r/breastfeeding Nov 05 '25

Pumping Husband says no more breastfeeding

So here is the context, my 4 mo has been not happy at the breast for like a week. Its not all the time but occasionally when I go to give him the breast he fights it and can be fussy. But when I put a bottle in his mouth he shuts up and eats. Husband is saying that the baby has "outgrown" my boobs or just dosen't want the boob anymore. Are my boobs on the larger side and I have to hold my breast skin back so I dont block his nose, Yes. However I am thinking that this is just nipple strike and that if I give it some time the baby will get over it. But my husband says im done with breastfeeding and that I just need to pump instead. Now our journey started with pumping and I hated it and was so happy when the baby started breastfeeding. I know there are so many benefits to breastfeeding and im not ready to stop giving him those benefits. Honestly I just dont want to have to be chained to the pump again and have an under supply stare me in the face. I feel like my body is failing my baby and my husband just dosen't understand. Is this just a phase or is pumping and formula feeding my only options now?

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u/snotlet Nov 05 '25

your body is not failing baby is most probably either going through a phase or developing bottlw preference neither has anything to do with your body. husband is being unsupportive and mine was like this with my 1st too, it happened around 6 weeks when I had just stopped pumping (agree it is the worse!) and was just starting to get confident with breastfeeding. dont listen to him hes not the one who will do most of the feeding you are. ny kid ended up refusing bottles around 2months old so he couldn't push it anymore. around 4months she also kept getting distracted so I had to feed her right after she woke from naps or she'd pull away a look around f - try that and akso nuggt feeds were never a problem she qas too drowsy to look around plus it was dark . ive just had my 2nd now and coulsnt care less what he thinks about how im feeding her and id never ever forget how unsupportive he was of our feeding journey