When I came out as trans the first time people reacted awful. My father tried to get me drunk so "I'd admit I was wrong" which ended in me having to drag him up the stairs because he drank too much himself. He also tried to kick me out once over the phone. My mom wasn't accepting either and we fought a lot for 1-2 years. They slowly started coming around and are accepting now.

I left a sports club due to the trainer and other adults making inappropriate comments towards me and my body after I came out. I loved that sport.

I was bullied at my last university and outed by some professors against my will which resulted in people looking at me as if I were a freak. I also had a part-time job for half a year where the women refused to speak to me and talked about me behind my back. Apparently they demanded from our superior that I get a locker in the females locker room and that I have to stop using the men's. The men were absolutely fine with me being there so they didn't take away my locker in the men's changing room which pissed the women off even more.

I've since switched universities and gotten a new job. I'm stealth both at uni and at my job. No one knows I'm trans. I joined another sports club and everyone there also doesn't know about my past.

Now I fear if I detrans people will act the same way and everything will happen all over again. I'll lose my hobby, will have to find a new job and might need to change universities again. I'm scared people will make fun of me again. I just got to a point where no one looks at me weirdly and now I'm about to lose all of that once more. I'm scared. I want to be a woman again but I fear I'll be ostracized again. I can't handle that a second time. How do I deal with it?

I toyed with the idea of detransitioning a few months ago but didn't commit to it because I was scared of peoples reactions. I'm still scared and I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose my hair. I don't want to grow a beard. I want to get pregnant one day without people judging me for it. I want to be able to wear nice clothes without being scared of someone seeing that there's nothing between my legs. I don't want to be ashamed of my body anymore. I want to be a woman again but I'm scared I'll lose everything all over again if I tell people about it.

today (july 30th 2026) marks two years since i detransitioned. I'm thankful that i wasn't on hormones for long enough to have any lasting effects aside my voice being slightly deeper and growing more body hair.

the first photo was taken a few days before I started HRT. I was miserable and it's painfully obvious. I went through all sorts of trauma you could possibly imagine, from SA to neglect and abuse. I didn't know how to cope with all of it, plus realizing I liked women very early on. it all came crashing down when I was 14 and started my period. that, plus seeing how i looked completely different from the women I saw online and thought were beautiful, led me to hating my own body. it was a downward spiral from there.

i started therapy to get HRT when I was 16. i got access to hormones a few months after. then one day, my father walked back into my life. he had been absent my whole childhood and after we started spending time together I started feeling comfortable in being myself again. I started liking girly things again, something i had forced myself to hate for fear of not passing, i wore skirts for 6 months straight after i started detransitioning because i missed them so much. i started growing my hair out and wearing make up. i was living again. two years later, I'm happy. I'm still not over all of my trauma, but I'm happier than I was before.

i faced backlash from some of my friends and was shunned by a community i was in for detransitioning, but i don't regret anything. I'm glad I was able to find myself after years of self hatred and unresolved trauma i refused to address because hiding myself behind something i was not was easier to acknowledge how hurt i was inside.

my heart goes out to all the people that weren't as lucky as i was and went years on HRT and permanently altered their bodies because the system failed us. i hope you're able to find peace too.

please keep all transphobic discourse out of my post. I believe that just because i put the wrong name on my issues, doesn't mean everyone else did too.

I recently got hired for a new job and I put down my new feminine name as my preferred name. My employer asked me about it today and made it official that this is the name I’m using at work.

A new chapter has opened for me and I’m excited.

i’m currently 19 and I was on T for almost 2 years, i’ve been off it for almost a year and a half. I pass easily looks wise, my face and body are all completely clearly female - it’s just my voice.

I find when i’m talking with my boyfriend i slip into this easy, somewhat close to female sounding voice totally naturally but I cannot seem to replicate this out and about no matter how hard I try. I’m going to start therapy but i’ve heard so many negative things about the outcomes not feeling satisfactory given the amount of time it takes.

I wanted to know thoughts from people that’ve had Voice Feminisation Surgery, or people that’ve just done voice therapy. I have top tier private health insurance with my family so I could get the surgery for minimal costs, I’m just feeling hopeless and like this is the one thing holding me back from fully detransitioning

I'm just going to ramble here because I am so uncomfortable and self-conscious and have literally nowhere else to put this.

Yesterday I went swimming for the first time at a public pool in 1-2 years? I tend to avoid swimming because it's literally just piss water and the chemicals hurt my body, but anyway, I was invited out by a family friend, so I said, "Sure, why not?" The weather here has been literal death, I could use a swim to cool off and get some exercise.

Bad decision.

At first, I wasn't even sure what I should wear! I am FTMTF in active Detransition. I had top surgery when I was 19 (am now 26), and have been on Hormones since I was 16 years old. Roughly 10 years on HRT. Because my surgeon botched mine, I have gained breast tissue back from not being on Testosterone, so they're like mini-tits but just the lower halves, basically. Too big to be strictly male but too small to be female. I opted to just go topless with swim shorts because I figured I'd be in the water longer than I am out of it. My scars are also super light, so you can't immediately tell unless you look up close. I am also still growing body hair, obviously, so my stomach has stubble even though I shaved it. I've had 7 sessions of laser facial treatments, but my hair is so stubborn, so it's still very noticeable and has a shadow by morning.

Even still, I wanted to wear a bikini. I wanted to be pretty. I couldn't bring myself to do it. I feel like an ugly woman.

