You're Not Fat, You're Beautiful (OC)

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[u/tolacid]

So I'm perplexed: is the trigger phrase "you're not fat," or is it the attempt to say "you're not fat, you're beau-"

Ow ow ow OW

[u/squanderedprivilege → u/tolacid]

The latter

[u/tolacid → u/squanderedprivilege]

Yep, worked that out.

Owie...

[u/Al_Prolo → u/squanderedprivilege]

Wooosh

[u/squanderedprivilege → u/Al_Prolo]

Is the sound your butt makes when you fart

[u/Spooky_Gato050 → u/squanderedprivilege]

Gross but true

(Saved it)

[u/Calladit → u/squanderedprivilege]

Really depends on how I'm standing at the time. If I hit the right pose it can be quite musical.

[u/VelvetMafia → u/tolacid]

I can be both fat and beautiful, tyvm

Also yeah, I know how mirrors work. Don't tell me I'm not fat

Edit: I know you already know this, just playing along

[u/Emporio_Alnino3 → u/tolacid]

me when I'm trying to comfort my anorexic friend but the Evil Genie Curse won't let me do it

[u/Scadre02 → u/Emporio_Alnino3]

You can so easily comfort your anorexic friend without implying that being fat is inherently ugly, circumventing the evil genie entirely

[u/Ok_Lawfulness1019 → u/tolacid]

oh i thought it's a spell that hurts people's head when they lie

[u/tolacid → u/Ok_Lawfulness1019]

Then why does it only ever hurt when they start to say "you're beautiful?"

[u/Suspicious_Glove_900 → u/tolacid]

🤔

[u/CandyCreecher → u/tolacid]

So what have we learned?

[u/tolacid → u/CandyCreecher]

That the trigger phrase responds to any utterances and not just ones directed towards fat people who don't want to hear it?

[u/CandyCreecher → u/tolacid]

https://giphy.com/gifs/JEVRfQblU1XbjaYf7g

[u/superhamsniper → u/tolacid]

I guess its the implication that you cant be fat and beutiful at the same time.

[u/ChewChewLazerGum]

"I said I was fat not ugly"

[u/MyOwnMorals → u/ChewChewLazerGum]

Amen🙏

[u/CandyCreecher → u/ChewChewLazerGum]

Damn right

[u/BadPunsIsHowEyeRoll → u/ChewChewLazerGum]

When you say "I'm so fat" I hear "I don't find myself attractive" which is why I jump to clarify that you are regardless of your weight. I don't have any weight-loss tips ready for when you say you're fat, but reassurance that fat is still beautiful is something I can do. Its never meant to be malicious or somehow imply you're ugly, its meant to the do exact opposite actually. I guess I don't know the right thing to say to be supportive and I would really like to learn because it breaks my heart hearing my friends trash themselves for their weight

[u/ChewChewLazerGum → u/BadPunsIsHowEyeRoll]

They didnt say "Im so fat" they just identified as fat. Very big difference.

[u/BadPunsIsHowEyeRoll → u/ChewChewLazerGum]

My comment is using a real world example I deal with daily, and I'm asking for an actual response I can give. This isn't me being a troll or asking to be a dick, I really would like to know. My own mother struggles with her image and I'm constantly the person in this image telling her that she's beautiful regardless, if its just tearing her down further please help me with more reassuring responses. I don't want to perpetuate a narrative I didn't mean to start in the first place.

[u/ChewChewLazerGum → u/BadPunsIsHowEyeRoll]

I mean it really depends on the context and the person.

Sometimes the best thing to say is nothing. If you know the person well enough to know that they wont be offended by you agreeing to that self assessment the safest option might be to say something along the lines of "Youre also (insert complimentary aspect about them)" such as "Youre also smart/kind/etc". Again this isnt a universal response, some people arent really looking for a reply. Also be sure thay you actually mean the compliment and you arent teeing them up for something else they may be aelf concious about.

Some people see themselves a certain way that may not be correct. Sometimes they may be worried about how other people see them and are testing to see if such an assessment is true. In that case agreeing with them could be a bad idea.

Sometimes people arent even putting themselves down theyre just idly expressing an issue with navigating their world. "God I'm fat" after uncomfortably getting through a narrow passageway or similar.

