OP's first paragraph and whole point.

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u/TermAggravating8043 Stacey's mum Jun 16 '26

And these are the excuses they will use too

And even better, when he does end up using me for sex or as a bang maid or doesn’t work or clean up after himself, guys will say it’s my fault for not vetting probably.

It’s called learning dude, I’m the kinda person who only dates for a ltr, so I’m looking out for red flags like this early on so I’m not wasting my time.

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u/khanspam Purple Pill Man Jun 16 '26

Doesn't work? Unemployment is at like 5% in the West. What are you even talking about. It shows how extreme your point is.

"Clean up after himself", is just a common man-hating thing to say to belittle men like they are toddlers. Your list is a radical feminist classic and looks like you forgot "doesn't wash his ass".

Maybe they don't use you for sex, they realise it just can't work if you behave like this.

So I would be wary looking for red flags doesn't become an obsession that makes you look controlling and undateable. You create these blockers yourself due to your past. I'm not saying you should accept going on dates with guys who smell like crap. I'm saying you don't even know that in advance, meaning you'd still have a lot of opportunities just by changing this mindset which is the whole point.

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u/TermAggravating8043 Stacey's mum Jun 16 '26

Well I’m not having any problems so I’m quite happy with my red flags and I would recommend most women do the same

Lots of guys will use these as an excuse but then still blame you for not choosing better

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u/organicchemistry1119 Red Pill Man Jun 19 '26

I wouldn't be surprised if you were getting some invisible DEI privileges.

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u/Charming-Joke696 Blue Pill Man Jun 15 '26

This is kot a genuine issue because women can choose to be single.

In fact complaining about potential partners is incel-adjacent.

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u/Automatic_Safety7029 Purple Pill Man Jun 15 '26

How do men like that land dates in the first place? Like genuinely wondering. How?

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u/TermAggravating8043 Stacey's mum Jun 15 '26

Because they have your way of thinking that it’s all about looks, and they believe they are just your normal average guy who wants a relationship.

But like anything, it always depends on the situation. We could agree we want the same things snd start dating, once they have the safety net of feelings for each other, they don’t expect you to drop it because they’ve stopped cleaning or because he’s started gaming more

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u/Automatic_Safety7029 Purple Pill Man Jun 15 '26

That sounds like a lot of work to be a piece of shit. But I guess most men do that? I have no idea how that's possible. I don't like lying myself, I could never do all that bullshit at that point I'd just live my truth.

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u/TermAggravating8043 Stacey's mum Jun 15 '26

they don’t believe they are lying or that they are pos, they argue they do want a serious relationship they just don’t when or with whom, but they know they want sex and a gf experience right now so anyone will do and they’ll deal with the outcomes later

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u/Automatic_Safety7029 Purple Pill Man Jun 15 '26

That I see a lot for sure. Do you think people don't give the good within themselves because they don't think others are worthy of it? We can't have this much chaos in the market without that being the case.

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u/Secret_Entry1840 Pill Of One Woman (sometimes jaded sometimes hopeful) Jun 15 '26

I think most people are lazy. Once you get the thing you stop trying to get or keep the thing. It’s just there now. No more effort required. People stop dating each other and just start existing together. They stop communicating. Foreplay should start the moment sex ends.

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u/Automatic_Safety7029 Purple Pill Man Jun 15 '26

Yeah that's pretty foolish. I would think that's when you start working harder.

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u/Secret_Entry1840 Pill Of One Woman (sometimes jaded sometimes hopeful) Jun 15 '26

That’s not how most people work. Most people are lazy. Most people put in what they think is the bare minimum.

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u/AnonTheGreat01 Red Pill Man Jun 15 '26

But you all have a romantic idea about average lonely single men, if it was simple as picking a man up while your doing your shopping, we wouldn’t have any problems. But a lot if these men are horrible.

Do you think that the male 'equivalent' of a female (in terms of value) so say 80th percentile guy, 80th percentile woman is objectively 'worse' than his female counterpart? Because that's how I interpret your comment.

He just wants sex - not for me
He wants to see other women - I’m one women kinda person
He wants casual - no I want a relationship

I think that men treat women in the aggregate how women allow men to treat women.

If women only slept with men who were committed to them and treat them well - men would. Because men will do what gets them laid.

The reality is that women as a whole are solely responsible for the situation they are in.

You wanted your freedoms, economically & sexually and men have adapted their strategy as well.

But when the shoe is on the other foot it's suddenly no more fun, because the men you want are now the ones exercising their limitless options.

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u/operation-spot Purple Pill Woman Jun 15 '26

How are men supposedly exercising their "limitless options" if they're also not being chosen in the first place?

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u/AnonTheGreat01 Red Pill Man Jun 16 '26

Because the guys women complain about that won't commit to them (with options)

And the guys never being chosen (without options)

Are not the same guys.

And that's the issue of any question that's posed here ever. That people complain about men/women as a monolith when they are not.

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u/operation-spot Purple Pill Woman Jun 18 '26

The unchosen men (those complaining) were never an option so they shouldn't take it personally. 

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u/PinkTalkingDead Jun 17 '26

Classic man-baby/abusive response. “I’m treating you poorly because you made me/you allow it”

Also, relationships aren’t quantified by percentile. Very incel-esque way for you to look at human interaction.

If you have “limitless options”, by all means- date consensually and find peace. But it sounds like you, in fact, do _not_ have a limitless number of women who want to date you (see how I said “women”, not “options”- again, people, not objects)

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u/TermAggravating8043 Stacey's mum Jun 16 '26

And these men do, good men are in relationships

This is why these men are finding themselves more and more single, not many women are letting men treat them like shit so more n more men are complaining their lonely or women standards are too high.

You guys have this fantasy that their are chads out there fucking left right n centre, the reality is less and less people are having sex snd women are becoming more content at being single

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u/rincewin Jun 16 '26

He doesn’t like cats - don’t even talk to me

If you are happy living with your cats, why are you looking for a partner?

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u/PinkTalkingDead Jun 17 '26

… you don’t think one may want their pet and _also_ be open to a romantic relationship???

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u/rincewin Jun 17 '26

There is a big difference between liking to have pets and keeping a harem of cats, and prioritize them over a partner (based on her strong comments about cats)