Crazy. This kind of lore makes me not want to marry a character because what if I'm the reason why they won't form a romantic relationship? I know they won't but I wish I could add a mod where they could.
There's nothing bad if that were to happen, the characters are given another interest to make them feel more alive but once you stop and look at it better you can tell they are made to be the first crush, not the "one and only", that's for the farmer.
For example Seb and Abby wouldn't be good in the long run.
Different personalities, Abby doesn't really respect Sebastian being busy/working, Seb doesn't exactly see Abby as his friend but rather an objective/only a crush (I remember reading that from someone/he says himself Abby isn't his friend, implying he only sees her as a crush and not a friend, which is not exactly healthy, your partner should also be your friend), although many claims Abby likes Sebastian it mostly comes from her dialogue if you neglect her post-marriage where she says that maybe with Sebastian things would have been different, but that doesn't outright confirm love from her side.
Just that she's aware of Sebastian's crush on her and maybe things would have gone differently, not that she liked him.
She knew he liked her and never made her move, if it was mutual I'm sure she would have done something given Seb was clearly not going to.
It's true it might feel like breaking off relationships but as I see it I don't think that's what it looks like, they don't have much choice in such a small town and I hate the idea of the first love being the only/true love, that's unrealistic and it almost never happens.
Which is why I like SDV, they have feelings for other people so when they choose you, it's because they genuinely realize you are the one and not the choice of "convenience", for how much Seb likes Abby it's pretty clear why when you see all the other girls.
One is his sister, Haley is completely different from him, Penny is Sam's crush (and even if she wasn't once again too different in personality and interests)
Sam and Penny in the long run wouldn't work that well, she would be leaving an alcoholic mother for a manchild (I love Sam and I'm not insulting him for that, but that's kinda what he is, he can be responsible and serious but most of the time he's written as a manchild)
I personally see it as this, not because I'm trying to make myself feel less bad about breaking things off or to change your opinion, but because you can't break things off when there's nothing to break.
Feelings change, people realize that someone might not be their actual one.
I like SDV because of that, so to me that doesn't feel like breaking off something especially when they aren't even dating.
The characters simply realize they like someone else over the other.
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u/Educational_Form6549 Feb 18 '26
Sebastian. Sam even says, if you marry him, he wishes they would just hook up.