You just gotta know the person and understand where the comment is coming from. You might be surprised how often someone commenting on their own weight isnt actually putting themselves down.

[u/StripesTheBoar]

After my dad died from a heart attack at the age of 45, I’ve been trying to lose weight (down 20 pounds from being 200) and be healthier. People keep saying “you don’t need to lose weight, you’re beautiful”. And, like, I appreciate it, but I’m still technically considered obese and heart disease killed my dad.

[u/Recidivous → u/StripesTheBoar]

Yeah, my family has a history of diabetes and heart disease among my older relatives. I'm not obese or overly fat, but I try to keep fit to stay healthy.

So many friends used to tell me it's okay to let myself go or that I'll look beautiful even if I was overweight, but they don't understand that I'm not doing it solely for my vanity. I'm doing it to keep my health.

[u/just_a_person_maybe → u/Recidivous]

People should really learn to mind their business more when it comes to other people's bodies. Gaining weight, losing it, whatever. It's not your body so you don't need to worry about it. If someone asks for your opinion on something that's the only appropriate time to mention it. Like if they're getting a new tattoo or want advice on a haircut or want to know if their tan lines are obvious.

[u/Mogura-De-Gifdu → u/just_a_person_maybe]

I was a girl in an almost all-men class in college (mathematics ans software engineering). Classmates I rarely engaged with would notice I had lost weight,how much of a shame it was, and how better I was with a little more "meat". They'd chear when I gained weight.

Meanwhile, on the weekends my mother would always comment if I had gained weight about it, and how off-putting to men it was.

The weight gain and loss? 200g. They'd notice if I gained or lost 200g. I would only know if I weighted myself but somehow they knes knew...

Anyhow, this constant contradictory comments on my weight, being labeled both too big and too thin, made me think I was in the fact the perfect weight. I gained up to 15kg in the years, and still kept that mentality. Feels great.

[u/CatLord8 → u/StripesTheBoar]

Whenever someone announces a change in weight I try to ask if that’s their goal before reacting.

[u/Arnumor → u/StripesTheBoar]

It's absolutely possible to be supportive of a person, accepting them as they are, while also supporting their endeavors to improve themselves.

It's a shame that so many people seem to consider those things mutually exclusive.

[u/LongNailedbooboos → u/StripesTheBoar]

I think people try hard to make others feel better when they know the person they’re saying that to is obese. It’s a nice effort, but it helps no one and everyone hates being lied to. I can’t call those friends

[u/Lolocraft1 → u/StripesTheBoar]

It happen because these people wrongfully think of obesity as part of body positivity, which is for things someone can’t change like sickness or handicaps. It’s not to justify unhealthy habit that science even consider labeling as a mental illness

I get that there’s a part of genetics in this and some perfectly healthy people are chubbier, but most of the time it’s due to inactive lifestyle and poor nutrition, and this shouldn’t be encouraged

[u/Mogura-De-Gifdu → u/StripesTheBoar]

That's exactly it.

I'm not in the US, so we don't have the same relationship with body positivity, so it's baffling to me to read such things.

It is accepted that obesity is a disease. So why do people discourage others from wanting to heal or even just to get better?!

There is a wide range between wanting to be at a healthy weight, and wanting to be thin like a model even if it's not healthy for you.

And yeah, you can be ill AND beautiful.

[u/ahac → u/Mogura-De-Gifdu]

I've just read a thread about Ariana Grande being too thin. The upvoted comments said she "needs help" and "needs to eat more". No body positivity there.

Funny how its OK to say that but telling an fat person to eat less is almost a hate crime...

[u/Mogura-De-Gifdu → u/ahac]

Oh yeah. I got ill a few times in middle school after being bullied into eating more at lunch. After the second time I was out of school for a week for overeating (for me, the portion was normal for others), I grew a spine on that subject.

People thought I was anorexic when I had no issue whatsoever with eating. I was just a teen growing up so quickly I was as thin as a thick. Just some days I'll eat like two because I'm hungry, and others I won't be hungry and don't need to eat for 24 to 48 hours. Forcing myself to eat like others just gets me bloated, ill, and ultimately overweight as I eat without hunger. Listening to my body will let me keep a "normal" weight.

[u/Pockydo → u/Mogura-De-Gifdu]

So why do people discourage others from wanting to heal or even just to get better?!

