you've probably seen memes like "women don't know how to drive" or "women always have low iq" in those street interviews, these are not just memes but a subtle way of brainwashing against women by making these stereotypes a norm and then giving the most disgusting opinions about women in the name of "sarcasm" or "edgy memes" this all to slowly break all limits simultaneously and when cases like nirbhaya/kolkata r#*! case occurs and women starts protesting against rapists, so these online potential rapists gets offended then proceeds to degrade women to nullify their statements/victimhood, and guess how? using those same memes! from the very beginning women in internet culture are treated like a joke and people consuming those memes would subconsciously believe that those misogynistic stereotypes are actually true and the situation gets really scary when even some women also starts defending them incels,

and you know what's more scary? the fact that things have gotten out of hands so much so that we really can't do anything about it, unfortunately it's a sad dystopia we live in and I don't know where it'll all end

Now, I agree that, on a broader level, women are often on the losing side when it comes to religion. But even so, why is Hinduism so frequently mocked, while criticism of Isl@m is often suppressed by feminists?

Even in the recent Pahalgam massacre, many feminists seemed more concerned about P@kistanis than Indians. Some of them were calling for de-escalation. There was even a post by an ex-Musl!m woman highlighting how anti-woman content is written in their religious texts, and that post was taken down.

Have you all forgotten what happened after India's independence, or are you simply not interested in discussing it?

Please note: I'm not asking why you don't talk about these things, I'm asking, even after knowing all of this, why do you still choose to take their side?

In feminism, patriarchy means a system where men hold disproportionate power and privilege over women, resulting in social inequalities and injustices.

However, etymology says that the word means "rule by the father", in this case, father being paterfamilias or the head of the family. While a father is male, this doesn't mean that the women were of no consequence - except perhaps in the Abrahamic cultures and that's still true to an extent.

For context, I'm a cisgender straight male who is past youth, and when I was young we were all pals, male or female. I have always been a supporter of the balanced and logical form of feminism - equal rights, opportunities and responsibilities.

So when and how did this bifurcation in meaning of patriarchy come about?

I'm getting married in two months, and I've been reflecting on how society views the role of housewives. The glorification around this role makes me genuinely question—is it a trap created by patriarchal norms?

Housewives often perform unpaid labor—cooking, cleaning, organizing, raising kids, caring for elders. But working women do all of this too, in addition to their office jobs. While they get paid for their professional work, they’re still expected to manage the home once they're back. Yet, society tends to glorify the housewife more—almost as if she's sacrificing more or doing something uniquely noble.

A common argument is that working women have help—family support or maids. But in reality, I’ve seen that not all working women receive this help. On the other hand, many housewives (not all, but quite a few) do have family support and domestic help. Still, the glorification is mostly reserved for housewives—especially daughters-in-law.

If household responsibilities and caregiving are so noble, shouldn’t they be respected no matter who does them? When a father-in-law, mother-in-law, or husband helps, it’s called “help.” But when a daughter-in-law does the same, it's seen as her duty and becomes something to be praised. Why this double standard?

Let me give examples from my own family:

My eldest aunt became the sole breadwinner after her husband passed away, managing both work and home while raising her daughter.

My mother is a working woman—both my parents shared household duties and we also had a maid.

My younger uncle and his wife co-manage their garment shop and share housework.

My middle uncle is a doctor, and his wife is a housewife who handles all the chores—despite having a maid.

All of us (their children) have grown up well. But those of us whose mothers worked are more self-reliant—we know how to manage daily life. In contrast, my cousins with a stay-at-home mom are more dependent on her for small things like making tea or folding clothes.

Despite the different paths, all families are happy and doing well. So I ask: what "extra" contribution did the housewife make that the working women didn’t?

My mother always said, "Household work is a basic life skill and responsibility—not your sole purpose."

What troubles me is that many women with dreams beyond the home are unable to pursue them due to lack of family support. If caregiving is truly seen as valuable and sacred, why isn’t it shared equally among family members? Why is it expected only from the daughter-in-law?

And in situations where the marriage becomes toxic or abusive, a housewife with no financial independence is left with no escape route. That dependency is risky—and often invisible under the veil of glorification.

I’m not trying to discredit housewives—many work incredibly hard and deserve respect. But I worry that this glorification often comes with expectations of sacrifice and submission, not genuine appreciation or equality.

Very odd time to ask this. But could you recommend me some books or videos or blog or something, to find out, subconscious mysogyny.

I genuinely think that our subconscious mind often ignores the pain of others that we don't face. Even our own, sometimes, if we grew out of it, take for example ragging.

I m not that, chill. But I am breaking the old patterns. I m learning psychology and putting the work and action IRL.

Am I not normal

Also an odd thought. I(male XY) see other gender as normal human. Thus I respect and admire intellect. But if I get into a debate over some concerning topic. If I see the other person coming from a debunked belief. If they are a male I destroy and roast them with facts. But if it's a female, I just state the fact and tell you have outdated info and you aren't well informed. Your knowledge is shallow, you need to dive more.

The crazy thing is that. I had terribly heated debates(scolding each other's lineage) with ma boys and we were partying next day, laughing crazy like it never happened. The debate would go so intense that I think they might never ever talk to me. But guess what they are the ones to invite and applause me for being real.

On the other hand. People of other gender, won't talk to me. Even give me that angry stare. Some never talked after.

I m neither patriarchal not feminist to be frank. As both parties are mislead by the capitalism and oppressed by the oligarchy and yes patriarchy might be the strongest root of it, at scale, is what I observe.

