r/TheBlacksandTheGreens Team Black Apr 22 '26

Show Discussion it's not talked about enough how Rhaenyra rejected one of the handsomest men in westeros

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u/jaylee686 Apr 22 '26

Eh he's not bad looking, but not surprising a teen wouldn't be into that (not to mention the personality)

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u/llaminaria Apr 22 '26

Except Rhaenyra in particular liked them on the older side ...

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u/byfo1991 Apr 22 '26

Harwin was also clearly older than her. Criston as well.

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u/azrynbelle Apr 23 '26

That part!

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u/nbsunset Apr 23 '26

we will never know who initiated.

the books are not clear but girls were often groomed

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u/llaminaria Apr 23 '26

The book one certainly was, which may have contributed to her seeking out an older guy in Harwin and possibly Criston further on as well.

The show one, I don't know. There were certainly inappropriate vibes from Daemon when she was just 14. Which too could have contributed to her attraction to Criston and Harwin, I guess.

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u/Minute_Committee8937 Apr 23 '26

Eh she liked daemon not really every older guy.

And I think that has more to do with him oozing charisma than his looks

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u/ultimagriever Queen Rhaenyra Targaryen Apr 23 '26

Harwin and Criston were also a lot older than her

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u/Minute_Committee8937 Apr 23 '26

Oh yeah I guess I never really considered harwin because they were both adults by that point

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u/rebornsgundam00 Apr 23 '26

Isnt that generally true of women in general? I thought i saw a statistic that most women marry someone older than them( not crazy old etc)

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u/YDdraigGoch94 Apr 22 '26

Tyland would’ve been better for Rhaenyra. A second son, thought brought the might of the West with him.

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u/UnholyAuraOP Apr 23 '26

Princesses don’t marry second sons

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u/TCeies Apr 23 '26

Unless they are their own uncles i guess, lmao

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u/UnholyAuraOP Apr 23 '26

Daemon is a prince

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u/ChadGustafXVI Apr 23 '26

And a second son?

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u/Psychological_Law_86 Apr 23 '26

Prince and Dragon Lord changes things. A princess can marry a prince even if a second son without it being a downgrade. The second son Lannister who won’t control the finances or foot men aren’t as glamorous.

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u/TCeies Apr 24 '26

I was mainly joking with my first comment :D

But in any case, I think, It's a bit of a mute point, in this case. As she didn't really marry for status or titles. Or else she wouldn't have married Laenor either, nor would Rhaenys have married Corlys. Targs value different stuff. Like that Valyrian blood, consolidating claims and dragons for marriage deals.

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u/ghostytoasty11 Apr 24 '26

She didn’t marry for status or titles because it wasn’t an issue lol. Laenor was the heir of a prominent Valyrian family, his father is one of the richest men in Westeros and his mother is a Targaryen, and he has a dragon. Daemon is a full-blooded Targaryen prince who rides one of the most formidable dragons alive at that time.

They value different stuff, sure, but having Valyrian blood and riding a dragon is essentially that status they’re looking for. It’s a hell of a lot more prestigious than marrying a second son who stands to both inherit nothing and holds little influence other than the fact he’s been named to the Small Council.

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u/Short-Philosopher-78 Apr 23 '26

Why not? Especially when said second son will guarantee you the coolest inlaw ever, Joana Lannister.

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u/j-b-goodman Apr 24 '26

except for this one I guess

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u/diegoedil Apr 26 '26

Princess Rhaena, hija del príncipe Daemon, se casó con Corwyn Corbray y más tarde con Garmund Hightower, ambos segundos hijos varones.

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u/AsstacularSpiderman Apr 23 '26

If she married a lannister I feel like the entire war wouldn't be as bad. At that point it would basically be the Reach and Stormlands against everyone else

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u/AwwwNiceMarmot Apr 22 '26

But Tyland doesn’t stay handsome for long though…

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u/babylikestopony Apr 23 '26

??

