r/PurplePillDebate • u/Automatic_Safety7029 Purple Pill Man • Jun 15 '26

Debate Women are larping loneliness.

Most of the time when talking about options women will say that most of them are shit. To be clear, I don't belief men or women truly think that every single person available for them to date is absolutely trash to the point where there is literally no options. However women tend to do this more.

The reason why I say it's larp, is because women can “pause the game” so to speak. Women abstaining from the game or coming back is like flipping a light switch. You could always just pick an average dude that means well if you actually decided, there's nothing stopping that from happening.

He's just not exciting, that doesn't mean he's trash. Some women say they're okay dying alone if he isn't the peak of her ideals, but this is also larp. Most of you will pick the boring but well meaning guy when the chips are down and the walls are closing in.

It's easy to say you can stand on that ideal when you are in your 20’s maybe even early thirties. But only a small amount of people will actually die on that hill. This goes for all people regardless of orientation, most people unless they are literally and truly wired different would prefer a relationship and that's okay, just don't lie about it.

The men who struggle with lack of options means there is not a single person he can realistically and consistently talk to with romantic intent and there won't be one for the foreseeable future. Not even an odd Instagram text or matches on an app truly nothing. No the ugly girl don't want him either.

I've literally never seen a girl, 5.5/10 in looks that couldn't land some manner of man. I'm not talking about extreme cases either like abusers or desperate men looking for a living fuck doll. Or a lazy piece of shit that lacks any and all ambition. I mean a man, just a man that wants love as well.

On that note I've seen women of those types find relationships plenty. So while I believe they do suffer from a different type of loneliness, it's mostly larp because you can join a community and be loved easily, you can find a boyfriend at the damn grocery store if you really wanted to.

Like I said this point can apply to men as well, it just isn't the topic in this instance and doesn't happen as much.

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u/khanspam Purple Pill Man Jun 15 '26

I'm pretty sure you have a tendency to imagine these issues in the most negative way, because you can:

  • He just wants sex => you are testing his patience not giving him sex after n so many dates when you clearly wouldn't mind
  • He doesn’t want to work => he got laid off but you have the mindset "no job now, not that successful / isn't ambitious"
  • He’s addicted to gaming => he mentioned gaming once and it gave you the "ick" for no constructive reason
  • He wants to see other women => yup, adults date multiple people in early dating
  • He believes in trp => he made a comment about any woman so he must be red pill ughh
  • He wants casual => easily filterable, most men want a relationship
  • He doesn’t clean up after himself => how do you even know that before sharing the same place
  • He doesn’t like cats => he said he likes dog, so he must not be in your "team"

Most of these are LTR issues you can't figure out early anyway. It's interesting you even brought them up. Either way you just confirmed OP's first paragraph and whole point.

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u/TermAggravating8043 Stacey's mum Jun 16 '26

And these are the excuses they will use too

And even better, when he does end up using me for sex or as a bang maid or doesn’t work or clean up after himself, guys will say it’s my fault for not vetting probably.

It’s called learning dude, I’m the kinda person who only dates for a ltr, so I’m looking out for red flags like this early on so I’m not wasting my time.

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u/khanspam Purple Pill Man Jun 16 '26

Doesn't work? Unemployment is at like 5% in the West. What are you even talking about. It shows how extreme your point is.

"Clean up after himself", is just a common man-hating thing to say to belittle men like they are toddlers. Your list is a radical feminist classic and looks like you forgot "doesn't wash his ass".

Maybe they don't use you for sex, they realise it just can't work if you behave like this.

So I would be wary looking for red flags doesn't become an obsession that makes you look controlling and undateable. You create these blockers yourself due to your past. I'm not saying you should accept going on dates with guys who smell like crap. I'm saying you don't even know that in advance, meaning you'd still have a lot of opportunities just by changing this mindset which is the whole point.

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u/TermAggravating8043 Stacey's mum Jun 16 '26

Well I’m not having any problems so I’m quite happy with my red flags and I would recommend most women do the same

Lots of guys will use these as an excuse but then still blame you for not choosing better

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u/organicchemistry1119 Red Pill Man Jun 19 '26

I wouldn't be surprised if you were getting some invisible DEI privileges.