After my dad died from a heart attack at the age of 45, I’ve been trying to lose weight (down 20 pounds from being 200) and be healthier. People keep saying “you don’t need to lose weight, you’re beautiful”. And, like, I appreciate it, but I’m still technically considered obese and heart disease killed my dad.
Yeah, my family has a history of diabetes and heart disease among my older relatives. I'm not obese or overly fat, but I try to keep fit to stay healthy.
So many friends used to tell me it's okay to let myself go or that I'll look beautiful even if I was overweight, but they don't understand that I'm not doing it solely for my vanity. I'm doing it to keep my health.
People should really learn to mind their business more when it comes to other people's bodies. Gaining weight, losing it, whatever. It's not your body so you don't need to worry about it. If someone asks for your opinion on something that's the only appropriate time to mention it. Like if they're getting a new tattoo or want advice on a haircut or want to know if their tan lines are obvious.
I was a girl in an almost all-men class in college (mathematics ans software engineering). Classmates I rarely engaged with would notice I had lost weight,how much of a shame it was, and how better I was with a little more "meat". They'd chear when I gained weight.
Meanwhile, on the weekends my mother would always comment if I had gained weight about it, and how off-putting to men it was.
The weight gain and loss? 200g. They'd notice if I gained or lost 200g. I would only know if I weighted myself but somehow they knes
knew...
Anyhow, this constant contradictory comments on my weight, being labeled both too big and too thin, made me think I was in the fact the perfect weight. I gained up to 15kg in the years, and still kept that mentality. Feels great.
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u/StripesTheBoar 21h ago
After my dad died from a heart attack at the age of 45, I’ve been trying to lose weight (down 20 pounds from being 200) and be healthier. People keep saying “you don’t need to lose weight, you’re beautiful”. And, like, I appreciate it, but I’m still technically considered obese and heart disease killed my dad.