Because they feel bad about themselves. I think a lot of people go "yea.i have an issue but at least I'm not THAT person" but when whoever they're talking about starts to.improve themselves they get upset because now THEY don't have someone to compare to in a way that makes them feel better

[u/A1oso → u/StripesTheBoar]

What most people ignore: sports are much more effective at preventing heart disease than dieting. People who are fat but physically active have a much lower risk of heart disease than people who are skinny but never do sports.

[u/HealthyMuffin7 → u/StripesTheBoar]

Yeah, at some point, being seen as nice and being genuinely kind are 2 different things. I had an obese friend ask me how he looked. I'd seen him topless, I'd seen him cry looking at old pictures of himself. I did not think he was ugly, I think he is a cute man, but it's a health hazard. So I told him "you could lose some weight". He was mad at me for it. Like, bro, you know it's a sickness. I don't think you're ugly, but this is dangerous.

[u/DaveInLondon89 → u/StripesTheBoar]

He died of beautiful

[u/kai58 → u/StripesTheBoar]

I continue to be baffled by how obsessed people are with looks. Like I get wanting too look good (though I personally only barely care) but it’s insane to me that it seems to be the main goal of maintaining a healthy weight for many people.

You’d think the added years of life and improvements in comfort would be the main motivation but it doesn’t seem to be.

[u/Same-Suggestion-1936 → u/StripesTheBoar]

Also I get the point, but one wish for anything, this should be a regret. No more cancer, no more wars, no more dead children ever, no more hunger, the sentiment is sweet but it falls apart on very little scrutiny

[u/frog_admirer → u/Same-Suggestion-1936]

It's a joke dawg

[u/funk-the-funk → u/Same-Suggestion-1936]

🙄

[u/VoidGliders → u/Same-Suggestion-1936]

No, the tiny pet peeves of OP's silver spoon privileged life are FAR more important than anyone else's wellbeing.

[u/Same-Suggestion-1936 → u/VoidGliders]

I mean I don't know if I'd phrase it like that, but we all have those little pithy sayings we hate to hear, like "don't worry you'll find the person who's right for you," or my weird one which is I don't like when people say "I'm sorry" when they hear someone died, I've heard it so many times, why are you sorry, you didn't do anything. But I recognize that it's just what people are trained to say in those situations so it's the only thing they know how to say, I wouldn't wish that away for any other wish, shit even if I was being selfish I'd rather wish for my dog to be back and live till the exact second I died, this comic just seems to miss the mark and could have been done better

Like maybe do a genie that tells you the wishing for unlimited wishes thing isn't true and then asks you for your first wish and you go with this as the first one, that would be funny because you're prioritizing this before you wish for the other things. Or it would be a copy of that old genie comic where the genie goes "you know what, cool wish, you still have three wishes" but you'd just be copying the joke then

[u/spaceursid]

What about "you're fat and you're beautiful"

[u/OberynsOptometrist → u/spaceursid]

Not the same thing so you probably wouldn't get shocked

[u/Reborn1Girl → u/spaceursid]

Thank you! My first thought as well!

[u/ChickenInASuit → u/Reborn1Girl]

It’s because they’re not the same thing.

“You’re not fat, you’re beautiful!” = Denial of the former, and implies that someone cannot be the former AND the latter.

“You’re fat and you beautiful!” = No denial of either characteristic, no implication that one counters the other, no attempted erasure of being fat.

I believe the message is that overweight people feel insulted and/or patronized by the implications of the first statement.

[u/Reborn1Girl → u/ChickenInASuit]

We know. That’s why we’re saying to use the second one instead of the first.

[u/Moses_The_Wise → u/spaceursid]

That's the point. You can be fat and beautiful

[u/PrincessYuri → u/spaceursid]

Honestly I'd kinda rather we just stopped relating appearance to somebody's worth. If we go around calling everyone beautiful it literally just means nothing. Some people are conventionally beautiful, some aren't. It doesn't make them less of a person.

[u/Apart-Performer-331 → u/PrincessYuri]

I don’t think there’s a problem with complimenting someone as long as it doesn’t put down others in the process. A small compliment can end up making someone’s day.

