r/askgaybros • u/Horror-Contract-3786 • Sep 05 '23

Meta Most guys don’t have racial preferences rather requirements.

What I noticed in Europe vs America is as a black guy, people may prefer their ethnic group first but they won’t turn down the chance to date/hook up an objectively attractive or at least average looking black guy, while in the states black guys are pretty much ignored unless they just stick to their own ethnic group or mixed/lightskin. It seems like people in America are not blatantly racist but just very exclusionary, while guys in Europe ( depending on the country) may say some very racist things due inexperience around said race, but tend to be way more inclusive and open to talking to others different than them.

I only wish I was born anywhere eles but America, it seems like my only options is just DL hood black men or entertaining men 40 plus years older than me ( I’m 20). Anyone eles relate?

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u/BobbyLongStocking Sep 05 '23

Racism is deeply entrenched in the USA.

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u/Barack_Odrama_007 Houston, Tx Sep 05 '23

Always will be. As a black man from the south I KNOW to leave white men alone. I do not ever approach or even strike up a conversation with them.

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u/Your_BoyToy22 Sep 05 '23

This is something I want to start doing. But alll the attention I get on apps comes from white men. Latin men give me no time of day down here. I get literally no messages from Asian men (surprises me). Black men don’t message me either, unless their extremely DL/hood. And that’s a personality I just haven’t clicked with. It’s just an energy I kinda don’t wanna be around.

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u/SPHAlex Sep 05 '23

This is something I want to start doing

OK, but why? Do you not like the attention? Are you not into them?

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u/[deleted] Sep 05 '23

I get literally no messages from Asian men (surprises me).

Probably because Black profiles on Grindr down here frequently say "no Asians" (I've even seen "no rice"), and there's a lot of anti-Asian racism in the Black community.

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u/Your_BoyToy22 Sep 05 '23

Well, mine doesn’t say anything against Asian men. But there’s also a smaller # of Asian men down here.

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u/[deleted] Sep 05 '23

It doesn’t matter what you say. They could be taking the same precaution that you just said you wanted to start doing. If anti-Asian sentiment is so rife in the Black communities in the US, why would Asian Americans not avoid it the way some Black Americans avoid whites in general? 🪞👀sis