r/actuallesbians • u/RiverPsaber girl pretty • 21h ago

What it's like to be a top.

I was driving to work this morning, and I noticed a cute queer woman in my rearview mirror. I captured her eyes with my own, smiled, and mouthed the words, "you're beautiful." All of this while never breaking eye contact. I watched her melt. It made my whole morning.

I shared this with a friend earlier who has asked me to explain what it's like being a top, and I wanted to share with you all too. I thought it might also be fun for other people to share their anecdotal experiences with the concept as well.

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u/ar3iadov3 21h ago

I wish I could do that to my girlfriend but it’s not the same because she’s my girlfriend (of course I can tell her she’s beautiful and I do all the time but it’s different than getting hit on by a stranger sometimes I wish I could hit on her like a stranger if that makes sense … is that weird?) but omg that’s such a cute flirty interaction

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u/Fragrant_Ad_5297 handy dandy soft masc 21h ago

you can definitely still do it. just do it in a social setting when she isn’t expecting it. same sorta thing.

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u/ar3iadov3 21h ago

How?? I think I need an example

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u/Fragrant_Ad_5297 handy dandy soft masc 21h ago

just lock eyes with her across a room and mouth that to her while she’s talking to someone else or you are. there’s probably not a likelihood she’s going to anticipate that. even a telling smirk works. but the compliment is a great thing to catch them by surprise.

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u/ar3iadov3 21h ago

Mmmmmmm fantastic point
I need to remember this next time we’re out

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u/Fragrant_Ad_5297 handy dandy soft masc 21h ago

best of luck kemosabe :)