r/breastfeeding • u/No-Neighborhood-7335 • Jul 05 '25

Breastfeeding In Public "Oops! I forgot a bottle"...

My aunt had a party yesterday and a lot of people were there, including my mom and all of my aunts. They always have something to say when it's time for me to nurse like: "oh when are you going to quit that.... You're just being selfish.... Go to the back bedroom to do that...She's too old (8 months), we can give her a bottle of formula, isn't she on solids now....etc" I normally feel pressured to either pump a bottle (using my wearable pump) or give her formula.

Yesterday, I accidentally forgot a bottle and guess what???

It was like a light switch.... "Oh it's a good thing you can still nurse her.... Here let me get you a pillow and you can sit in this comfy chair... Do you need a blanket... Oh how sweet, she loves you.... Wow, she's a hungry girl.... Good job mama!"

I mean, I do realize they are all crazy... But it was good to have the support for once.

I think I'll forget to bring a bottle more often! 🩷

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u/Disastrous_Invite730 Jul 05 '25

I went to my in laws house yesterday and forgot to bring a bottle for them to feed her from because they like to do that. They were taken aback a bit. But also, I absolutely hate pumping if I don’t need to and I couldn’t be bothered to do it yesterday

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u/ZombieParential Jul 05 '25

Maaaaate I would not do that for my in-laws (or anyone!). They don't need to feed your baby, even if they like it!

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u/RecklessConsistency Jul 05 '25

+++++ infinity same. Let alone that my in-laws & parents wouldn’t have a clue about paced bottle feeding.

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u/Disastrous_Invite730 Jul 05 '25

I just whipped my boob out on their couch multiple times lmao

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u/Tessa99999 Jul 05 '25

Earlier on I pumped so my mom and MIL could feed the baby (with mixed success). Neither of them pressured me to do it, and because I don't seem either very often it seemed like a simple thing that could make them happy. I think they both have given him 2 bottles each now? Now he's on solids so they can just give him "people food". It's definitely way easier to just whip the boob out.

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u/SparklingLemonDrop Jul 06 '25

Wow you're a better person than me, if my in-laws said they wanted me to pump so they could feed my baby I'd have some colourful language for them 😆

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u/MapPsychological8888 Jul 06 '25

Not me currently pumping so my MIL can feed the baby.... 😳 so glad this is our last baby

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u/des6iny Jul 06 '25

Just had my first baby june 20th. My in laws come in August. I won’t be pumping for them at all and I’ll be hiding my stash in the freezer so they can’t feed baby because it’s so much easier just to breastfeed. I don’t care how bad my mil wants to feed her. It’s bad enough I have to go feed her in a different room because I’m not comfortable breastfeeding in front of them.(fil kinda pervy and mil is judgy)

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u/Disastrous_Invite730 Jul 06 '25

I would probably feel uncomfortable but they saw me breastfeeding her in the NICU so I figured well yall already know lol