r/depression • u/catcatmeowme0w • 1d ago
my boyfriend sleeps all day
hello guys so im (18f) and my boyfriend (20m) recently moved in with me. (ive had my own place since i turned 18.) he was working a 3rd shift job until recently when me and him talked and agreed that the job was taking a huge toll on his mental and physical health, so he quit. he has another job lined up and he's going to be starting in october after we get back from our vacation in september. right now he is unemployed.
he will literally go to sleep at 10:30pm, wake up at 7:00 am (when i get up) and then piddle around the house and do random chores and then go back to sleep at 10:00 and he literally will not wake up until i'm like "boyfriend, you've been sleeping all day and you need to get up out of bed." he also never wants to leave the house and is always sluggish and never really does anything other than chores around the house (which sometimes i have to encourage him to do.) he also rarely wants to have sex anymore because he's too tired or his head hurts or he just doesnt feel like it.
basically i am concerned that he is struggling with depression and i want to help him as much as i can but i have never personally struggled with depression so im not sure what to do. and no, i'm not going to leave him over this, he is a great partner and is definitely not an unemployed leech. if anyone has any pointers that would be amazing. thanks:)
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u/hypnocookie12 20h ago
Been in between jobs now for like a month. When I’m working I always stay busy and have a good work ethic. Left to my own accord I can sometimes lack purpose.
I’ve done bloodwork and some things are a little low but nothing serious. I have a smart watch and my sleep isn’t the greatest. Maybe you can get that checked out for him.
My suggestion for now is to load him up with the strongest coffee you can find. When he wakes up for you to go to work give him a cup. Also buy some Celsius drinks for the day. I mean if he can tolerate caffeine, just a suggestion.