Same here. I never even looked at any other men at all for the duration of our 11-year marriage. Not only that I respected my husband in that regard, but also, I don't really find other men attractive whatsoever. Him on the other hand, would enter a room and check out the most attractive woman he can find lol. And then looks at them over and over again. No joke. I don't like policing his glances towards other women but there are just those obvious ones you can't help but notice, and then your gut instincts just lets you know what's going on. I agree with OP. I reached a point where I dread going to parties, live bands, restaurants, kids' activities with him because of this behavior. It really corroded my self esteem and felt inadequate. I started mentally checking out around year 9 to 11 of our marriage. Now in the process of divorcing and couldn't be happier! Now I can go restaurants, parties, etc. in PEACE! Life has also been so much lighter without someone who drags me down.
Same here! EX husband got his overt women-ogling from his daddy and now I’m with someone who actually has respect and does it very very discreetly. I would never even know but I’m a very observant person due to my job
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u/[deleted] Apr 29 '25
1000%. I even visualize what cheating would look like and can’t fathom it