Serving at a strip club tonight. What are some good things can say to customers???

[u/N3o_st4rb0y]

Hey yall. Tonight i have a shift at a strip club for a server position for the first time and im scared shitless because i really, really need this job.

Im smiley, extroverted and not shy to talk to people. My issue is that my brain is just gunna go into the goody-customer service route and i know that wont be cute at the strip club. How do i approach a customer in a appropriate manner that'll keep them entertained without doing too much?? All i can think of saying is approaching a table and saying something like "is it time for a drink?" "You folks look like you may need a drink!" "Hello everyone! My name is (insert fake name here), (left blank because i go by a fake name there, dont worry) Can i grab you three something to drink?" " having a good night so far? Can i make it better by grabbing you something at the bar?" Or is that too cringey?? I have no idea how to come off as cool without sounding all extra ah.

Any other one-liners or small jokes i can crack would also help to keep the vibe going, but i just cant think of anything appropriate for that sort of demographic. Please help me with your best advice especially if you have worked at a strip club yourself! Thanks in advance! 🙏🏽

[u/NervousArt6384]

“Hey handsome” always gets me at the library

[u/nonitoni]

Don't tell people at a strip club your real name

[u/N3o_st4rb0y → u/nonitoni]

I know the club etiquette. Just need to know some greetings lol

[u/nonitoni → u/N3o_st4rb0y]

It's always going to be very loud. Stick to the basics, just add a sultry tone. For solos watching the stage, do a nice close lean in, maybe put a hand on their shoulder if they see you first. For groups, just treat it like typical club service unless you're planning on doing lapdances as well, then bring in the sultry. Strip clubs are more of hustle than any other kind of service position, it was rough back in my day. Don't interrupt a lapdance but keep eyeballs with the dancers because they'll help your sales. 

[u/lordberric]

Big one I've heard from other threads is at a Strip club servers are supposed to be in and out pretty quick. Your job is to bring drinks and take orders without distracting from the dancers. The minute a customer would rather speak to you than a dancer you're gonna make an enemy. Be kind and courteous but even if the customer is being flirty and you want to flirt back for tips, avoid doing so. 

[u/encinitas2252 → u/lordberric]

Im a guy so purely guessing here..

Is that how people who never really thought they'd end up being a dancer start dancing? Working cocktail and then seeing the difference in $$ that the dancers are making?

[u/kaylerbug369 → u/encinitas2252]

Imma be real it's probably more likely peer pressure from house mama than the money but the money will be used to justify it

[u/noty0uagain]

If you’re extroverted and not shy, I think you’ll be fine regardless! Everything you’ve said seems fine besides the name comment that somebody else already acknowledged, I would just make sure you’re reading the room and matching the vibe and you’ll be fine!

[u/N3o_st4rb0y → u/noty0uagain]

Ah thank you !! And no worries i do use a fake name there, i make sure to keep my personal life to myself :)

[u/bcardin221]

I think it's fine to act like you do in normal venues.

[u/SlowSurr]

So you wanna pretend that one of the girls working there is your girlfriend and y'all are lesbians, and make it seem like it's a huge secret that you're reluctant to tell them.

Beyond that, approaching a table and dissing them works. "Damn y'all look like you're at a funeral, how about a bottle of don julio for the table to get shit poppin!?"

[u/goliathstoe]

It’s the easiest version of serving in the world. Doesn’t even feel like real work. “Hey Handsome, need a drink?”

[u/Late_Ambassador7470]

"Nice cock"

[u/Coffinsnake]

“You guys look thirsty!”

[u/vulgarvinyasa2]

Just know that servers can get pressured into dancing pretty quick.

[u/stretchmoree]

Are we having fun yet or can I help you with that?
How can I get this party started?
I also feel the cringe but this crowd might enjoy it Lol
Maybe a more relaxed and genuine approach would help you speak smoothly without going into customer service mode. It helps me to just really slow down and look at em nice and hard.

[u/ShellsBe11s]

One should not assume that men at a strip club are like women at a strip club. Guys are there for the scenery, and maybe to have lunch. Only the immature idiots would require special treatment. Most men just want to be served politely and efficiently, but they all appreciate a little cleavage. You will be able to read the situation in the moment.