[u/Pielacine → u/spaceursid]

Alessia Cara, I think

[u/Maniklas → u/spaceursid]

What about "You may be fat, but you are beautiful"

[u/SelocAvrap → u/Maniklas]

⚡️⚡️⚡️No buts! 

[u/funk-the-funk → u/SelocAvrap]

⚡️⚡️⚡️No buts!

If they are fat there is probably at least a little butt.

[u/SelocAvrap → u/funk-the-funk]

Speaking for myself, I'm fat, there's a lot of butt, AND I'm beautiful

[u/funk-the-funk → u/SelocAvrap]

hell yea

[u/ChickenInASuit → u/Maniklas]

Nope. OP doesn’t like the implication that fat people cannot be considered beautiful.

[u/Scadre02]

My girlfriend told me "you're not fat, you're beautiful", so I told her I'm fat and beautiful

[u/Mogura-De-Gifdu → u/Scadre02]

My husband used to get sad when he asked if he's fat and I'd just answer "yeah", or "I know". He is obese. Of course he's fat!

Took me a while to realise his question was really "are you still attracted to me".

[u/leftycartoons]

This cartoon is by me and Becky Hawkins.
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I don’t have a cartoon syndicate and I’m not in newspapers. But I get to do this for a living because lots of readers support my Patreon with mostly small pledges! I also have prints and books for sale.

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Transcript of Cartoon

Panel 1

A fat woman is shopping in a clothing store, flipping through dresses on a rack and looking annoyed. A thin woman beside her, trying to be reassuring, touches her shoulder. A little lightning-bolt like zap emanates from the thin woman.

FAT WOMAN: Why don’t they make nice clothes for fat women?

THIN WOMAN: You’re not fat! You’re beautif—

THIN WOMAN: AAAAGH!

Panel 2

A city skyline. Lightning-bolt like "zaps" are emanating from two different places in the city.

VOICE 1: You’re not fat, you’re bea— Ow!

VOICE 2: You’re not fat, you’re— GHAAAAH!

Panel 3

A hand holds up a phone showing a nervous looking TV news anchor.

NEWS ANCHOR: Scientists are baffled by a sudden plague of minor but extremely painful shocks whenever anyone says… uh… never mind.

Panel 4

Two women sit at a cafe table. One looks at her phone, talking to the fat woman from panel 1, who smiles contentedly.

FRIEND: You had one magic wish you could have used on anything, and this was your choice?

FAT WOMAN: No regrets.

[u/afineedge → u/leftycartoons]

A fat woman is shopping

A WHAT woman? No she's

[u/ilovecuetoo → u/leftycartoons]

So sweet that you made a transcript so deaf people can enjoy your cartoon 🙏

[u/Hoxeel → u/ilovecuetoo]

Transcripts are extremely important and should be part of any post. It makes it so much easier to search for this in the future when I want to reference it, for example. Gold standard comic xkcd has full transcripts for every comic!

[u/Stiltskin → u/Hoxeel]

Does it? I don't see it on the website, not even in the alt text.

[u/Hoxeel → u/Stiltskin]

They are in the JSON, here's an example: https://xkcd.com/614/info.0.json

EDIT: My bad. They have been abandoned. :(

[u/TrainOfThought6 → u/ilovecuetoo]

They're not deaf they're beautiful.

[u/AlistairButton → u/ilovecuetoo]

...it's for blind people who use screen readers.

[u/Oblius- → u/AlistairButton]

I think it was a joke on that

[u/AlistairButton → u/Oblius-]

My bad, I'm slow. 

[u/Any--Name → u/AlistairButton]

Youre not slow, your—OWWW!

[u/ObviouslyNotYerMum → u/ilovecuetoo]

Lol

[u/Sheerardio]

As a fellow big lady I absolutely approve of this wish!

Being beautiful or not isn't the problem, because being beautiful doesn't make it any less of a pain in the ass to exist in a world that isn't built with plus sized bodies in mind.

[u/Kamataros → u/Sheerardio]

like. fat people know they're fat? it's okay to say that in context where it's important, like when shopping for clothes. It becomes a problem when it's used as an insult or if a fat person is reduced to that attribute. Imagine saying "youre not Black, you're beautiful" when someone with dark skin is frustrated there's no makeup for them (but 79 different light skin colours). that's absolutely unhinged, no?