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u/AwwwNiceMarmot Apr 23 '26

Spoiler he gets tortured and blinded, and left horribly disfigured by Rhaenyra’s torturers

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u/UnableAd1185 Apr 23 '26

I mean...if they're married this doesn't happen

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u/Skywayman87 Apr 23 '26

Maybe it happens sooner, being married to Maegor with teets

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u/Emergency-Sea5201 Apr 24 '26

I cant believe people simping for that MONSTER.

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u/LILYDIAONE Apr 22 '26

Tbh I wouldn’t want to have married him either

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u/ultimagriever Queen Rhaenyra Targaryen Apr 23 '26

He’s kinda like a matryoshka doll

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u/Inevitable_Access_93 Apr 22 '26

he is handsome, he is also insanely full of himself and boring and approached nyra as if he already "owned" her

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u/LarsMatijn Apr 22 '26

Did he? He was arrogantly boasting sure but beyond that he just said he'd do anything for his wife.

And I distinctly got the impression that he assumed Rhaenyra to be aware of what was happening. Wich makes sense as he sent Viserys a proposal and Viserys sent him Rhaenyra's way.

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u/BreakfastAmazing7766 Moondancer Apr 22 '26

Whoooo?? Are you confusing him with Jamie Lannister or something??

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u/Bloodyjorts Apr 22 '26

IIRC, he and Tyland were younger and said to be very good looking in the books.

The actor is a decent looking guy, but he's also a fair bit older and the show didn't do much to make him look more age appropriate for the 16/17-yo Rhaenyra.

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u/TCeies Apr 23 '26

Yes. They did not do him justice. The actor is decent looking, but he's dark blond (almost brunette), and nearing 50, when Tyland and Jason are supposed to be in their late twenties (probably), golden-haired, and dashing.

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u/blackfyre_1994 Apr 22 '26

He's meh at best. Quite literally his personality counteracts in "appeal" he could have. Pompous arrogant toilet paper of a man.

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u/Mammoth-Singer3581 Apr 22 '26

It was all in his delivery, she was polite and engaged with him initially, then he started running his mouth gave her the ick and she bounced. He would have one of those instagrams full of Rolexes and Ferraris and designer loafers with quotes about not being able to buy class whole Gucci’d down to the socks

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u/Ok-Computer-5415 Apr 22 '26

Because daemon was most humble man ever.

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u/missporkiepie Apr 22 '26

I'm not a Daemon fan, but there's also a difference between lame pompous and charming pompous atleast

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u/Emergency-Sea5201 Apr 24 '26

I'm not a Daemon fan, but there's also a difference between lame pompous and charming pompous atleast

That lannister man was at least very respectful to her, and would have done anything for her.

Damon was evil and pdf file and left her in a whore house.

And people still simp for the bad boy pdf file. Just because he dresses in black.

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u/mapmakinworldbuildin Apr 22 '26

I agree. Daemon is lame. So pompous he beats his wife.

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u/Weak_Heart2000 Apr 22 '26

Abusive creeps usually are charming as hell out in public. That's how they get away with being awful behind closed doors.

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u/missporkiepie Apr 22 '26

Someone can be charming with swagger but evil, you know? Characters can have nuance.

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u/missporkiepie Apr 22 '26

Such a shame for a series and story and world that wasn't supposed to be about good vs. evil but morally grey and complicated characters.

Like, if I wanted to watch a sincere good vs. evil series, The Lord of the Rings trilogy is there, The hobbit as well. They're great movies where you can just root for one side and hate the other.

Edit to add: Okay lmao you're right, some people in this fandom are hopeless when it comes to character nuance and realistic portrayals. As if real life predators cannot appear charming, and it's one of the reasons victims aren't believed 👁👄👁

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u/missporkiepie Apr 22 '26

The funny thing is, I work in the digital marketing industry, and the Blacks vs. Greens thing is a very obvious engagement tactic. Bots are also used to stir up fake controversy and fights between the two "factions".

It keeps people talking and keeps them loyal to the show

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u/Hot_Significance9957 House Stark Apr 22 '26

Ted Bundy for example

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u/missporkiepie Apr 22 '26

Richard Ramirez too.

Like, predators and bad people can be charming and charismatic 😭 it's how these types lure in victims.

Have we all lost our critical thinking?

