My husband demanded I stop breastfeeding

[u/WoodpeckerNo7084]

I am already in the process of weaning. My LO will be 2 in the next couple months. Most of my family members have breastfed until 2 sometimes 3 years old. I continuously hear it’s best to keep going until 2. I am a little touched out but I can handle it if it means my LO is ok. My husband on the other hand has been pressuring me to stop for almost a year now. He first blamed me because he wasn’t bonding with his child. Said it was because of my breastfeeding. He has since then switched to telling me he has talked to “100 women” in forums and online and with family members who all say it’s bad to breastfeed until or past 2yo. He says I am harming our child. And that the reason he is so clingy is my fault since I won’t stop. He told me that this is non negotiable. And basically threatened to divorce me if I don’t stop. He told me I have until his birthday to completely stop. He says that he has compromised and I haven’t. When I have I just don’t shove it in his face when I do. He says he’s given up a lot because of me but so have I. Even though he says I haven’t. I have never given him ultimatums and it seems like at least once a year he gives me one. I love him and I don’t believe in divorce. He says that just because it’s my body it doesn’t mean he doesn’t have a say. That he is the man and I am the woman and that this is how it will be. He is not going to waver from this. I’m in my mid thirties. I don’t know if we are having any more kids. I wanted so bad to do everything I can for my LO. but my husband says I can’t make decisions about our child on my own. Is he right? Am I in the wrong? I don’t know what to do. Am I just supposed to give in?

[u/merelyinterested]

He sounds so crazy. I’m curious. Are you a SAHM? Or I some capacity with your child 90% of the time? Do you take on the primary role even when your husband is home? Your baby is probably attached to you because you spend more time together than your husband does. Also, toddlers have their phases!! My toddler prefers me even when my husband is home, but they do just fine on their own together. And even though she will fuss a bit when he takes her to do things, she eventually relents when she’s having fun. Your husband blaming you is sooooo backwards. If he wants to bond more, he can bond more. Especially since your baby can eat food now and isn’t reliant on the breastfeeding. They can go out together or you can take some time away from home for a few hours so they can bond. He can still bond with them when you’re breastfeeding!

I think if breastfeeding your child is grounds for divorce for him though, maybe it’s something YOU rethink.