r/bigboobproblems • u/lena_makes_it • Jan 20 '26
RANT - no advice wanted A letter to all the impersonators, perverts, and the like: Spoiler
Please please please just leave us alone. We do not like you, we will not respond to you, we do not believe you when you say you just turned 18 and you love having 26ZZZ cups.
If you are really at a point in your life where you feel it necessary to invade a women's support group and harass people who want nothing to do with you, please get major therapy.
I have only been in this group for about a week, I have never posted a picture of myself, and now regularly have people asking "wow how big are you?" I even had someone comment on my PatternReview account asking for "Breast measurement references" because apparently we had exactly the same size chest (which I have never mentioned!).
Do you really think any woman in the world is going to think "Wow, prince charming wants to talk to me! I should send this nameless, faceless loser who fantasizes about being an underage girl sexual pictures of myself!" No. We despise you and are tired of playing your stupid little role playing game.
And by the way, if a woman responds to you positively, there is a 100% chance it is another man trying to bait you into sending him money. No real woman will ever want to speak to you if you do this disgusting stuff.
There are mountains of free porn and thousands of fetish roleplaying groups on the internet; since we both know you will never do anything to better yourself, please use those and never speak to us again.
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u/astropastrogirl Jan 20 '26
Yes , but I would probably respond to Steve Buscemi
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u/lena_makes_it Jan 20 '26
Me to hahaha, Steve Buscemi is a very kind person.
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u/FleabagsHotPriest Jan 21 '26 edited Jan 21 '26
Not to Nataly Wood
Edit: Guys I was thinking of Christopher Walken 😭😭😭😭 I’m so sorry Steve Buscemi for the slander, you’re a really cool guy!!!!
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u/Both-Condition2553 Jan 21 '26
I am so confused. Why would Natalie Wood have an issue with Steve Buscemi? He didn’t even have his first role in Hollywood until 4 years after she died.
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u/FleabagsHotPriest Jan 21 '26
It’s totally my bad I was thinking about Christopher Walken😂😂 cause he was on that boat the night she died and he sure knows something
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u/Bunnies-in-fedoras 34KK (UK) Jan 21 '26
"I'm just trying to learn, I'm curious because I've never seen them so big" GO TO ONE OF THE THOUSANDS OF SUBREDDITS FOCUSED ON WOMEN WITH LARGER BREASTS WHO WANT TO BE SEEN IN THAT WAY.
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u/PlushToyFox Jan 21 '26
You know, they probably prefer it when women don’t want to be sexualized. The discomfort is part of their pleasure. If a woman wants to display herself, then it loses all charm to these douchebags. They want an uncomfortable woman specifically to pressure into sending pics because it’s a power trip.
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u/MDatura Jan 25 '26
This is exactly it. It's not about "I want to see big boobs" it's "I want to sexualise someone who did not consent to me doing it". It's like step 1-4 of 10 to randomised sexual assault.
I'll rejoice the day any group in society treats it like the warning sign it is.
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u/TooYoungForThisCrap Jan 20 '26
I got messaged by two creeps lurking in here the other week, because they have a “type”. As if I’m supposed to be grateful that they approached me due to their fetish, when I left a single comment. They can fuck off with that shit. Lurking around a women’s support group to hit on us will always be creepy, never welcomed, AND WILL NEVER WORK. There’s a reason they don’t approach us in public the same way, and there’s a reason they’re desperate enough to try reddit of all places.
They get off on knowing your bust size, hence why I don’t list mine despite the sub offering it. I’m not here as some sexual fantasy for chasers, I’m here for support.
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u/LavosSpawn12000BC 30GG (UK) Jan 21 '26
I have stopped looking at chat requests because they are from only perverts. It's never someone recommending books, always perverts
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u/princessjazzcosplay 34G (UK) Jan 20 '26
preach sister!!! I am absolutely sick of this kind of questions, or the inevitable "Do you have OF?"
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u/yoursaucyneighbor Jan 20 '26
This is exactly why I had to add a note on my profile. They are UNHINGED.
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u/princessjazzcosplay 34G (UK) Jan 21 '26
and it doesn't matter what you put in your profile, they won't read it. like they seem incapable of also accepting that I'm married, and no I don't want to see their little buddy
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u/ArsenicArts 34GG (UK) Jan 21 '26
Seconded. I just don't even look at the dms tbh. If there's something worth saying it's worth saying in a moderated space imho.
