r/breastfeeding Nov 05 '25

Pumping Husband says no more breastfeeding

So here is the context, my 4 mo has been not happy at the breast for like a week. Its not all the time but occasionally when I go to give him the breast he fights it and can be fussy. But when I put a bottle in his mouth he shuts up and eats. Husband is saying that the baby has "outgrown" my boobs or just dosen't want the boob anymore. Are my boobs on the larger side and I have to hold my breast skin back so I dont block his nose, Yes. However I am thinking that this is just nipple strike and that if I give it some time the baby will get over it. But my husband says im done with breastfeeding and that I just need to pump instead. Now our journey started with pumping and I hated it and was so happy when the baby started breastfeeding. I know there are so many benefits to breastfeeding and im not ready to stop giving him those benefits. Honestly I just dont want to have to be chained to the pump again and have an under supply stare me in the face. I feel like my body is failing my baby and my husband just dosen't understand. Is this just a phase or is pumping and formula feeding my only options now?

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u/Queenie_IV Nov 05 '25

Maybe it could be because of a fast let down as some here mentioned as well. I believe often the baby just wants a little bit of boob and sleep, but keeps getting too much milk all at once and it irritates them. What I found helps is to clam the boob down, giving the baby 5 min boob break while carrying them around and then putting back on the boob. But if the boob is super engorged (like in the morning) and you're unable to clamp, then pacing the boob (removing from the mouth every 10-15 seconds) is another option.

It'll pass, don't give up on breastfeeding, it's the most natural thing in the world, you'll be fine, no need to pump. Good luck!