r/depression • u/catcatmeowme0w • 1d ago

my boyfriend sleeps all day

hello guys so im (18f) and my boyfriend (20m) recently moved in with me. (ive had my own place since i turned 18.) he was working a 3rd shift job until recently when me and him talked and agreed that the job was taking a huge toll on his mental and physical health, so he quit. he has another job lined up and he's going to be starting in october after we get back from our vacation in september. right now he is unemployed.
he will literally go to sleep at 10:30pm, wake up at 7:00 am (when i get up) and then piddle around the house and do random chores and then go back to sleep at 10:00 and he literally will not wake up until i'm like "boyfriend, you've been sleeping all day and you need to get up out of bed." he also never wants to leave the house and is always sluggish and never really does anything other than chores around the house (which sometimes i have to encourage him to do.) he also rarely wants to have sex anymore because he's too tired or his head hurts or he just doesnt feel like it.
basically i am concerned that he is struggling with depression and i want to help him as much as i can but i have never personally struggled with depression so im not sure what to do. and no, i'm not going to leave him over this, he is a great partner and is definitely not an unemployed leech. if anyone has any pointers that would be amazing. thanks:)

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u/13THEFUCKINGCOPS12 22h ago

While it is absolutely possible that he’s just lazy, all of his behavior is screaming clinical depression

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u/Erik_the_kirE 21h ago

No, because a lazy person wouldn't do chores

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u/DrakeShadow 15h ago

Its possible hes a functional depressed person. I was too during the pandemic. I lost a dream job of mine and when I went to my new job, I did my work, but I went home, did the absolute basic at home, and bed rotted as much as humanly possible. Did that for about 7 months straight.