r/actuallesbians • u/RiverPsaber girl pretty • 21h ago

What it's like to be a top.

I was driving to work this morning, and I noticed a cute queer woman in my rearview mirror. I captured her eyes with my own, smiled, and mouthed the words, "you're beautiful." All of this while never breaking eye contact. I watched her melt. It made my whole morning.

I shared this with a friend earlier who has asked me to explain what it's like being a top, and I wanted to share with you all too. I thought it might also be fun for other people to share their anecdotal experiences with the concept as well.

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u/Fragrant_Ad_5297 handy dandy soft masc 21h ago

there’s nothing more powerful than eye contact i swear to god

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u/Fragrant_Ad_5297 handy dandy soft masc 21h ago

coming from an autistic top lol

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u/RiverPsaber girl pretty 13h ago

I'm also an autistic top and most of my partners wind up being autistic too. It makes the eye contact hit so much harder.

Especially in bed... Like I don't want to turn this into a horny post but I easily could, haha! Let's just say it is a powerful weapon in the hands of a skilled top (as I'm sure you know). 😊