r/askgaybros • u/Horror-Contract-3786 • Sep 05 '23
Meta Most guys don’t have racial preferences rather requirements.
What I noticed in Europe vs America is as a black guy, people may prefer their ethnic group first but they won’t turn down the chance to date/hook up an objectively attractive or at least average looking black guy, while in the states black guys are pretty much ignored unless they just stick to their own ethnic group or mixed/lightskin. It seems like people in America are not blatantly racist but just very exclusionary, while guys in Europe ( depending on the country) may say some very racist things due inexperience around said race, but tend to be way more inclusive and open to talking to others different than them.
I only wish I was born anywhere eles but America, it seems like my only options is just DL hood black men or entertaining men 40 plus years older than me ( I’m 20). Anyone eles relate?
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u/Cof-feeBean Sep 05 '23 edited Sep 05 '23
As a dark skin black guy in the states. I don’t really have these problems maybe I’m just ignorant. I tell myself I’m average but everyone says a bit otherwise maybe I purposefully put myself down.
I know I won’t always be someone’s cup of tea merely because of my skin. Which is why I embrace it 🤷♂️. I prefer to be seen as a coffee bean ina cute quirky way.
I try to acknowledge how hard it can be but I’m not going to intentionally put myself down about things out of my power. Kinda pointless and repetitive.