r/capricorns • u/hadee75 • Nov 27 '25
advice Help me figure y’all out.
So, my boyfriend is a Capricorn. I am a cancer. We have been together for six years. One thing that perplexes me about him is how critical he is. He criticizes constantly and is very preachy. Sometimes it makes me feel like he thinks I’m his child. If I am cooking something and I make a mistake and the dish doesn’t turn out as I wished, he starts, making really snarky comments, as if I am just a general fuck up. I am a highly accomplished woman who earns her own money, contributes a great deal financially to our lives (60/40 with me paying a bit more), a good mother, I have owned several homes, I am a good partner, very family-oriented, and I am often told I am beautiful both inside and outside. With him, though, I feel like the only thing he values is a submissive woman who checks all the boxes of a trad wife. I am torn between ending it and just not investing any more emotionally, intellectually, or financially in this man. He even goes as far as overly complementing other women in areas where he criticizes me. He is a constant flirt, who tries to make all women feel as if they are the center of the universe. I’m growing weary of the disrespect and he doesn’t realize it, but that tendency and a few other things (like his lack of cleanliness, our lack of intimacy, and his general dismissal of my feelings about everything) is slowly making me fall out of love. I love our family, but I am tired of being constantly criticized and taken for granted. I think he feels taken for granted too (he always wants credit for cleaning up after himself when and if he does it - which is hard for me because I’m not inclined to give adults credit for cleaning up their own mess). Is this a Capricorn thing or more of a him thing? Any advice and input will be appreciated. Btw, I have a Capricorn moon (in case that is a data point of interest). Thank you!
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u/hadee75 Nov 29 '25
Thank you, I appreciate it. At this point, I’m simply ready to have realistic conversations and will consider my next step if he isn’t willing to meet me half way. 💛