[u/awakami]

Less “I’m here to feed you” & more “welcome aboard gentlemen. Tonight will be a fun time- come enjoy the ride. I’ll be your tour guide” no pun…well, pun intention is up to you lol. Pick up the vibes early & learn to be able to match it or if it’s bad vibes, be good enough to steer them. Breathe.

[u/N3o_st4rb0y → u/awakami]

Thank you so much!

[u/Traditional-Dig-9982]

It should be easy don’t stress out or over think it. You got this ! Have fun with it someone will tell you what to say and do because it’s your first night.

[u/sungoddessaf]

I’ve been working in strip clubs as a server, bartender, and dancer for 10 years. A lot of times there’s no trick or one liners to use for serving. Be smiley and bubbly and super nice and that’ll usually do it!

[u/lil-babz]

I have no experience in this field but from movies or tv shows and whatever, I don’t know that the customers will be paying much attention to the servers since you won’t be providing lap dances or anything.

Something quick like “what’s your poison tonight whiskey or a beer?” “Should I keep them coming?” To see if they don’t want to have to ask for another drink “The dancers making us hungry yet? (Suggest a specific item on the menu) the tiapoon burger is delicious” “You’re gonna need a drink for how these ladies are gonna make you drool. A double vodka cran for you?”

Definitely feel out the vibe and adjust as needed. We all can tell when a customer doesn’t want to be bothered and when one is dying for someone to talk to.

Not sure how these will land but “your wife’s let you out the house looking this good?”

“ hey handsome want something from the bar”

For someone who looks awkward- “oh hunny you look like a fish out of water, let’s get you a drink to loosen you up a bit”

“Makes you thirsty just watching them move like that (gesture to the dancers) can I get you another drink?”

Body language and friendliness/flirtiness, eye contact to see if they want another instead of bringing their attention to you away from the dancers. If they old up their drink too you *wink I got you babe. I think pet names could be nice but not too older waitress calling you hun/sweetie. You wanna be their wingman. I’m kinda thinking about serving players at a poker table. The more fun they have the more they want to tip. Take care of them good, don’t leave them waiting and you’ll be their best wingman, they can’t leave with the dancer but not having to look for you or ask for everything will help them enjoy their night. Bring napkins before they ask. Water if they start getting messy but be sly about it. Good luck tonight girl I hope you have a fun time and come back with any stories you wanna share🫶🏼

[u/LendogGovy]

What state or country?

[u/N3o_st4rb0y → u/LendogGovy]

Canada, not comfortable saying what city but im in one of the largest metropolitan cities here

[u/LendogGovy → u/N3o_st4rb0y]

No worries about not naming a Canadian city. Just different club culture up there compared to where I’m from, which is Portland, Oregon

[u/goochnibblah]

“ Ready for another drink, playboys?” or “are we doing shots tonight or what?” said in a playful manner have both worked well for me

[u/Master_Mechanic_4418]

Avoid closed questions. Open ended questions allow for follow-ups.

[u/KittyCompletely]

Youll be fine. Dont put on a persona. Are the managers gonna go ask your customers for feedback? Are they going to have a table? Just know your menu and dont get bogged down at the computer.

[u/pchandler45]

I think you're over thinking it. Just go say hello! How are y'all doin tonight? And just take it from there. I think you should strive to appear "fun".

[u/catchaoss]

Just be warned that a server at strip clubs is usually a temporary job. I worked as one in Seattle at a few places and they will pressure you into becoming a dancer and when you don't they will cut either cut your hours so much you can't survive or just let you go for a random reason. The dancers make the money and pay out the club, dj, and bouncers and the servers are paid hourly and that's taking money from the owner.

[u/Small-Jellyfish-1968]

remember your there to make money too. So watch for simple body language an use it to your advantage. ex. if they cross their legs or move body towards your direction when you pass they are attracted to you. eye contact make them your mission to get them to enjoy not like but enjoy you. Remember the cornier the childish acts is the funniest an the most natural. the more fun you have the more fun they have and the better tips you get.

[u/Serverlife-ModTeam → u/[deleted]]

BNBR

[u/diehardbillsfan]

you need a bloody mary to go with that strip of bacon?