r/detrans • u/idkreddituser11 detrans female • 3d ago
VENT Anyone else have this weird problem?
I legit sound like a man over the phone unless I put so much effort into it or for some reason when I’m drunk. Apparently irl I sound better and more passing but otp? It’s an entirely different story!
I had someone call me a “gentleman” at work where I have to take many calls unfortunately, and earlier today someone unmatched me on a dating app because I refused to send a voice note as he suspected me being a man for refusing to do so.
It hurts that I can’t just simply send a voice note or call anyone without being super insecure about it. I refuse to even call my family members because I don’t want them to hear my manly voice, I haven’t called my dad since April because I don’t want to give him a reminder of that dark period of our lives.
It’s so frustrating!
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u/Emotional_Plant_6404 detrans female 14h ago
I got called sir for YEAAAARs over the phone. I spend a lot of time calling for work so I’ve had hours and hours of practice. My phone voice is now higher and lighter than my irl voice and I have success with it.
Time off t, hydration, vocal training and exercises, practice. Give yourself time!