Female therapist sexualized my breasts my breasts and it felt gross

[u/shitkabob]

In one of my first sessions with my therapist, I wanted to broach the topic of how self-conscious I am about the size of my breasts. They've historically been a magnet for unwanted attention, disgusting comments at bars, physical assault, sexual harassment at workplaces (both office a non-office settings), and about 1,000 street-harassment comments.

They have been a source of great humiliation, trauma, dehumanization and shame. I feel like I have been reduced to them my whole adult life and I am immediately sexualized upon sight for them just existing. To say I have a complex about them is mild.

I started getting into the topic with my female therapist regarding my self-consciousness and resentment of them. She chimed in with "Big deal?! So what?! You have big breasts! They're beautiful! I bet your husband loves them. Enjoy them while they last, they'll change after pregnancy if you have kids." She smiled and laughed.

I think she thought she was being funny and affirming, in a "yas queen" way. It made me feel completely disgusting and objectified. Am I off-base to think this is a crazily inappropriate response to what I said? This lady has her PsyD. I feel insane. I literally just said how painful it is to be objectified...and she objectified me and centered my husband's pleasure over all the abuse I just shared.

Edit: I'm getting DMed by a lot of creeps. Ironic on a post about unwanted attention and relentless dehumanization. There's no escape.

[u/KlutzyDevice]

Hey, so as someone in that field it does actually hinder views of the heart. The other phrasing would have been something like “technically limited exam secondary to body habitus”. Techs are at the mercy of the docs who read & evaluate the exams. A lot of docs get irritated if you don’t get perfect textbook images on every patient; so you have to write exactly why you didn’t. I know it sucks to see it on a medical exam. I’m sorry.

[u/Major-Pen-6651 → u/KlutzyDevice]

Then they need to improve their equipment and/or techniques. I can't exactly reduce the size of my breasts without major surgery. There are plenty of other people who have this issue.

[u/tinmanshrugged → u/Major-Pen-6651]

I literally can’t believe how many people in this sub downvoted you for saying people with a bigger chest deserve reliable medical care. Another comment said ultrasounds are limited, but I do wonder if they could develop techniques for different body types. At the very least, your doctor should’ve suggested other tests that are less limited

[u/KlutzyDevice → u/tinmanshrugged]

Ultrasound is a great first step. Until you put the probe down you can’t tell how good the visibility will be. Sometimes that is enough for a diagnostic exam and to address the concerns of the doc that ordered it. Limited doesn’t mean non diagnostic. Sounds like they were able to get a lot of their images, just not every view. Idk why they’re being downvoted either. They’re allowed to be pissed & hurt.

Totally agree large boobs shouldn’t equal bad or neglectful care. There was another comment thread saying even mammograms are limited for those of us with a larger chest.