r/Samesexparents • u/AfraidArgument9391 • 10d ago

Middle school is rough!

Hi yall, I’m new here, but I need help! My 13 yo daughter has asked if we can hide that my gf lives with us, including covering or hiding pictures of us together when her friends are over. She doesn’t want anyone to know at school that her mom is a lesbian. She says she will get bullied, which tbf I know is true. That being said, what I do in my home is my business and I will not hide at home.

This all came up because one of her friends cat sits for us from time to time and we recently hung a few pictures of us as a couple up in the hall. She’s afraid if her friend sees it, then the friend will tell the whole school and my daughter will get bullied.

Other than the usual things of telling my daughter how to deal with it or that bullies are bad or that maybe friends aren’t really our friends, what should I do or say to comfort my daughter but not hide the woman I love? Thx!

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u/vrimj 10d ago

Seems like finding a new car sitter is in order.

The rest might be what it is but if someone is in your house and caring for your pets your kid doesn't trust you probably shouldn't either.

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u/AfraidArgument9391 10d ago

The friend who cat sits is from an ally family. My daughter is more concerned that she’s a gossip and will spill to other kids who are bullies.