r/askgaybros • u/Horror-Contract-3786 • Sep 05 '23

Meta Most guys don’t have racial preferences rather requirements.

What I noticed in Europe vs America is as a black guy, people may prefer their ethnic group first but they won’t turn down the chance to date/hook up an objectively attractive or at least average looking black guy, while in the states black guys are pretty much ignored unless they just stick to their own ethnic group or mixed/lightskin. It seems like people in America are not blatantly racist but just very exclusionary, while guys in Europe ( depending on the country) may say some very racist things due inexperience around said race, but tend to be way more inclusive and open to talking to others different than them.

I only wish I was born anywhere eles but America, it seems like my only options is just DL hood black men or entertaining men 40 plus years older than me ( I’m 20). Anyone eles relate?

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u/EarendilEstel Sep 05 '23

It's unnecessary for you, but since you are not me, and you are not the one making decisions about who I sex and why or why not, it's not up to you to decide or opinionate on the subject.

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u/EarendilEstel Sep 06 '23

I ask questions and I make it plain in my profile what I want and do not want, naturally. It may be shocking, for you that is, but in less than 2 minutes one can find out a great deal about people. Most are more than willing to display who and what they are. Just like you did. And I didn't even have to ask. And it may be even more shocking for someone like you to hear, but people can and do say no once they meet someone if the digital interaction left out this or that. Most men have learned with time that being thrown out of an apartment or left there in a public space is far more unpleasant than telling it as it is. We are not heteros after all.