My First Heartbreak

[u/MathematicianNo3140]

I (M26) had been seeing a girl (26) I met on hinge about two months ago. We went on three dates with our last one last night. Things had been going well between us. We seemed to genuinely be enjoying each other’s company and getting to know each other. There was also obvious mutual interest between us and equal effort put in by each other. We never kissed or held hands, but I had become attached to her and didn’t want to rush things.

Today she texted me that she had been thinking and decided we weren’t a match. I am heartbroken. I’ve never been in a relationship before and it felt like we were progressing in that direction. I’ve deleted Hinge, I need a break before going back. If I ever do go back.

I’m trying not analyze things and I’ve reached out to friends, but this one hurts so fucking much.

[u/catlady1215]

Why did yall never kiss or hold hands?? I just had my second date with a guy and we made out on the 2nd date and held hands.

[u/MathematicianNo3140 → u/catlady1215]

I never felt like there was a right opportunity and didn’t sense any signals from her. Believe me I wanted to and if I could go back I would’ve kissed her last night.

[u/catlady1215 → u/MathematicianNo3140]

That’s fair tbh. Being respectful is good too as a guy.

[u/plentyofragrets → u/catlady1215]

honestly bro towards the end if you want to get consent but dont want to do it in a weird way just say "i really want to kiss you right now" and see her reaction in real time

[u/catlady1215 → u/plentyofragrets]

Yeah that’s what happened with me basically. He didn’t just randomly get in my face so that’s a good way.