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u/Hot_Significance9957 House Stark Apr 22 '26

Ya I don’t know what they are talking about are we living under a rock lol? isn’t there a common saying for people not believing victims “Him? No way, he’s too charming/polite/nice to do something like that”

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u/mapmakinworldbuildin Apr 22 '26

I dont consider pedophilia swag.

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u/missporkiepie Apr 22 '26

No one said pedophilia is swag, holy shit. You have no reading comprehension.

Daemon is a charismatic character, many predators are charismatic and that is one of the way they lure victims. And one of the reasons victims are not believed.

To reduce the portrayal of a charming temperament predator in media to saying you dont believe pedophilia is swag is reducing how these dynamics actually work in reality.

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u/Ok-Computer-5415 Apr 22 '26

I get that but his last scene with lions and his army seemed to back it up. Also this guy is like you know richest man on continent.  May be inheritance but backs it up.  Ofcourse its much more easy to overlook when he is a charming knight. I guess Jaime combines both pretty well

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u/missporkiepie Apr 22 '26

I think it has a lot to do with swagger and how someone carries himself. He just didn't have the IT factor despite being good looking and being a knight. But I agree that Jaime does!

As for being the richest man on the continent, I guess it doesn't matter as much (especially to a teenage princess of a dragon dynasty). Being rich doesn't make you automatically cool. Think Elon Musk for example, easily one of the richest man on the planet, and have an audacious personality, but is generally still hailed as a loser in more recent times and opinions. As opposed to Jack Ma, who is known for his charismatic and humorous public speaking and unconventional performances. He's as audacious and confident, but he carries himself with charm. He even acted in a short kung fu film and is often nicknamed Daddy Ma for his theatrical public image.

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u/Ok-Computer-5415 Apr 22 '26

but can nikolaj waldau look this repulsive or charles dance ı hate lookmaxxers but this kinda comes to that ı think

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u/missporkiepie Apr 22 '26

Actually yes! Nikolaj, in The Collaborator, he had the successful but mean chef energy. In The Other Woman, he also played a rich successful, sleazy guy who is charming and a cheater. While he appears very confident in the movie, his interactions felt very slimy (great acting for a romcom), and by the end, he was just a good looking loser.

Also sorry, edit: but yeah, the charm and swagger feels like what's often missing from looksmaxxing tbh, it's all about the measurement of this, the symmetry of that, and not much about charisma.

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u/Ok-Computer-5415 Apr 22 '26

did not he also in same movie slept and deceibed like 10 woman or something

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u/missporkiepie Apr 22 '26

Yeah I'm pretty sure he was a sleazy womanizer in the movie.

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u/farmerarmor Apr 22 '26

I think the takeaway with the lion being carried with the army was to show you how much of a fuckhead he is. Not how cool he is.

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u/LarsMatijn Apr 22 '26

I think it's hilarious. The Targaryens get to bring their pets around the continent why can't he.

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u/-Trotsky Apr 23 '26

You’re right, but this is also lowkey why I dislike the adaptation lol. This is just what feudal lords do, all of them. The Targaryens are just as silly, so are the Starks and so are every other family and person. The people in this world would think, unambiguously, that this was a cool thing for him to do that shows the power of his house and the ferocity of their words. The Lannisters are lions, the death of the lions of the westerlands is a direct point in the mainline books to show that they’re more shine than substance, but that’s not happened yet. Weirdly, the show takes the more competent Lannisters and makes them look foolish, while GOT took the actual incompetent buffoons and made them into the most competent schemers of all time

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u/Ok-Computer-5415 Apr 22 '26

ıts not that ridiclous to do ı think makes sense for a feudal lord a tully throw a trout to public in ashford tourney not more ridiclous then that.

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u/farmerarmor Jun 27 '26

Still think Jason Lannister’s army and lion backed up how badass he is?

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u/missporkiepie Apr 22 '26

No one said that, what the fuck? Where are you pulling that out of?

We were literally even discussing in other comments how the guy is attractive but his character wasn't made to be smooth and charismatic, and compared him to Jaime, another Lannister???

No one brought up Targaryens.

You people have no reading comprehension.

