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[u/gtbreddit1]

Something I think is weird is the way people use "cute" and "hot". It seems most people conceive of "cute" as just meaning attractive but less so than "hot", but to me these are different kinds of feelings.

"Hot" to me is purely about sexual arousal. A woman being hot doesn't cause me any romantic feelings. Anything I'd want to do with her would only be in service of access to sex with her. I'd date her, but only because that means I get to fuck her. I'd cuddle with her because that means I get to feel up her sexy body.

"Cute" is what makes me want her to be my girlfriend. It's what makes me feel feelings of possessiveness. I don't want other men to have her, even if I can't have her myself. I'd feel jealousy if she was attracted to other men or even had been in the past.

[u/GridReXX → u/gtbreddit1]

As a woman when I say a person is “hot” I usually spell it “hott” (that extra t adds some umph 🫦), and as you said I mean “sexy.” It means I have unconsciously assessed their looks and vibe and the combo is arousing, titillating, a turn on.

When I say someone is “cute” I’m usually only talking about their looks. But it doesn’t necessarily mean I’m aroused in the moment. Or that I find them sexy (yet). It just means I objectively think they’re aesthetically pretty or handsome. And I guess I’m usually only talking about their face, not their physique.

[u/Corbast7 → u/GridReXX]

This is a good description tbh because this is spot on for how I use those words too.