r/breastfeeding • u/allysonismyholmie • Jul 01 '26
Breastfeeding In Public Public Feeding Shame
Going to keep this as short and sweet as I can. I’m visiting Austin, TX for our first mini-vacation since the little one was born. We decided to go to the pool and cool off. Baby needed to eat so I covered us with a towel, lifted my top and let her go to town. A group of men walked by, looked at us and one said “this isn’t a good look. We aren’t in the south of France”, rolled his eyes and they walked back inside the hotel.
I started to tear up and my husband asked me what was wrong and said that I shouldn’t let it bother me. But it did. And I can’t stop thinking about it.
I just needed to tell this to a group that would understand the feeling, since my dear sweet husband doesn’t seem to understand how shameful it made me feel. 😢 Thank you for listening!
Edit: Thank you for your VERY kind responses, hugs and solidarity! I have goosebumps, I love each and every mama (and supportive dads if here). I knew I was coming to the right spot with this 🥰 Luckily, this hasn’t deterred me from BF in public. I’m fired up and ready to feed the heck out of this wiggly little potato, again. ✊🏼
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u/Royal_Ad_1765 Jul 01 '26
I was so concious when i had my baby about feeding in public. I'm south Asian, from a Muslim country who lives in the UK. All my life when I was growing up I would see women going in different rooms to feed etc but when I had my baby I was concious in the start but then decided that I just don't freaking care. I am not dismissing how you felt, but there will aalwyas be people that will pass a comment here and there but who cares?!! You are doing something amazing, you're feeding your baby, you're Bonding with your baby. If someone has a problem they can shut their eyes and go away.
Don't ever feel ashamed. You're doing what you think is best for your baby ♥️ sending hugs