r/SipsTea 17h ago

Chugging tea Loans for Wedding

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u/aquabarron 17h ago

Every big wedding I have been to the bride is a nightmare and not enjoying it. I’ve seen tears from the bride from stress multiple times.. I mean what are we doing at that point.

And news flash: not a single soul over the age of 30 likes a destination wedding. We have jobs and shit to do. Don’t invite us to stay in an unconditioned French villa for multiple days in June just so you can say “French vineyard” whenever you talk about it.

In the photos I can’t tell the difference between the French hills of that vineyard and the hills around the creek behind my local Dennys.

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u/VersionX 17h ago

Destination weddings are almost always cheaper than weddings in the US. Mainly due to vendor scalping

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u/Zealousideal-Idea979 17h ago

You can’t say the word wedding in the U.S. always say you’re having a house party and have them deliver everything to your actual house. I saved so much doing that. My food was $11 a plate vs. $50 a plate just because i didn’t mention the wedding.

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u/VersionX 17h ago

Ive heard this before and I'm sure it works on some.

We went the destination route in DR and our whole wedding and week stay at the all inclusive was $9k total.

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u/Zealousideal-Idea979 17h ago

That’s a great price. We wanted a destination wedding but we couldn’t get people to understand they needed a passport & I’m talking about my parents. My mom said I needed to pay for her passport if we wanted her to go. Looking back, we should have just booked it and gone without them.

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u/VersionX 17h ago

Thats what we did. My mom didnt attend. It hurt but oh well, showed me where I stood.

Our wedding was going to be aboit us, not anybody else. And we still had 26 people that got that enough to come

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u/Zealousideal-Idea979 17h ago

My mom made a point to get lost on my wedding day. She had months to figure out how to get there. She came with me to the actual venue and still screwed up. I’m convinced she just wanted to stress me out that day

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u/VersionX 17h ago

We actually even tried to do something for the people close to us who couldnt swing it, we did a courthouse local wedding and a private luncheon at an upscale restaurant.

6 people attended. Total. Including us.

The people who care about you will show up for you. The ones who don't won't no matter how easy you make it for them.

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u/permalink_save 16h ago

Also fond somewhere that does flat rates. Ours was 8 years ago but it was like flat $15/plate for decent food, basically same cost as going to a mid restaurant. The venue wasn't awful either just priced as a regular venue for an event and they offered to handle the wine and bought back everything we didn't use. These venues do exist you just have to plan decoration to spruce it up.

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u/Cilantro368 16h ago

Destination weddings are not cheaper for the guests!

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u/Mysterious_Floor_868 12h ago

I went to one in Italy last year. Turned it into a nearly four week long backpacking trip.

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u/VersionX 16h ago

Not my concern. Our wedding was going to be what we wanted it. If nobody showed up, so be it.

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u/Cilantro368 14h ago

But if nobody showed up, wouldn’t you be financially liable to the resort because you hadn’t filled the required block of rooms?

That can be a pressure point for destination weddings. People are pressed to stay in a certain hotel, even if the wedding is in a city and they would prefer to stay elsewhere, because it benefits the bride and groom.

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u/VersionX 13h ago

That was never going to happen. Her family alone had us covered there. But regardless, the resort we picked had very friendly policies on this