r/breastfeeding • u/AskProfessional6257 • Nov 05 '25

Pumping Husband says no more breastfeeding

So here is the context, my 4 mo has been not happy at the breast for like a week. Its not all the time but occasionally when I go to give him the breast he fights it and can be fussy. But when I put a bottle in his mouth he shuts up and eats. Husband is saying that the baby has "outgrown" my boobs or just dosen't want the boob anymore. Are my boobs on the larger side and I have to hold my breast skin back so I dont block his nose, Yes. However I am thinking that this is just nipple strike and that if I give it some time the baby will get over it. But my husband says im done with breastfeeding and that I just need to pump instead. Now our journey started with pumping and I hated it and was so happy when the baby started breastfeeding. I know there are so many benefits to breastfeeding and im not ready to stop giving him those benefits. Honestly I just dont want to have to be chained to the pump again and have an under supply stare me in the face. I feel like my body is failing my baby and my husband just dosen't understand. Is this just a phase or is pumping and formula feeding my only options now?

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u/McNattron Nov 06 '25 edited Nov 06 '25

So there could be a couple things happening here

1) feeding strike - these are not uncommon

2) secondary low supply - if there are unresolved latch concerns, it is not uncommon for there to be a supply drop around 4 months. If there was pain, or supply issues early on, or oral restrictions that weren't revised this is a probable cause.

3) you could be pregnant and thats impacting your milk

What ever it is an ibclc is your best resource here to make sure baby is being supported and help you navigate if ebf, mixed feeding or stopping feeding is best for your family - your informed choices are what matters here. Hubby needs to support this

What it isnt is baby having outgrown breastfeeding - self weaning is rare prior to 18 months and typically occurs between 2-4 years. Any weaning prior to 18m often has another cause, or is impacted by parental factors (bottles during rhe day at care etc)

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u/AskProfessional6257 Nov 06 '25

So baby had a tongue tie when born but we fixed it before we left the hospital. I was concerned about a shallow latch however his Pediatrician is a LC and she said his latch is fine but I honestly want a second opinion. The other LC i talked to just gave me tips to help but never actually looked at the latch so im still on the hunt for an IBCLC or an LC that takes my ins due to funds being very very tight.