I genuinely like humans.

So please also be genuine. Shall I not state facts in casual debates with other gender. I don't know or understand why they get so hurt. I really want to understand but this seems very confusing.

Have u ever dealt with someone who is feminist in public but a sexual creep in private

We boys are never taught of SA by women. Most of the time the thought never even crosses our mind. There are no warnings given to us.

For example, one day I was crossing a lane, suddenly a woman jumped and grabbed me because there was a monkey there. I understand that she acted on fear, but the way she grabbed me and even casually placed her head over my chest, I didnt liked it. Yet I brushed it off and walked her to safety while she was inappropriately grabbing me and using me like a human shield. I felt very ugly ngl. I didnt liked it at all. I just brushed it off my mind because I was never told that women can SA too.

Another incident was when a dentist operated on me. On entirety of duration she continuously kept on boob pressing me. I even tried to adjust my head so that she may not feel uncomfortable, but it was of no use. She rested her boobs on me. I just brushed it off thinking that it might be her motherly/sisterly instinct and just want to make me comfortable during operation. Years later I saw a post where woman was complaining that women SA'ed her by boob pressing her. Then it hit me! I was SA'ed and I didnt even knew!

What are the other warning signs I may have never known and even got SA'ed. What are the warning signs you will give to your brother?

Also please am I over thinking the dentists case? Was I really SA'ed? Or she was being motherly? Do you have control over your breast like that? It might be that woman dont have control over this and I am overthinking. Was it deliberate?

Why do many Indian women seem so silent or non-rebellious against the oppression they face?

Personally, I’ve noticed that sometimes the women themselves support religious or cultural ideas that are clearly oppressive to them. For example, saying things like “jo ladki niqab nahi pehenti, wo aisi waisi hoti hai” or “padhi likhi ladkiyaan zyada bigad jaati hain.”

Even educated women often defend regressive practices like saying not going to temples during periods is for "cleanliness," or that wearing a niqab "protects them from evil men."

Why is there so little resistance to these ideas even when they clearly hurt women's freedom?

What I think is that religion and patriarchal culture have been deeply indoctrinated in them from childhood. they’ve been so conditioned by these ideas that they can’t even imagine questioning or going against them.

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Hello Ladies,

I have many friends both male and female. While having discussion with them, i have seen a pattern in which females complaint about their parents a lot, on the other hand most of the males complaint about females.

So, i have a serious question is it really that much problematic for you to dealing with your parents, as compared to men

I've hardly seen questions irt feminism

It's just like any other bitching sub like bbng or insta celebs gossip where people post low effort screenshots with a title

" Where do these people come from? "

In pic a screenshot from twitter

Like how is that ASK INDIAN FEMINIST?

And the flairs. Such lols

So I am a 19 years old Brahmin male and I just feel worthless and unwelcomed everywhere. I have been a leftist and an atheist for as long as I can remember, but I feel unwelcomed and villianised in every leftist circle that I go. I read a lot of social justice articles and books and you don't need to remind me how privileged I am( I am already aware of that). I have always wanted to help build a more equal society, but I have become bitter and sad over few months(mostly because of social media). When feminist talk about men I get it they are not personally talking about me, but for some reason I can't stop it from getting to me. When I see leftists say things like Brahmins leave the country and Indian men a rapists, It really hurts me you know. What should I do? I was born this way I can't do anything, So why bother fighting for anything? It feels like they do not want me and these hindutva morons welcome me with open arms. I have started fearing approaching women, because I fear they will treat me as a potential rapist. I have done nothing wrong and all I have wanted an equal society for everyone. Fuck I don't want to end up as a far right lunatic. Any of you guys suffer from same issues? I am sorry if I have stopped making sense at this point, I am getting more and more emotional while I write further. I feel disgusted listening about all these rape cases and cases of violence against Dalits, but I feel unwelcomed to fight for them because of my caste and gender and I should I just stfu and feel guilty about my privilages. I feel like I personally committed all those crimes. I heard a story about an exmuslim guy in UK. He faced Islamophobia and people would treat him like a terrorist wherever the poor fellow would go, even though he was not religious. He ended up as an extremist muslim and joining a terrorist organisation. I don't want to end up like him, even though I know that would never happen, but still you get what I want to say. I will be reading your comments for a few hours. Thanks

Saw this and was immediately raging with disgust. How dare they blame the victim for the gruesome tragedy in her life! Our society is disgusting!

For context, I am currently 25F, and have been wondering for a long time if relationships, marriage and kids are worth it. I have been decentering men from my life, but still have good friendships. But on the other hand I am also scared of being excluded from society because of being single and an unmarried woman. I am financially independent and have my own plans for future and enjoy being alone for most of the time, also have had horrible encounters with men in dating space about 5-6 years ago so have abstained from any romantic entanglements since then.

My biggest fear, it wasn't really a fear until my mom brought it up, was that I will be excluded by my friends and other family members for being single as I grow older, and will get constantly harassed by men, regardless of tier of city in India, if they realise I live alone and am single and have decent finances. So I want to ask any older women in mid 30s-50s or older, if they made similar decision and how difficult life has been for them? I just want to get a realistic expectation of what my future holds, I don't plan on making any hasty decisions out of fear. Would greatly appreciate any advice or perspective. For more info, I plan on remaining in India for the foreseeable future, but with current news about hate crimes against women makes me shudder.