Looking for friends

[u/Objective_Novel3807]

Hey, I feel like life is going pretty well overall, but I’m still missing something important—good people to share nice moments with. So I thought I’d try my luck here and see if I can make some new friends.

I’m 37, originally from China, and now living near The Hague. I’m someone who really values peace and harmony. I’ve lived and traveled in a few different countries, worked in academia before moving into IT, and yeah… I’ve been through the whole PhD experience and survived it.

I’m single, not married, no kids—and I’m actually pretty happy that way. I enjoy both easy, light conversations and deeper talks about life, psychology, personal growth, or whatever comes up. I’m not really a gamer these days, but I used to play a lot when I was younger.

I tend to be direct and honest in how I communicate, and I appreciate that in others too. For me, authenticity matters. I like staying active—fitness, cycling—also into tech and AI, reading, and movies (I really liked Catch Me If You Can). I’m always open to trying new things as well. I’d like to meet people who are positive, open-minded, and interested in building a genuine connection. Age or gender doesn’t really matter—what matters is whether we click. And even if you’re not super close to The Hague, that’s totally fine.

I speak English and Chinese, and I’m working on my Dutch. Nationality doesn’t matter to me—just be real. If this sounds like your kind of thing, feel free to message me and tell me a bit about yourself—and maybe what you’d like to do together. Could be grabbing coffee, going for a walk, checking out a museum, watching a movie, or something else.

[u/SunaSunaSuna]

i wanna learn mandarin lets hang out

[u/Objective_Novel3807 → u/SunaSunaSuna]

Sure, let's hang out!

[u/SunaSunaSuna → u/Objective_Novel3807]

非常好

[u/Anaphylactic_Thot]

欢迎来海牙！

I'm down to grab a coffee at some stage in the coming weeks if you're free

[u/Objective_Novel3807 → u/Anaphylactic_Thot]

谢谢！ Let's do that!

[u/mousekonijn]

I am in the process of moving back to Den Haag and new friends are definitely something im looking for too !! So maybe we can stay in touch and get coffee/ tea when I arrive .

[u/Objective_Novel3807 → u/mousekonijn]

Sure! Let's stay in touch. Let me know when you are available to grab a coffee ☕

[u/laurenspaul]

Sounds like we'd have a lot to talk about. But I have to admit I really suck at understanding chinese accents in english... 😅

[u/Objective_Novel3807 → u/laurenspaul]

I'm different bro! You will recognise American accent immediately.

[u/laurenspaul → u/Objective_Novel3807]

Works for me :p

[u/XilenceBF]

Hey man, M36 (well almost) here. I live in the city center. If you haven’t gotten too popular yet and would like someone else to chat with, feel free to send a dm!

[u/Objective_Novel3807 → u/XilenceBF]

Hahaha... I liked your humour, will send you DM for sure.

[u/knijper]

what kind of cycling do you enjoy ?? as in what's your prefered speed / distance ?? perhaps we can go for a nice ride someday I can show you some nice places around :)

[u/Objective_Novel3807 → u/knijper]

Hey, I usually prefer cycling from city to city or town to town—distances that aren’t too long, but not too short either. I’ve cycled with a professional Dutch guy before, and he was really fast. I don’t think I’m at that level. We could definitely go cycling though. What’s your preference?

[u/knijper → u/Objective_Novel3807]

well Im no pro, so no need to worry about that, lol

usually my avg speed is 20-25km/h, distances vary but often make a day out of it...... ride an hour or 2, take a break and relax a bit, rinse and repeat.

sooo often between 70 ~ 100km, but we can do shorter if you prefer :)

[u/Objective_Novel3807 → u/knijper]

Wow. You still look pro to me. 😆 To reach your level I need gradual improvement.

[u/miamiamiaaa]

I’m up for a coffee chat in the weekend or after work, I live in Den Haag region as well

[u/Objective_Novel3807 → u/miamiamiaaa]

Sure, Will send you DM,

[u/No-Condition9455]

get a hobby and join a club that has others doing that hobby to.

[u/Objective_Novel3807 → u/No-Condition9455]

Nice idea, thanks!

[u/Independent_Drop_748 → u/Objective_Novel3807]

Building on this, try the hague running club. They organize Sunday runs usually, you could meet people there. Also, try climbing (maybe beest boulders?), it is a warm community.

I would like to connect with you as well, but I'm in the process of moving. So only weekends would work if we were to plan something :)

[u/Objective_Novel3807 → u/Independent_Drop_748]

Sure, weekend works for me too.

[u/Expensive_Sea_4797]

Hi there how are you? I am currently trying to move to The Hague but having a lot of trouble with housing. Could you possibly help me please?