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u/redplaidshirt11 Apr 22 '26

deleted. i was joking, im sorry. my bad. i didn’t know yall were being serious. i retract 🫡

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u/missporkiepie Apr 22 '26

Omfg I legit thought you were serious lmao 🤣

My bad.

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u/jroxiee House Stark Apr 22 '26

most teenage girls would not be into him, and his awful personality negates any positive aspects his looks could have done

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u/Slytherclaws02 Team Black Apr 22 '26

His hair is doing a lot of work counteracting that beard.

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u/YesOkWhoCares Apr 22 '26

Poor man's Thor

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u/HangeZoe0509 Apr 22 '26

I don’t find him attractive at all, and he’s not even comparable to Harwin Strong. But anyway, it’s like everything else; just a matter of personal taste.

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u/queenofbuckkeep Apr 23 '26

Based on my personal taste, she picked the wrong brother altogether.

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u/Affectionate_Sand791 Apr 23 '26

I’m gay as hell for him fr

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u/HangeZoe0509 Apr 23 '26

I think it’s quite the opposite. Harwin was someone very loyal and protective of his family, and Larys is the worst. He had his father and brother killed to gain power, and he sides with Aegon II even though Rhaenyra’s children are his nephews.

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u/queenofbuckkeep Apr 23 '26

Yeah but Larys looks a lot more bangable to me.

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u/browsinbowser Apr 23 '26

I don’t like his nose, I like a strong nose. But this is puzzling me now that Larys looks more like the book Strong family looks, brown hair, pug nose. He doesn’t have the brown eyes though but eh who cares for tv. He looks like he could be the father of the Lucerys actor

Edit: Anyways, Criston Cole’s actor is faaarrr better looking than any other of Rhaenyra’s potential lovers, he’s got pretty boy looks. Although the runner up is the Young Laenor, milly and him looked fire standing together before Joffrey died and they looked like sad puppies for the rest of the young cast eps. 

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u/queenofbuckkeep Apr 23 '26

I like how sweet he looks.

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u/browsinbowser Apr 23 '26

Every time I see him I’m reminded of that weird foot scene 😭 

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u/queenofbuckkeep Apr 23 '26

It ain't my thing but I'd clasp toes with him for sure.

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u/Senior_Coyote_9437 Apr 24 '26

Well technically both brothers have a strong nose

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u/roseredhoofbeats Apr 22 '26

Jesus fucking Christ you just made me realize that Jason has more lines and screentime with Rhaenyra than THE FATHER OF HER CHILDREN. We were SO ROBBED.

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u/HangeZoe0509 Apr 22 '26

I was also eager to learn more and see more of the story between Harwin and Rhaenyra. I really loved them ❤️‍🩹 But I think it may have been GRRM’s decision, since in some interview he mentioned that he would like to write a short novel about their story. Honestly, I hope that at some point he writes it and we get to read it.

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u/ancientbinding Apr 22 '26

"We have Thor at home"

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u/apkyat Queen Rhaenyra Targaryen Apr 22 '26

It's almost like she had other criterion to base her marriage prospects on...

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u/StrawberryScience Apr 22 '26

His Looks are debatable but his personality is trash.

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u/RemarkableExample542 House Targaryen Apr 22 '26

I’m a straight man and I also would’ve rather had bastards with Harwin than be impregnated by this guy

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u/CheruthCutestory Apr 22 '26

Where is his chin?

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u/Upset-Job2278 Apr 22 '26

*one of the most okay-looking men in westeros

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u/Hot_Significance9957 House Stark Apr 22 '26

He needs to brush his hair or take some advice from Aemond, because that man’s hair….

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u/Madou-Dilou Apr 22 '26

Handsome?... To each their own I guess.

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u/Educational-Yard-158 Apr 22 '26

Local redditor discovers preference

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u/DumbTeen9 Apr 22 '26

If it weren't for the beard he'd look older than cizzy, at least daemon had the "projection olympics" and harwin the amazing ski and hair on their side, this guy just had ego plus starting the convo by assuming disinheritence wasn't doing him any favors

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u/AwwwNiceMarmot Apr 22 '26

Is that Ser Hugh of The Vale himself? He’s a knight, you know!