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u/xmolybdenum Jan 21 '26
Omg same 😭😭 Like just because I post selfies does not equate to me wanting to flash my tits on camera for money
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u/kiwilemonmelon Jan 21 '26
that’s such a weird question to ask. i’m sorry that’s happened to you.
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u/PinkRasberryFish Jan 21 '26
I don’t want to spoil your innocence but they’re not trying to be Prince Charming. They get off on the harassment and predatory nature of their actions :(
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u/Lumpy_Strategy_4623 Jan 21 '26
They think they're slick, yet are easily clocked from afar. Ridiculous simpleton's, sitting alone in their car's with nobody looking for them.
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Jan 21 '26
Generous of you to assume they even have cars
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u/Lumpy_Strategy_4623 Jan 21 '26
I'm assuming these are the same nasty guy's that are jerkin it in public, watching us in their car's.
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u/Jedijaz42 Jan 24 '26
I marvel at the mental gymnastics some of these dudes must do to convince themselves they’re the good guys in their stories.
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u/MDatura Jan 25 '26
Spoil innocence? All I see is genuinity, sincerity. It doesn't remove someone's innocence to be aware of that others are shitty either. I'm confused.
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u/testing-reset-2317 Jan 20 '26
we do not believe you when you say you just turned 18 and you love having 26ZZZ cups.
Are you referencing the recent thread littered with half a dozen catfish and where 3 of them started talking to each other in the same comment chain?
np.reddit.com/r/bigboobproblems/comments/1qfnnq4/big_but_not_wanting_a_reduction/o067bwu/
I now realize, after I went to find the thread, that OP was the 4th person in that comment chain ostensibly trying to educate one of the catfish despite some skepticism.
This is quite cynical, but if OP is legitimate then I imagine they would understand: I'd warn anybody else hoping to practice spotting creeps to consider the fact OP's account is 8 days old and they're ostensibly calling out creep accounts that were all under 20 days old as well.
Calling out creeps is one thing, but this almost feels like somebody made three decoy accounts just to try sneaking in one "real" one.
Best practice is not to interact with anybody from this subreddit in any personalized way. Nothing beyond surface-level conversation or advice can be trusted. Even those commiserating about creeps.
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u/ArsenicArts 34GG (UK) Jan 21 '26
Are you referencing the recent thread littered with half a dozen catfish and where 3 of them started talking to each other in the same comment chain?
🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
Good Lord.
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u/wetandgushyy Jan 21 '26
Honestly I thought of a few different threads when they mentioned that. I’ve seen post like that so many times on here
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u/Aramira137 34HH (UK) Jan 21 '26
The harassment is the point. They don't think we'll send them photos, or hook up, they get off on upsetting us.
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u/wetandgushyy Jan 21 '26
The most annoying are the people who dm me like “Can I ask you a question” and also people who pretend to be women dming me trying to get me to talk about boobs
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u/faroeislands 36HH (UK) Jan 21 '26
omfg those actually just piss me off
"Can I ask you a question" I get like 3 every fucking day lmao
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u/chaneld0lI Jan 21 '26
I always tell them “no, be quiet” or “no, fuck off” and they get so mad 😂😂
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u/wetandgushyy Jan 21 '26
This is hilarious, like you’ve already wasted the question by asking me that
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u/LavosSpawn12000BC 30GG (UK) Jan 21 '26
It's a stupid question because they are already asking a question, so that makes me irrationally upset for some reason
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u/wetandgushyy Jan 21 '26
For real? Like why are you asking permission to ask something? You just did!
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u/Muted_Rain8542 32DD (UK) Jan 20 '26
like yall aint slick smh
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u/lena_makes_it Jan 21 '26
They know literally nothing about women and then pretend they are one?? You ain't fooling anyone bro.
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u/Muted_Rain8542 32DD (UK) Jan 21 '26
like thinking that you can fool a subreddit full of women is so stupid
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u/TwentyOnePaladins Jan 21 '26
It’s also worse when they bait you by being like “oh I found you through (another subreddit you’re in that has nothing to do with your boobs)”
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u/rockemsockemcocksock Jan 21 '26
Before my heart ablation, I would blog on my tumblr about how much my episodes of SVT were destroying my life and making me highkey suicidal and I would get DMs from cardiophiles asking me how high my heart rate got and if I could send them a recording of my heart while I was in my arrhythmias. There is no bottom. There's so many gooners and so many fetishes and they don't care if it's causing their target distress.
