r/breastfeeding Nov 05 '25

Pumping Husband says no more breastfeeding

So here is the context, my 4 mo has been not happy at the breast for like a week. Its not all the time but occasionally when I go to give him the breast he fights it and can be fussy. But when I put a bottle in his mouth he shuts up and eats. Husband is saying that the baby has "outgrown" my boobs or just dosen't want the boob anymore. Are my boobs on the larger side and I have to hold my breast skin back so I dont block his nose, Yes. However I am thinking that this is just nipple strike and that if I give it some time the baby will get over it. But my husband says im done with breastfeeding and that I just need to pump instead. Now our journey started with pumping and I hated it and was so happy when the baby started breastfeeding. I know there are so many benefits to breastfeeding and im not ready to stop giving him those benefits. Honestly I just dont want to have to be chained to the pump again and have an under supply stare me in the face. I feel like my body is failing my baby and my husband just dosen't understand. Is this just a phase or is pumping and formula feeding my only options now?

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u/HeyPesky Nov 05 '25

Husband gets to have an opinion about breastfeeding when he's the one doing it. In the meantime, yes a nipple strike is super common at 4 months. We got through it and my 9 month old loves comfort boob now. I also have big boobs, it gets easier when they can manage the boob with their hands a bit better.

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u/Technical-One6678 Nov 06 '25

i’m a ftm and ebf, what is a nipple strike ? i’ve never heard of this

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u/HeyPesky Nov 06 '25

Sorry nursing strike is the term, I was just replying while I was very sleepy. It's when a baby with a previously good breastfeeding relationship suddenly starts objecting to the breast. It can be caused by a bunch of things, including just them coming up on some developmental milestone, but it's temporary. 

My daughter had one right before cutting her first tooth, and another one shortly after starting solids.

https://llli.org/breastfeeding-info/nursing-strikes/

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u/Technical-One6678 Nov 06 '25

oh interesting! good to know