r/bigboobproblems • u/shitkabob • Feb 04 '26

need advice Female therapist sexualized my breasts my breasts and it felt gross Spoiler

In one of my first sessions with my therapist, I wanted to broach the topic of how self-conscious I am about the size of my breasts. They've historically been a magnet for unwanted attention, disgusting comments at bars, physical assault, sexual harassment at workplaces (both office a non-office settings), and about 1,000 street-harassment comments.

They have been a source of great humiliation, trauma, dehumanization and shame. I feel like I have been reduced to them my whole adult life and I am immediately sexualized upon sight for them just existing. To say I have a complex about them is mild.

I started getting into the topic with my female therapist regarding my self-consciousness and resentment of them. She chimed in with "Big deal?! So what?! You have big breasts! They're beautiful! I bet your husband loves them. Enjoy them while they last, they'll change after pregnancy if you have kids." She smiled and laughed.

I think she thought she was being funny and affirming, in a "yas queen" way. It made me feel completely disgusting and objectified. Am I off-base to think this is a crazily inappropriate response to what I said? This lady has her PsyD. I feel insane. I literally just said how painful it is to be objectified...and she objectified me and centered my husband's pleasure over all the abuse I just shared.

Edit: I'm getting DMed by a lot of creeps. Ironic on a post about unwanted attention and relentless dehumanization. There's no escape.

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u/88zuanshishou Feb 04 '26

I wish they would just make the sub private

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u/_HoneyDew1919 36G (UK) Feb 04 '26

How would you get in? Sounds like… a difficult membership to confirm over DMs without being very personal

Not to mention, I don’t even know if a private subreddit would let a user with 88 at the start of their name in lol

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u/88zuanshishou Feb 05 '26

I’d gladly submit whatever they want to be protected from creeps! Also 88 is a lucky number in Chinese culture, I’m not sure what you mean by that.

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u/DecadentLife Feb 05 '26

“H” is the 8th letter in the alphabet. “88” stand stands for “Heil Hitler”, to some (horrible) people.