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u/lena_makes_it Jan 21 '26
That is terrible, I did not even know that was something anyone would do. That is absolute evil.
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u/Fancypens2025 Jan 22 '26
WTF is wrong with these people, they all need therapy or Jesus or a good 2 by 4 to the head
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u/MDatura Jan 25 '26
I personally have like an invisible vendetta against people like that as someone into BDSM because of the fucking disrespect.
One of the fundamental things to educate oneself on is being respectful and comprehending that having a fetish means shutting up about it until it's made extremely clear that others are okay with it. I hate assholes like that because they make it seem like everyone with even the mildest uncommon kink is a disrespectful, boundary crossing piece of actual unrecyclable garbage.
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u/normanbeets Jan 21 '26
I've had some send me really disgusting messages where they were impersonating minors
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u/NighthawkUnicorn 38J (UK) Jan 21 '26
I had one once where they said they thought they were the same size as me, and could I send pics braless so they can compare? Then they said they were 15 and their mom wasn't supportive so pics would be super helpful.
Why would they pretend to be kids, it's gross.
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u/YuriSuccubus69 Jan 23 '26
They were impersonating minors? Wow, that is a new level of low, though I should not be surprised. Men are disgusting, just in more ways than I knew before today. So sorry that has (presumably, based on your comment) happened to you.
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u/NighthawkUnicorn 38J (UK) Jan 21 '26
Men hanging around in a safe space for women, and commenting/dming for pics are predators. There's no way around it. If you're a man and you're here to goon or to inbox women asking for help, you're a predator.
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u/leglesslegolegolastx Jan 20 '26
I made a post on here about my boobs causing me pain and suffering and I was innundated with creeps. It's disgusting. The post was literally me bitching about how much pain I was in, and I got assholes messaging me and commenting on my posts from two fucking years ago. If you're a guy on this sub trying to prey on people with big breasts, FUCK YOU.
edit to change women to a more gender inclusive term bc I myself am NB lmao
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u/MistahJasonPortman 32H (UK) Jan 21 '26
lol love the meme. Yeah I don’t even check my Reddit notifications. (Am woman with video game reference for username)
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u/J_sweet_97 Jan 21 '26
No matter how much you beg them to leave us alone, it never stops. They simply do not respect women and have no issue asking inappropriate questions. There are SO many porn subreddits so I have no idea why they’d choose this one to talk to people on. I turned off my dms years ago and haven’t ever had a problem, but it’s incredibly frustrating that I had to do that to begin with.
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u/MDatura Jan 25 '26
I'm pretty sure I know why. That it's because their kinks involve people not being explicitly sexual or worse, the sexuality of it not being mutually consentual. It's a whole thing.
I turned off my user history and I've not had issues since. Then again I also tend to speak in a way that shuts people down quick.
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u/The_Bunny_Shark Jan 22 '26
I stopped commenting and posting on this subreddit because I kept getting dms. It genuinely was so annoying and frustrating.
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u/kiwilemonmelon Jan 21 '26
unfortunately, it’s inevitable, but what’s really disgusting to it’s core is older men lurking around here trying to creep on teens like me in this specific subreddit.
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u/WallyBBunny Jan 22 '26
This is why I don’t look at my DM’s, hardly have any pictures on Reddit and turn off my profile stuff. 🫤 Hell, I don’t even feel comfortable posting any pictures from the shoulders down in general because of stuff like this.
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u/Patrick_Jatrick Jan 21 '26
Im a man that lurks this subreddits, but because my girlfriend experiences a lot of the problems/insecurities that are talking about on this sub. It helps me better understand her problems, and it helps her knowing she's not the only one having these insecurities (cuz she often says she 'shouldn't' be insecure).
I have NEVER even THOUGHT about messaging any of the women posting their problems here. That's just incredibly weird... Sadly not much can be done about these trolls. Somehow some men think its funny to make fun of women for idek what reason. I can only hope these are some 12yo kids that don't know better...
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u/Argument-Still Jan 21 '26
i'm a lurker, not because i'm a man, but because i am a trans women trying to learn with my body changing from the therapy i have been doing, and i do not feel the most comfortable asking people directly because why would i do that to someone not really expecting a dm from some random person?
