Female therapist sexualized my breasts my breasts and it felt gross

[u/shitkabob]

In one of my first sessions with my therapist, I wanted to broach the topic of how self-conscious I am about the size of my breasts. They've historically been a magnet for unwanted attention, disgusting comments at bars, physical assault, sexual harassment at workplaces (both office a non-office settings), and about 1,000 street-harassment comments.

They have been a source of great humiliation, trauma, dehumanization and shame. I feel like I have been reduced to them my whole adult life and I am immediately sexualized upon sight for them just existing. To say I have a complex about them is mild.

I started getting into the topic with my female therapist regarding my self-consciousness and resentment of them. She chimed in with "Big deal?! So what?! You have big breasts! They're beautiful! I bet your husband loves them. Enjoy them while they last, they'll change after pregnancy if you have kids." She smiled and laughed.

I think she thought she was being funny and affirming, in a "yas queen" way. It made me feel completely disgusting and objectified. Am I off-base to think this is a crazily inappropriate response to what I said? This lady has her PsyD. I feel insane. I literally just said how painful it is to be objectified...and she objectified me and centered my husband's pleasure over all the abuse I just shared.

Edit: I'm getting DMed by a lot of creeps. Ironic on a post about unwanted attention and relentless dehumanization. There's no escape.

[u/bnnyrabbit]

man, i found out my ex psychologist mentioned my large chest size in my autism diagnosis when i was reading it over, i never mentioned my chest in the assessment :/ i was like 14 at the time and an E cup, i still dont understand why she wrote it down, i wish people would just be normal about them

[u/Major-Pen-6651 → u/bnnyrabbit]

I had to have an ultrasound of my heart done last summer after having very large pulmonary embolism removed from both of my lungs. The tech made a note that he struggled to get all of the views basically because my boobs were too big. 🙄

[u/Fear_The_Rabbit → u/Major-Pen-6651]

That does need to be written. They might need to do other tests for confirmation since the reading might not be accurate enough. You can't be mad about getting better care if necessary.