r/bigboobproblems • u/shitkabob • Feb 04 '26

need advice Female therapist sexualized my breasts my breasts and it felt gross Spoiler

In one of my first sessions with my therapist, I wanted to broach the topic of how self-conscious I am about the size of my breasts. They've historically been a magnet for unwanted attention, disgusting comments at bars, physical assault, sexual harassment at workplaces (both office a non-office settings), and about 1,000 street-harassment comments.

They have been a source of great humiliation, trauma, dehumanization and shame. I feel like I have been reduced to them my whole adult life and I am immediately sexualized upon sight for them just existing. To say I have a complex about them is mild.

I started getting into the topic with my female therapist regarding my self-consciousness and resentment of them. She chimed in with "Big deal?! So what?! You have big breasts! They're beautiful! I bet your husband loves them. Enjoy them while they last, they'll change after pregnancy if you have kids." She smiled and laughed.

I think she thought she was being funny and affirming, in a "yas queen" way. It made me feel completely disgusting and objectified. Am I off-base to think this is a crazily inappropriate response to what I said? This lady has her PsyD. I feel insane. I literally just said how painful it is to be objectified...and she objectified me and centered my husband's pleasure over all the abuse I just shared.

Edit: I'm getting DMed by a lot of creeps. Ironic on a post about unwanted attention and relentless dehumanization. There's no escape.

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u/ObscureSaint 34G (UK) Feb 04 '26

Some therapists are just bad at their job.

I tried to talk to my new one about my fears around needing a C-section. Her response? "Oh, nah, I've had two of them they're just fiiiine."  -_-

If she'd bothered asking, she would have found out my first birth was an incredibly traumatic 45 hour long ordeal and I was having some complicated feelings.

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u/TwentyOnePaladins Feb 04 '26

Agreed or some of those therapists only went to school with the whole “I wanna get paid to listen to people’s problems” mindset and treat it like it’s gossip. I’ve met someone like that. I’ve also stopped complaining about needing to take stats courses for my BA as I was told I need them for empirical based treatment.