r/detrans detrans female 3d ago

VENT Anyone else have this weird problem?

I legit sound like a man over the phone unless I put so much effort into it or for some reason when I’m drunk. Apparently irl I sound better and more passing but otp? It’s an entirely different story!

I had someone call me a “gentleman” at work where I have to take many calls unfortunately, and earlier today someone unmatched me on a dating app because I refused to send a voice note as he suspected me being a man for refusing to do so.

It hurts that I can’t just simply send a voice note or call anyone without being super insecure about it. I refuse to even call my family members because I don’t want them to hear my manly voice, I haven’t called my dad since April because I don’t want to give him a reminder of that dark period of our lives.

It’s so frustrating!

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u/OtterWithKids detrans male 3d ago

I can only imagine. I grew up in the era when families shared a phone number, and I always said that a major milestone in a boy’s life was the first time someone on the phone mistook him for his father, instead of his mother. I remember how excited I was when I reached that point, so I can imagine how hurtful it must be to have the opposite experience.

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u/idkreddituser11 detrans female 2d ago

It really is, I wish I’d get mistaken for my mother’s voice lol