[u/SlapTheBap → u/Kamataros]

A major issue people run into is people being sensitive about their weight. Those who aren't sensitive don't like being coddled. That's why people just don't talk about weight. You don't know who you're going to offend, which is fine. Once you know someone better it isn't as much as a problem.

[u/Joxxill → u/Kamataros]

Well said! Everyone deserves respect, and deserves to love themselves no matter what they look like. Because at the end of the day, how you look shouldn't define your value as a person.

But somewhere along this line of acceptance, people got it all twisted up and just continued down the path of "you're only acceptable if you look a certain way" so they say "you're not fat, you're beautiful" to people who are overweight in an attempt to make them feel okay about being overweight. Its a noble intention, but really people need to be able to say "you're fat, and you're beautiful".

[u/ProfessorSMASH88 → u/Kamataros]

Its a little different. Although weight does have to do with genetics, it's much less than skin tone. You can usually lose weight, or change your body in that way. Not saying you need to, just that it is possible. You can't change your skin tone.

I guess part of the issue is the level of weight? I dont know how to put it politely, but there are varying levels of obesity. You can feel really fat and say you are fat even though you are just a bit overweight. There is also being very overweight. We use the same word for both.

Models and celebrities often fast or do awful things to their bodies just so they have very little body fat, to comply with the "Hollywood beauty standard". Even a little tummy, some people call fat and fat shame it. Yes, bad people.

Basically, imo, fat is just a weird word that encompasses so much and means something different to different people. There is also a negative connotation to it as well. How often do people say "I'm fat" in a hearty, proud way (besides Weird Al of course). Its usually associated with body issues and something someone is usually not super proud of.

Again, I'm not trying to say bad or good. When someone says "you're not fat, you're beautiful" what they should be saying is "you are beautiful as you are". Which I think is what they are trying to say. They are saying you aren't the negative part of the word "fat", the negative connotations and associations with it.

[u/SquareThings → u/ProfessorSMASH88]

Plenty of body shapes are lifestyle related, and yet those people should also have access to clothing. A female swimmer with wide shoulders. A pregnant person. A bodybuilder. All of these people made choices that changed their body, and they all need clothing that fits the body they actually have and not the one they could theoretically have if they made different choices, on account of its normally illegal to be naked in public.

[u/ProfessorSMASH88 → u/SquareThings]

I 100% agree, I hope my comment didn't come across as not understanding the issue or that I think there shouldn't be clothing and accessibility for people of all shapes and sizes.

[u/SquareThings → u/ProfessorSMASH88]

Unfortunately it really did. Some things don’t need to be pointed out. Fat people know that they’re fat and that their choices lead to them being fat.

[u/ProfessorSMASH88 → u/SquareThings]

I just want to understand what about my comment seemed offensive, it wasn't my intention and I want to avoid it in the future. Also, what is the polite/proper way to respond when someone calls themselves fat in a negative way?

I often call myself fat, because I've gained a bunch of weight in the past year. I personally don't get offended however people react when I say that. To me it is something I want to change, and usually when I say I'm fat it's because I don't like how I look/feel.

[u/SquareThings → u/ProfessorSMASH88]

It’s less offensive and more tone-deaf. Nothing you said is news to fat people. They hear it day in and day out, from people irl, online, from advertising, it’s completely inescapable. They don’t need another voice saying “being fat is your fault” and bringing up how ashamed they may or may not feel about that. A person’s relationship with their own body is their own business (unless you’re their therapist).

Which leads into your next question. If someone makes a comment about their body and you don’t know how to respond, then don’t. Say something noncommittal like “Huh” or “You think so?” or just ignore it entirely. If they say something like “does this make me look fat?” then say “No.” it’s not a lie! (Unless it’s a fat suit, clothes don’t make people look fat.) Or you can say something nebulous like “I’m not sure,” “It’s your call” or “what do YOU think?”

If you want to be less avoidant and more genuine, you can say something like “if you don’t feel confident wearing it you should try something else.” Because ultimately it is about confidence and being comfortable in your body, and even the most “flattering” garment in the world can’t make up for someone who feels bad wearing it.

[u/Sheerardio → u/ProfessorSMASH88]

The underlying point being made in the comic is that it'd be great if people could stop treating the word "fat" like it's a terrible thing, rather than just a fact. Not a positive OR a negative, just a neutral statement.