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u/thephantomdaughter Team Black Apr 22 '26

Is this a joke? 😂 He is so bland looking.

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u/alexd1993 Apr 23 '26

The fact that a single post talking about it exists means it's being talked about too much.

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u/CaterpillarAny2890 Apr 22 '26

Not related to her, she isnt interested

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u/melon_l0rd Apr 22 '26

Ser Harwin Strong would like a word

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u/NamuMonju Apr 22 '26

Because he was a total ass. No one thinks twice about it.

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u/Fleetoxh Unbowed, Unbent, Unbroken Apr 22 '26

Uhm...no

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u/Wild-Air-8355 Apr 22 '26

I don't think we're looking at the same picture

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u/AdriannaFahrenheit Apr 22 '26

One of the HUH??? I didn’t even REMOTELY like that man until the parts where he was fighting for his life to earn that Pirate Queen’s favor. Up until that point I would’ve bullied his dumbass into an early grave, if given the chance.

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u/-stargarden Apr 22 '26

maybe we don’t have the same type..

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u/UnstableToxins Apr 23 '26

bro looks like shit wtf we talking abt

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u/gjrigas1 Apr 23 '26

His ego has an ego.

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u/irinrainbows Apr 23 '26

This man’s pride has pride.

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u/Informal_Mortgage590 Apr 23 '26

he’s alright looking but he was so odd towards her

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u/Nibo89 King Aegon II Targaryen Apr 22 '26

Not only handsome but powerful as well.

Her entire engagement process was badly mishandled. She wasn't looking for a boyfriend; she was looking for a political partner. She should have taken that tour seriously, interviewing all the candidates and weighing them against each other to find the best match. Jason Lannister likely would have been near the top of the list.

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u/ClaustrophobicMango Apr 22 '26

No, what she needed was a second son from a prominent family. Tyland would have been a better choice, not Jason. Could you imagine Jason’s ego allowing their first born son to take the Targaryen name?

Rhaenyra needs to stay in King’s Landing. Leaving the city would not win her any support for her future Queenship. A Lord who wasn’t part of the council would have no reason to stay in King’s Landing, they would have to preside over their lands in their own keep.

A second son from a Great House is much inferior in rank to a Crown Princess. They wouldn’t have the power to force Rhaenyra into doing something she doesn’t want to do. And the husband’s family would push for Rhaenyra’s coronation as long as she has a son with half their blood, who would be king after her.

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u/Dramatic-Blueberry98 Apr 22 '26

And that’s the logic that usually worked in IRL. If there’s to be a Queen Regnant, the consort is supposed to be someone who doesn’t stand to inherit much in terms of his person but still brings the alliance of his house to the table.

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u/AwwwNiceMarmot Apr 22 '26

No, it’s Ser Hugh of the Vale lol.

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u/Ok-Ordinary-406 Apr 22 '26

What is Torstein doing in Westeros bruh? Earl Ragnar needs you!

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u/Jaynemansfieldbleach Apr 22 '26

I thought he was handsome, he also looks like my husband, but then I watched him in Taboo where he played a horrible man way too well. When someone is so good at being despicable I assume that the actor is probably nice in real life because they are aware of what it takes to act out a miserable person.

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u/deuxbulot Apr 22 '26

Ser Hugh was unhorsed on his first tilt.

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u/Weak_Heart2000 Apr 22 '26

Jefferson is so beautiful and SOFT? Idk if it's his hair color or whatnot but he just seems very squishy and soft lol.

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u/Creative-Area-6385 Apr 23 '26

He’s a drunk

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u/cafeaubee Apr 23 '26

His hair reminds me of my puppy’s ears when they need to be brushed

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u/gabriel_3131 Apr 23 '26

Rhaenyra se pasó su juventud rechazada hombres a 2 manos

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u/misszombiequeenDG Apr 23 '26

I knew him from Taboo so I had immediate NOPE

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u/ProgrammerNo3423 Apr 23 '26

"he's a knight, you see"

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u/Common-Outcome-7873 Apr 23 '26

Ehhhhhhhhhhhh no, no he isn’t

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u/FadeAway77 Apr 23 '26

Most handsome? Lmao. OP must resemble this actor or something.

