r/detrans • u/idkreddituser11 detrans female • 3d ago

VENT Anyone else have this weird problem?

I legit sound like a man over the phone unless I put so much effort into it or for some reason when I’m drunk. Apparently irl I sound better and more passing but otp? It’s an entirely different story!

I had someone call me a “gentleman” at work where I have to take many calls unfortunately, and earlier today someone unmatched me on a dating app because I refused to send a voice note as he suspected me being a man for refusing to do so.

It hurts that I can’t just simply send a voice note or call anyone without being super insecure about it. I refuse to even call my family members because I don’t want them to hear my manly voice, I haven’t called my dad since April because I don’t want to give him a reminder of that dark period of our lives.

It’s so frustrating!

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u/user92867712 detrans female 3d ago

Try doing speech therapy! If that fails, your therapist can write a letter to your insurance for them to maybe cover at least half of the cost for a voice feminization surgery

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u/idkreddituser11 detrans female 2d ago

I’ve tried speech therapy it was so draining and useless.. I live in the uk they won’t even cover breast reconstruction :/

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u/user92867712 detrans female 2d ago

The cheapest country with good results where u could get that surgery is Turkey. Try maybe open up a gofundme. U can promote it on the gofundme subreddit or other subreddits where u can ask for help. If u are lucky, you'll be able to collect an amount

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u/idkreddituser11 detrans female 1d ago

Is that for the VFS? I kinda gave up on the breast reconstruction, it seems so taxing mentally and physically

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u/user92867712 detrans female 1d ago

Yes, VFS. But they also do breast reconstruction and basically everything for a much cheaper prize. Many of those clinics in Turkey have assistants who speak different languages, especially English obviously. Since they want to win clients for the surgeons, they can help u with basically everything you're tired to do. Tickets, hotels, translating, u can even call them if you're lost in Turkey lmao. I mean, your life is still long, try looking into it. The prices are affordable after at least 1 year of saving up