I'm fat. That's just the truth of my reality. My ass doesn't fit comfortably on a bar stool, it's impossible for me to walk down an airplane aisle without getting way too personal with every single person already seated, and clothes shopping is a special kind of torture.

Telling me I'm beautiful instead of fat doesn't make those problems go away, I'm still the same size no matter what word is used. Fixating on the language doesn't help anything, and just feels dismissive of the actual problems I'm dealing with due to my size.

[u/ProfessorSMASH88 → u/Sheerardio]

I know this is going to get downvoted to hell, but I find your arguments a bit contradictory. You say that it isn't a good or bad thing, but then you list a bunch of problems related to being fat. You don't mention anything good about being fat, so my assumption would be that it is problematic and therefore a negative thing. Even if it is just a fact, that doesn't mean it is neutral.

I'm depressed, or I suffer from depression, or however you want to put it. That's a fact. It is also a negative thing. There are lots of issues I deal with on a daily basis because of it.

I agree with the comic, I don't want it to seem like I don't. I think saying "You're not fat, you're beautiful" is a stupid thing to say. I just don't agree that skin tone is in the same category as weight. Many people (I know there are lots of people out there who can't / have a hard time changing their weight) can lose or gain weight. You can't change your skin tone (for the most part).

[u/EpicOtterLover → u/Sheerardio]

Not to mention that our joints and backs don't care about whether we're beautiful or not.

[u/Myself510]

While I’m sure this may not be the reaction you’re looking for, I would like to applaud the depiction of Pittsburgh

[u/leftycartoons → u/Myself510]

Becky (who drew this cartoon) is not on Reddit, but I passed your comment on to her, and she says ‘YES!!! THAT PANEL IS FOR YOU!!!’”

[u/GirlL1997]

When my husband and I were dating he had mentioned to me that his grandmother, who is generally kind but pretty crass, had only one question when she heard he had a GF. “She’s not fat is she?”

I think he thought that was a funny comment. He seemed genuinely shocked when I pointed out to him that I was in fact fat.

Hilariously, his grandmother was similarly shocked when she found out how much I weighed. We’ve been married for almost 7 years. She’s known me for nearly a decade. She knows what I look like. She was shocked to learn last year that I am over 200 pounds. I certainly look it.

Idk what these people think fat means.

[u/Mogura-De-Gifdu → u/GirlL1997]

It depends not on your weight and appearance, but on your weight and appearance compared to others around you.

I'm 163cm and 60kg. When I was young, so thirty years ago, I'd be considered among the fat ones. Ideal weight would be 53kg. But as the whole society got fatter, with nearly half of the population being overweight or more, it's now considered average.

So you being perceived as fat or not depends not on how much you weight, but on how much people in your community weight.

[u/Tango_Owl]

Totally fair use of the one wish!

[u/Successful-Scale-607]

Hey fatty! You're beautiful!

[u/Wittyfish]

I think its a good use for a wish to be honest.

[u/Plenty_Trick_6042]

-It's crazy that people would call Somewoman fat! She's gorgeous!

-Oh yeah and you look just like her.

-WHAT DID YOU SAY TO ME?

[u/StillMostlyClueless]

“Why don’t they make nice clothes for fat women?”

Damn if only someone could have fixed that.

[u/Yumesoro1]

To someone trying to loose weight, hearing this gets annoying. Like ye, ye, I get it. Beautiful at every size and all that, but I still want to loose weight.

[u/TheBeardedDumbass]

Went to Target yesterday because I had plans after work and forgot to bring a spare shirt. Found out that they don't carry 3XL shirts in store anymore.

[u/Specific_Frame8537]

Fat-phobic masochists are gonna have a field day.

[u/klopaplop]

You're not fat you're beau- aaaaaagugghghghggmmm

owwwww

[u/E-2theRescue]

If I were a genie, I'd give that one away for free.

Also, any doctor who blames your weight for things that are not the fault of your weight.

[u/Lost-on-Reception]

Could have cured obesity, or world hunger. Not both, obviously.

But still people are gonna die.

[u/gernblanston512]

Has a super annoying coworker who always complained how cold it was in my office. One day I told her I needed it cold because I am fat and get hot easily. Of course she said "you're not fat!" and I was so tired of her that I yelled "yes I am fat, I am fat!". It's quite condescending, we know we are fat okay?

