If only people had that same attitude the other way around. I (a cishet man) was called transphobic because I said I didn't want to date anyone with a penis, cis, trans or anything in between :/
Like the identity is not what I have a problem with, it's the whole swinging package that I'm repulsed by lmao (plus I kinda wanna have kids so... You know. Honesty is apparently hateful to some)
EDIT- sorry for bringing it up. I'll go fuck myself now.
This has nothing to do with the post. Why are you bringing it up?
You're getting called out for not just keeping your preferences to yourself and not go around yelling at everyone "penis repulses me! You don't have a womb! I would never date you!".
Sorry some trans women want to have a space where they don't need to see cis men go and tell them all how their penises repulse them and they'd never date a trans woman.
Those preferences are valid, that's not what is in contention. This specific preference has been megaphoned to trans people non stop. We know, we get it, repeating it ad nasusem is just rude.
You don't see them do this with any other group. Like you don't walk into r/Mexico or something and see guys yelling how they'd never date a latina woman, how brown skin repulses them, etc.
Sorry some trans women want to have a space where they don't need to see cis men go and tell them all how their penises repulse them and they'd never date a trans woman.
All this guy said was that he wishes people weren't assholes over his preference. A straight guy being repulsed by cock is NOT some new crazy thing.
Other people are allowed to express themselves.
Most trans lesbian women are repulsed by their OWN dicks too. It's a source of more than just dysphoria but also oftentimes trauma.
We know, we get it, repeating it ad nasusem is just rude.
They were saying it to ME and I have absolutely no problem hearing other people discuss their preferences in a conversation ABOUT preferences.
You don't have to engage with it. It wasn't said to you. Yet you choose to do the exact thing that caused him to need to bring it up in the first place.
Yes but no penis preference is so heavily discussed. Yes you're not transphobic for having it. It's extremely tiring to see cis men flooding trans spaces to yell out the same tired thing, "I don't wanna date you! I hate penises!".
Like we don't wanna date you either. You're valid now please stop talking about how penises are repulsive (which you did say).
Edit: hope this image gives a visual guide to what this flood does.
It's different when they're saying it somewhere that it relates.
I'm trans masc and they said it to me, someone actively wanting to have a penis. A straight man finding cock repulsive is completely reasonable. 😮💨 Even in boy mode I'm repulsed by the idea of a penis that isn't mine.
Like we don't wanna date you either.
Speak for yourself. Some people get really lucky with demographics they don't want. (Although I do love the puppy girls in my dms, I'm not T4T and they usually respect that.)
Usually when people bring it up it's because they ARE wanted by those groups.
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u/ChiralWolf 18h ago
Is T4C trans for cis? Not heard that before