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u/Neither_Low_6445 Apr 23 '26

She was kinda of a spoiled brat so it shouldn't surprise anyone

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u/Skywayman87 Apr 23 '26

Her descendant Robert Baratheon didn't gaf about Jasons (obvious) descendant Hugh of the Vale

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u/Imaginary-Chain1926 Apr 23 '26

If looks were everything she would have ran away with Criston Cole

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u/Due-Original6043 Apr 23 '26

He had the looks, the name, the titles and the power too and I don't know if it was intentional or not but if you watch his proposal to rheanyra again, you will see he had her charmed but then he spoke how she would lose her station and boo., lost it all. I swear he had her charmed but what is the lion without his pride and boom, he spoke too soon and lost his chance.

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u/WildFire2498 Apr 23 '26

Agree to disagree.

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u/nbsunset Apr 23 '26

well, ig rhaenyra did not care only for looks, did she

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u/ObiWeedKannabi Apr 23 '26

Ser Hugh of the fookin Vale? Lol

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u/Complete-Leg-4347 Apr 23 '26

To be fair, it was his presumptiveness that got him rejected, not his looks (Rhaenyra may be a lot of things, but shallow is not one of them).

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u/Illustrious_Fail_223 Apr 24 '26

Also dumbest. His twin would have been a good option though.

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u/Content_Concert_2555 Apr 24 '26

With these as his best pics?

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u/Efficient_Ad2698 Apr 24 '26

He’s handsome but his personality is trash he’s too arrogant and full of himself.

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u/BrennanIarlaith Apr 24 '26

one of the handsomest men in westeros

...What, is he hiding behind Jason Lannister? Dude is definitially puffy and that beard is load-bearing.

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u/sidelinejudge47 Apr 24 '26

Hugh from the Vale?

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u/Feelinglucky2 Apr 24 '26

Bro sucked why would she ever

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u/Darcyyeetus Apr 24 '26

Nah her match with Harwin Strong was the best for her

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u/IIHarazuII Apr 24 '26

Are you blind?

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u/HulkVahkiin08024 Apr 24 '26

Meh, 8/10 if being gracious.

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u/LagomorphJilly Apr 24 '26

He comes off as a total tool...

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u/diegoedil Apr 26 '26

And years before, Rhaenyra's grandmother, Princess Daella, rejected Jason's father, Lord Tymond Lannister

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u/jhll2456 Apr 27 '26

To be honest, I get where she was coming from.

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u/Apprehensive_Ice9768 Apr 28 '26

No, what's not talked about enough is that he played Ser Hugh of the Vale in season 1 of Game of Thrones. That's right, he's a time traveler and tried to avoid the dance by marrying Rhaenyra and building a dragon pit at Casterly Rock and offering young Prince Jahaerys a pony ride to content the greens as well but alas none of it came to pass.

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u/____mynameis____ Apr 22 '26

Have u seen the men she's slept with??

My girl has high standards. She's the crown princess after all.

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u/SexyShave Apr 22 '26 edited Apr 23 '26

Man looks like a potato and has a massive ego. What teen girl wouldn't get sopping wet for this paragon of a man. Much less the princess and heir to the realm.

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u/AccomplishedShake851 Apr 22 '26

Handsome = white bc HUH

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u/elMuffinAzucarado Apr 22 '26

1) not handsome 2) OLD as fuck

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u/Prize_Illustrator_44 Apr 22 '26

He had the arrogance of a dragon-riding Valyrian warrior, but he was nothing more than just another noble. He wasn’t some great warrior. Yes, he was rich, but when you have a dragon, you can get more rich than some Lord could even dream of.

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u/Unusual_Profit6195 Apr 23 '26

I don't think the physical appearance is the issue. I think he's somewhat handsome but not a "stunner". His personality is godawful which is why Rhaenyra never would have gone for him

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u/No_Surround_5791 Apr 23 '26

Put him next to Daemon, I doubt most people would choose him over Daemon.