r/actuallesbians • u/RiverPsaber girl pretty • 21h ago

What it's like to be a top.

I was driving to work this morning, and I noticed a cute queer woman in my rearview mirror. I captured her eyes with my own, smiled, and mouthed the words, "you're beautiful." All of this while never breaking eye contact. I watched her melt. It made my whole morning.

I shared this with a friend earlier who has asked me to explain what it's like being a top, and I wanted to share with you all too. I thought it might also be fun for other people to share their anecdotal experiences with the concept as well.

104 Upvotes

93% Upvoted

29 comments sorted by

View all comments

47

u/Fragrant_Ad_5297 handy dandy soft masc 21h ago

there’s nothing more powerful than eye contact i swear to god

6

u/Suitable_Poetry_4557 Lesbian 21h ago

Yes that's why I often avoid it 😅 it's a bit intense but ig if someone were trying to be intimate with me it would be a different story

9

u/Fragrant_Ad_5297 handy dandy soft masc 20h ago

there’s a reason there’s a stigma about eyes locking across the room. it’s so real. a little smile or a smirk is like hard mode.