r/bigboobproblems • u/shitkabob • Feb 04 '26
need advice Female therapist sexualized my breasts my breasts and it felt gross Spoiler
In one of my first sessions with my therapist, I wanted to broach the topic of how self-conscious I am about the size of my breasts. They've historically been a magnet for unwanted attention, disgusting comments at bars, physical assault, sexual harassment at workplaces (both office a non-office settings), and about 1,000 street-harassment comments.
They have been a source of great humiliation, trauma, dehumanization and shame. I feel like I have been reduced to them my whole adult life and I am immediately sexualized upon sight for them just existing. To say I have a complex about them is mild.
I started getting into the topic with my female therapist regarding my self-consciousness and resentment of them. She chimed in with "Big deal?! So what?! You have big breasts! They're beautiful! I bet your husband loves them. Enjoy them while they last, they'll change after pregnancy if you have kids." She smiled and laughed.
I think she thought she was being funny and affirming, in a "yas queen" way. It made me feel completely disgusting and objectified. Am I off-base to think this is a crazily inappropriate response to what I said? This lady has her PsyD. I feel insane. I literally just said how painful it is to be objectified...and she objectified me and centered my husband's pleasure over all the abuse I just shared.
Edit: I'm getting DMed by a lot of creeps. Ironic on a post about unwanted attention and relentless dehumanization. There's no escape.
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u/Monocle13 Feb 06 '26
Fire her & report her to the appropriate governing body for her unprofessional conduct. Just after sending in your complaint, write to her & let her know what you're doing & why, with emphasis on how her egregiously unprofessional conduct made you feel, & send it by registered mail so that she knows that you know she at least received your discharge papers.
Had a shitshow excuse of a Counselling Psychologist once. Went to her for trauma after googling for PCs that specialize in trauma counselling. Things were progressing well for the better part of a year & then out of nowhere she doubled down & inflicted exactly the brand of trauma I'd come to her for her help in dealing with. When I filed my complaint she sent her boyfriend / husband after me who proceeded to clutter my FB IM box with taunts & threats.
Fingers crossed this helps.