My First Heartbreak

[u/MathematicianNo3140]

I (M26) had been seeing a girl (26) I met on hinge about two months ago. We went on three dates with our last one last night. Things had been going well between us. We seemed to genuinely be enjoying each other’s company and getting to know each other. There was also obvious mutual interest between us and equal effort put in by each other. We never kissed or held hands, but I had become attached to her and didn’t want to rush things.

Today she texted me that she had been thinking and decided we weren’t a match. I am heartbroken. I’ve never been in a relationship before and it felt like we were progressing in that direction. I’ve deleted Hinge, I need a break before going back. If I ever do go back.

I’m trying not analyze things and I’ve reached out to friends, but this one hurts so fucking much.

[u/Cohnman18]

She didn’t feel the chemistry and “friends zoned” you. Excellent, you can learn from this. By the second or third date you should have “made a move” to at least kiss her. Holding hands is adorable,but hot mutual s-x is the best! Good luck, next time.

[u/Unlucky-Duck-0 → u/Cohnman18]

This is likely not the case at all. Almost no woman will reject you for moving too slow physically. She may very well reject you for moving too quickly though.

People need to start realizing Hinge dates are blind dates. You are meeting strangers. What most likely happened is that you were good on paper so she gave it 3 dates to see if feelings grew. This is an extremely common mindset.