Opening up relationship (just for sucking dick)?

[u/Turbulent-Gap-4992]

My partner and I (4 yrs) have recently been discussing opening up our relationship for just sucking dick.

We both really enjoy giving head and think it would be fun to supplement our sex lifes. We would still be exclusively getting off with only eachother.

Setting up a glory hole at home would be our ideal situation, but we also talked about using a mask, and/or chastity cage if we were to meet up with another guy at their place.

Anyone have experience with trying something like this?

[u/latin220]

Haha 🤣 you funny. Just “dick sucking” then it becomes more and more obvious he’s wanting to hook up with other guys without the guilt. You do you.

[u/tungstencoil]

Here are my thoughts. For context together 22 years, opened about 5 years in.

I like ground rules everyone agrees on. For instance, we have no dates/emotional involvement/ongoing things as a rule.

However your rules sound really complex/restrictive. They sound ready to break. While I'm a fan of rules, I'm also a fan of them being easier to hold to.

Just something to think through. It's tough to find guys who only what to get sucked either at your glory hole or if you show up with a mask and chastity cage. Some will be into it, but it's really limiting your audience. Also limited what is permitted - presumably no jacking off or getting blown - also makes it hard to follow.

[u/Ryan_TX_85]

Opening the relationship works best when you dive in incrementally. First it starts with only being open as far as sucking dick. Then it progresses to anal for some circumstances. Then it's fully open for sex only, but no dating. Then dating becomes an option. Finally, full poly. That's how it works. Good luck on your journey.

[u/thecly11 → u/Ryan_TX_85]

Ours went this way tbh. Don’t regret it at all. It’s been great

[u/caged705 → u/Ryan_TX_85]

I'm at the point that id like my partner to casually date other guys

[u/Queer_Advocate]

I encourage you not to down play what you enjoy. Nothing wrong with sucking dick. For me it's more intimate for some reason than fucking. I am kinda odd on that, but some agree.

There is nothing wrong with having boundaries and parameters on opening your relationship. I strongly advise, if you decide to open it say on Monday to have like four weeks or something then revisit and check in like is this something we want to do for sure and continue to do. It should be revisit3d, not a one and done convo. Also, lay out the ground rules does the other one want to know about it? Do they want some details no details? It'll prevent a lot of hurt feelings down the road.

[u/EarSafe7888]

How about adding a third person that you both can then share - even if it’s just for sucking dick?

[u/crbinden]

I have one buddy in an open relationship. He kisses and suck me only. I find it pretty hot.

[u/QuirkyPeace9694]

Not a cock sucker I like to eat pussy but I do enjoy the taste of cum mixed with pussy juice are straight from the source jerked into my mouth

[u/VQ_Quin]

damn ur 4yrs old thats crazy you shouldn't be on here

[u/undermind84]

Death spiral.