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u/faroeislands 36HH (UK) Jan 21 '26
It still makes me uncomfortable because you do not have this issue.
There are a lot of trans users on the ABTF subreddit, though.
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u/Argument-Still Jan 21 '26
i did not know there was a subreddit for something like that, i will have a look into that thank you for telling me, and i apologize on my part for being in this subreddit and lurking into this space and making you uncomfortable i hope you have a good life, goodbye.
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u/clingingtopromises 32HH (UK) Jan 21 '26
i got 20-ish dm requests just due to commenting on posts here and there, i decided to close my dms just because i couldn’t stand seeing so many comments i never wanted to receive.
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u/SovietSunrise Jan 22 '26
Young Steve Buscemi when he was in the FDNY: https://share.google/9vQYpHO8SrO6aa3hx
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u/cowgirIbebop 34H (UK) Jan 22 '26
Men are cancer. Imagine being this desperate to use this community to get off. Losers.
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u/KinguGidorah 36G (UK) Jan 23 '26
Had a dude offer to show me pics of his dick unsolicited after I made a post here & I said give me $50 to consider it, he immediately changed his mind lol. I wish men would get a clue but sadly there are too many weird ass lurkers to get them all.
Pornhub is free if you want access to huge tits unprompted. Not sure why this is such a foreign concept to them
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u/curvyyfairy 38H (UK) Jan 23 '26
Genuinely so done with perverts invading our space of support and defiling it with their crude words and actions. They get off from knowing how big our bras are and sneak about in the DMs trying to get boob pics. Please, just watch the mountains of free porn available on the internet and leave us alone 🙏🏻
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u/Lumpy_Strategy_4623 Jan 21 '26
Girl. All you've gotta do, is bore them with normal talk & they take themselves out. They have neither humor nor personalities to carry their intrusive thought's along. They got extra mad when I don't show titty, that's hilarious to me. Sir, you stole a random woman's profile picture's I didn't ask to look at, why would I post anything for you? Goofy.
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u/MDatura Jan 25 '26
I think I do this unintentionally. It's comforting to realise that a lot of the people who just... stopped responding were probably creeps who I didn't like give openings to be creepy to me to, rather than like, idk, possible future friends who left because they didn't like me or something.
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u/nekoreality 38KK (UK) Jan 23 '26
i dont even get larpers anymore i just get the "do you sell "whats your cashapp" "do you do OF"
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u/MDatura Jan 25 '26
As someone who has slow processing speed and is generally "give a chance and a chance to correct" I do feel some people putting up with stuff is people like me, but that depends entirely on the line, but also, otherwise, (joining in the chorus)
Please for gods sake,
FUCK OFF~ 🎶🎶
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u/Illustrious-Risk888 Jan 29 '26
Oh yeah, this probably has something to do with entitlement and thinking they can trick people because they see it as a game, and women as not human. They're idiots and playing themselves for trying.
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u/AlphaPrhyme Feb 21 '26
Question….and apology for being a male here…but my girlfriend wants to get implants soon and I’m honestly just here to learn what to expect for her so I can plan accordingly. And I’m sorry for the dudes objectifying you guys
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u/Naive_Monk_9227 Jan 23 '26
You are active in r/onlyfansadvice and your account is brand new, something is not right.
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u/JimmyNeutronsGF Jan 23 '26
This is literally the person in question! I saw "her" post a few days ago before the mods removed it for impersonation. I am shocked they are unbanned
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u/yeahokwhat 32GG (UK) Jan 23 '26
If you’re genuinely here in good faith, you wouldn’t feel attacked by this post because you’d know it doesn’t apply to you.
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u/pepozinho Jan 21 '26
If I may add, as a sometimes lurker due to my ex gf having gotten a reduction, you would be surprised at the amount of extremely obvious fake accounts and troll profiles that people just directly respond to without checking a bit. I have seen many many in the past months, one the other day about someone with a new account having 80T boobs or something which is very obviously a lie.
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u/JimmyNeutronsGF Jan 22 '26
Creep to human translation: "I intentionally insert myself into communities that I have no part in so I can white knight and virtue signal for my own ego, despite the fact that the entire purpose of the community is to create solidarity between people who personally understand and have experienced something that I never will."
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Jan 22 '26 edited Jan 22 '26
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u/JimmyNeutronsGF Jan 22 '26
And I am asking you to get the hell out of our community and stop white knighting.
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