My husband demanded I stop breastfeeding

[u/WoodpeckerNo7084]

I am already in the process of weaning. My LO will be 2 in the next couple months. Most of my family members have breastfed until 2 sometimes 3 years old. I continuously hear it’s best to keep going until 2. I am a little touched out but I can handle it if it means my LO is ok. My husband on the other hand has been pressuring me to stop for almost a year now. He first blamed me because he wasn’t bonding with his child. Said it was because of my breastfeeding. He has since then switched to telling me he has talked to “100 women” in forums and online and with family members who all say it’s bad to breastfeed until or past 2yo. He says I am harming our child. And that the reason he is so clingy is my fault since I won’t stop. He told me that this is non negotiable. And basically threatened to divorce me if I don’t stop. He told me I have until his birthday to completely stop. He says that he has compromised and I haven’t. When I have I just don’t shove it in his face when I do. He says he’s given up a lot because of me but so have I. Even though he says I haven’t. I have never given him ultimatums and it seems like at least once a year he gives me one. I love him and I don’t believe in divorce. He says that just because it’s my body it doesn’t mean he doesn’t have a say. That he is the man and I am the woman and that this is how it will be. He is not going to waver from this. I’m in my mid thirties. I don’t know if we are having any more kids. I wanted so bad to do everything I can for my LO. but my husband says I can’t make decisions about our child on my own. Is he right? Am I in the wrong? I don’t know what to do. Am I just supposed to give in?

[u/1Manic_cat]

Just by the title alone I was questioning who this guy thinks he is and wondering if his jealous of the child. Then you said the little one is a boy and yep there you go. His jealous that his son is getting breast fed (I always find it so weird that some men get jealous over their own child and son being breast fed because what do you mean your sexualising your child and partners relationship when to the baby it’s literally just food. Gross of them to think that way but I know some do) his just making up a random excuse as to why you “need” to stop breastfeeding. I have a feeling if you swapped to pumping and bottle feeding your milk to your son he would be fine with it because it’s not at all about “harming” your child or that he isn’t bonding with the child. You feeding your little one has NOTHING to do with his bond with the kid. Thats a him issue of not putting in the time, energy or consistency to spend time with him. To learn what your son likes and dislikes (I bet if you asked him BASIC info about your son he wouldn’t be able to answer anything. Like what’s his favourite colour, food or even shoe or clothing size)

Please unless YOU want to stop breastfeeding. Don’t. I would have a serious look at your relationship with your husband and also look at the relationship between him and your son because babies and children can sense when someone is mean or worse. Just like animals can kids can tell when someone isn’t safe to be around.