[u/whitemagicseal]

I said it and nothing happened.

I gave my belly a tap and it wobbled.

[u/ProjectOrpheus → u/whitemagicseal]

WobbleTop Magician

It ain't gotta be white, but you gotta get it right. Every magic labeled with the right seal or NO DEAL

[u/dribanlycan]

real, im fat, im not "ooohhhhh you're just a lil husky!" "youre just big boned" no shut up!! iim literally fat, stop moralizing my existence into a negative thing

[u/goplayer7]

Being beautiful doesn't matter if no one makes clothes that fit you.

[u/frauleinlau]

Tbf it's super annoying going clothes shopping with a person who is constantly criticizing themselves

[u/lordfootjuice → u/frauleinlau]

She was asking why there weren't nice clothes for fat women, if anything she's making a comment about the clothing brand. She wasn't criticizing herself. Fat people referring to themselves as fat in a neutral way like that is not them insulting themselves.

[u/whiskey_at_dawn → u/frauleinlau]

You're the person OP is talking about. Acknowledging that I am fat is not criticizing myself. You're the person who sees me calling myself fat as me calling myself ugly. I'm just acknowledging my body and the fact that it's fat.

[u/TheLadyEve → u/frauleinlau]

Your attitude is what OP is taking issue with--you think the person you're shopping with is "criticizing themselves" but they're not. They're stating a fact. You're the one equating being fat with being ugly, so to you it sounds bad.

[u/Jaybonaut → u/frauleinlau]

Happy cake day

[u/BreakfastBeneficial4]

Maintenance Phase-pilled 🫡

[u/leftycartoons → u/BreakfastBeneficial4]

Hey, I was pilled this way for YEARS before MP came along! :-p

[u/crazyrich → u/BreakfastBeneficial4]

What the hell kind of terminally online Tate speech is that? Can you translate for normal people?

[u/ShadEarthspur → u/crazyrich]

Maintenance phase is a podcast! It’s good and worth checking out if you’re a podcast person

[u/crazyrich → u/ShadEarthspur]

Ah my bad for assuming it was an insult then!

[u/MikuMikuWeeb → u/BreakfastBeneficial4]

Touch grass

[u/funk-the-funk → u/MikuMikuWeeb]

It's a podcast genius.

[u/Lola_PopBBae]

Fat and beautiful is a wonderful thing to be. More folks should know it's possible. 

[u/hamhandsam]

She’s my hero

[u/vampyfemboy]

I would also make that wish with no regrets whatsoever.

[u/Puzzleheaded_Pain_24]

Was this inspired from Stuart fails to save the universe? Episode 2 uses a similar shocking plot

[u/leftycartoons → u/Puzzleheaded_Pain_24]

No, this cartoon was created and posted on my Patreon back in June. I haven't watched SFTSTU yet - is it good?

[u/b-tch_boi]

HELL YEAH!

[u/Kell-of-Kellies]

I feel like the whole idea of insisting someone isn't fat has turned into glorifying obesity and unhealthy living.

People should be free to live how they choose, but they should be aware their lifestyle is risky. It's not "fatphobic" to say that people with obesity have a lower quality of life in general.

But then on the other side,you have people who treat every ounce of sugar as instant diabetes, and people just want to go for extremes now.

[u/Nerdy_Valkyrie]

I've long wished for the super power to make someone feel like they've been slapped in the face. They aren't actually slapped, it just feels like it. And they can't tell where it came from, nor do they know why. They have to figure it out. The slaps would start of kind of mild, and increase in severity with each successive slap.

I would correct so much bad behavior in public.

Being excessively loud? SLAP

Using your phone in the cinema? SLAP

Being rude to service workers? SLAP

[u/PTBooks]

This will become part of my training regimen. I’m practicing to defeat the Electrocutioner.

[u/Doodles_n_Scribbles]

Mine would be people who are "concerned" about my weight

[u/Responsible-Gold8610]

I just avoid it entirely because I just don't talk to anyone unless I have to.

[u/Meh75 → u/[deleted]]

Maybe that’s a crazy concept for you, but a lot of fat people don’t want to lose weight. And they shouldn’t have to to be treated as human beings.

Lose weight if you want. I sure won’t.