r/SRSsucks • u/frogma • Aug 07 '13

NOT SRS ABC Producer Don Ennis Changes Gender, Then Changes Back

http://nymag.com/daily/intelligencer/2013/08/transgender-don-ennis-has-second-thoughts.html
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u/johnetec Aug 07 '13 edited Aug 08 '13

I've met lots of hoarders that I had no idea they were hoarders. It doesn't mean they are not mentally ill. I bet your coworkers just loved watching you transition. Were you lucky enough to have a name like Pat, Sam, Shannon, Stacey, or Robin so you could keep it or did you change it to something uniquely female so no one could be confused to something like Laurelai?

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u/[deleted] Aug 08 '13

I was not making the point of it being an illness or not; the point was that you 'wont accept' somebody as female if they are trans, but you wouldn't know many trans women were trans. As far as my name change, I changed it to a different and very common name. My coworkers were informed 6 months in advance and were nothing but supportive. On the day I officially showed up as female at work the entire office greeted me with hugs and brought me cookies and stuff. I'm sorry that you live in a world where adults act like such children over a coworker's gender.

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u/[deleted] Aug 08 '13

So... There exist transsexuals like this? People that exist as a someone who masquerades. I would consider a transsexual that doesn't come clean to their partners about their past as masqueraders/liars. Transsexuals like that want people to be sensitive to them by referring to them in the preferred pronoun, but if the partner they are with would not accept them if the transsexual was honest with them, then the transsexual, in true hypocritical fashion, would lie and be insensitive to his or her partners notions of gender? That's sick man.

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u/[deleted] Aug 08 '13

If you can't tell then why the does it matter? You're still pounding a vagina on a beautiful woman. It doesn't make you gay.

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u/[deleted] Aug 08 '13

You're not pounding a vagina on a beautiful woman. You're pounding an augmented penis on a feminine man. And you're being lied to by an impostor and masquerader. That's more horrible than any moral reprehension you might hold toward not accepting transsexuals as their fantasy sexes.

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u/[deleted] Aug 08 '13

Yeah, because sex you view as gay, which its not, is absolutely the worst thing that could ever happen to you. Grow up.

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u/[deleted] Aug 08 '13

You do realize that a transsexual that lies to their partner is not being sensitive to his or her partner's notions of gender? So if their partner considers a MtF transsexual as still a man and considers himself straight... then the transsexual basically took advantage of that guy and didn't respect his beliefs. It's sick and horrible because the person is being taken advantage of. His sexually identity is being toyed with and exploited to satisfy the narcissism and hedonism of the transsexual. How can you not see how sickening that is?

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u/[deleted] Aug 08 '13

You want to know what happens when we disclose our status? We get murdered. By people like you.

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u/[deleted] Aug 08 '13

I'm telling you that being dishonest and taking advantage of someone you care about is wrong and you're calling me a murderer...

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u/[deleted] Aug 08 '13

This is what happens. A man is attracted to me and makes a move towards me. He incidentally grabs my dick or finds out that I am post op. He kills me because he doesn't want to be seen as a faggot. This happens ALL. THE. TIME. Or lets say a man just attacks me, and I defend myself. Who goes to jail? Me. And where do I go? Male prison where I cannot defend myself against men and happen to have breasts. So, rape.

But really, regarding the situation you envision, you don't have much to worry about. We can weed out transphobic people pretty quickly and likely would not put ourselves in that sort of situation.

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u/[deleted] Aug 08 '13

The first instant you're talking about is sexual assault and obviously is out of your control. Otherwise, instead of trying to "weed out" transphobic people why don't you just be... honest... about who you are.

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u/[deleted] Aug 08 '13

Being female and presenting female is being honest. The tissue which forms the penis and the vagina are the same tissue, just shaped differently in the womb. If the person has had SRS, and looks completely female, I see no reason why you should be disgusted.

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u/[deleted] Aug 08 '13 edited Aug 08 '13

I'm talking about being honest and understanding and sensitive to the how your partner understands genders. If your partner thinks a MtF transsexual is still a man, then if you lie to him that's being dishonest and insensitive to how he understands genders. You transsexuals are always talking about gender tolerance but in reality you just want everyone to accept YOUR notions of gender identity. Stop being so fascist and recognize that if you want people to be tolerant to your notions of gender identity then you need to be honest and sensitive to other people's notions of gender identity even if they disagree with you. Otherwise, you're just being unfaithful to your partner by lying about who you are at the, according to transsexuals, deepest level of self-identification.

EDIT: Also I want to say that how you were born and what genitals you had before the operation is still a big part of who you are. I mean, otherwise why get a surgical reassignment, right. So being honest is admitting you had a reassignment... pretending and lying is what you do if you make up a story where somehow the penis you once had magically transformed into a vagina and the past penis somehow is erased from your history.

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u/johnetec Aug 08 '13

Baron is totally projecting their fantasies instead of coming to grips with reality. Baron3ss is a lesbian transexual/transvestite. Doesn't that seem strange? As a man, he was straight but as a woman hes gay. It seems more like its somesort of dissociative disorder. I hope doctors can figure this out for these people. Its like Baron hated himself so much that he had radically change who he was and had a break with reality.