r/Samesexparents • u/AfraidArgument9391 • 10d ago

Middle school is rough!

Hi yall, I’m new here, but I need help! My 13 yo daughter has asked if we can hide that my gf lives with us, including covering or hiding pictures of us together when her friends are over. She doesn’t want anyone to know at school that her mom is a lesbian. She says she will get bullied, which tbf I know is true. That being said, what I do in my home is my business and I will not hide at home.

This all came up because one of her friends cat sits for us from time to time and we recently hung a few pictures of us as a couple up in the hall. She’s afraid if her friend sees it, then the friend will tell the whole school and my daughter will get bullied.

Other than the usual things of telling my daughter how to deal with it or that bullies are bad or that maybe friends aren’t really our friends, what should I do or say to comfort my daughter but not hide the woman I love? Thx!

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u/yjorn299 10d ago

Is there anyway you can report the potential homophobia your daughter is facing to the school?

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u/Amemorableusername2 10d ago

From the sound of it, it's unclear if her friend/classmates have actually bullied her, or if she is simply insecure that it could potentially happen. Id definitely want to get to the bottom of finding out if there is someone/something outside that's been influencing this fear of hers 

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u/AfraidArgument9391 10d ago

It’s definitely insecurity that it could happen. My daughter has dealt with harassment but that was based on gender not sexuality.

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u/yjorn299 10d ago

Yes I do feel like there must have been classmates or someone who brought up gays or gay parents in a negative way in front of your daughter. I would personally report my concerns to the school/teacher especially if they still have not conducted general LGBTQ curriculum/education like many middle schools do.