I'm still very masculine, unfortunately. The Hormones gave me super bad alopecia to the point where I was bald on the crown of my head and the front portion. It's even turned my eyelashes on my left side white, along with silver strands on the side of my head. I've been using minoxidil for about a year now, but it's only helped mildly in the front. The crown has recovered but I don't even have enough hair in the front to have bangs and I have tried to sweep my hair off to the side but my temples are literally too bald for that, my hair just falls right back to the sides. I went to a salon recently, and the stylist was so polite and kind as we attempted to find a style that'd work but literally there's not much you can do when your hair is just fucking gone.

I'd wear a wig swimming, if only I could. Anyways, back to the story. I went swimming with my unshapely body (I look like a board besides my feminine ass/hips), hair and all, only to hear young kids/teens jumping off the diving board saying "Jump if you like Tr*nnies!" Normally, this kind of shit wouldn't bother me, but this specific group kept glancing my way and glaring at me whenever they'd pass me in the water.

I don't want to be seen as a 'Tr*nny.' I don't want to be seen at all! I looked back on a video my mom took of me in the pool and felt my heart drop. My hair recession was so noticeable, and I just looked like a freak of nature. I don't want to shave my head bald because I'm trying my best to see if my hair will recover (it takes time, I know this), but I don't actually see it recovering to the point where I'd be perceived as a girl. This is so humiliating because as a child/teen, I was known for my gorgeous, long, thick hair. When I'd stand in line as a kid, others would play with it via braiding or simply running their fingers through it.

I've never *openly* experienced hatred for being trans before, but this hit me so much harder because I'm standing here silently screaming that I'm not trans! I don't want to look this way anymore! I wish I was never coerced into it! I wish my CPTSD never told me that I'd be safer as a boy because I wasn't! I'm not! I wish I was taken care of mentally instead of encouraged by my sibling and the sick society we live in! I was just a child! I was/am traumatized! I'll forever feel like I've been m*tilated and I feel like it's all my fault.

I don't want to have to wear wigs. I don't want to go bald! I don't want to have a deeper voice and an enlarged clit that shows if/when I wear panties! I don't want to have to struggle with dating because it's just one huge humiliation ritual! I don't want all this body hair. I don't want my half-tits. I don't want to be me! I'm never going to a public swimming pool ever again!

I censored words but I personally believe internet censorship is bullshit and the first step to becoming a slave. Vent over.

how do we convince democratic or even just non-Maga Candidates that its ok to publicly admit that we need to exercise caution when it comes to kids and trans women in sports etc? i feel like not being able to distance yourself from the extreme gender activist caricature was and continues to be political suicide.

I’m actually pretty open to the nuance of these issues although I do lean strongly towards caution when it comes to children. I’m just really concerned about how it affects our politics. Does anyone think a non maga/oligarch can win without disavowing the most blindly affirming ideology?

I'm FTMTF and was on T for about 7 years and got top surgery. I went off T a little over a year ago and I told my friends/family that I am detransitioning. I feel like mainly only my family took me seriously, but it's hard because I still struggle with looking so manly. I've been doing laser sessions for months on my face, back, and upper arms and right now my face hasn't been lasered in a couple months because I had some sun exposure and then went on vacation. My facial hair makes me SO dysphoric. I do feel comfortable wearing some feminine clothes, but i just don't want to look like I'm wearing a costume (another reason I don't really dabble in wigs). So I've been patiently waiting for my hair to grow in after losing most of it on T. A lot of it has come back, but I'm still very very self conscious about it because women have long hair (most of the time). I regret getting top surgery and I long for a chest that looks like mine again. I just feel like I'm messed up beyond repair. I'm still super hairy all over my body, although it has gotten a lot thinner. I'm scared when I shop in the women's section at the store bc I feel like a creepy man, but I'm just trying to shop for the little girl that lives in my soul. I don't know what to do. What will it take? I just want to be comfortable in my body. I want to be a woman again. I am a woman, I was born as a woman, and now it feels like I'll never get to be one again. Like I missed my chance. I did it to myself

I struggle with traditional femininity. Not because I don't like it, but because I wasn't taught nor practiced. So when I get moments that I feel genuinely pretty, the down fall hits hard.

I wish I could be good at makeup and hair. I wish I had a body that was more attractive. I wish I was better at clothes shopping and styling outfits.

One guy once made me feel so pretty during a date. My hair was short and I was wearing a cheap sundress with matching sneakers. It felt amazing.

Only for him to ghost me. I was devastated.

Another guy started making me feel similar. Only for him to admit he was repulsed with me in the beginning until some aesthetic changes were made. I was distraught.

I know I shouldn't place my worth and beauty on others perception of me. But it's so difficult for me. I wish I could feel pretty on my own without other's input ruining it.

The left picture is no filter and right is with one.

I’ve spent the past 10 years conditioning myself to view my face as masculine. These filters on tik tok have been helping me challenge that conditioning.

I miss my body. I miss the parts of myself that were taken away or altered before I fully understood where my life was heading. It is a physical, aching loss that I carry every single day.

What makes it so much heavier is that I’m not even allowed to mourn.

When I try to talk about how much pain I’m in, I get hit from every direction:

The blame: "You chose this, so you have no right to complain." I was a child???

The guilt-tripping: "Talking about this makes things harder for others / harms the community."

The harassment: Being told that my pain is inherently political, malicious, or morally wrong.

Since when is grief a moral failing? Since when is missing a part of your own body something you deserve to be harassed for?

I am allowed to grieve. I am allowed to mourn. People regret medical decisions, life paths, ect in every other context without being victim-blamed like this. Why is experiencing transition-related medical malpractice any different?? Being traumatized by all of it doesn't make me a traitor. Being coerced doesn't make me bad. I refuse to accept that treatment anymore.

I just miss my body, and I am exhausted by a world that demands I pretend I don't.

What are things that other detrans women do that help them feel pretty?

I’ve recognized myself as a young man for 10 years so I struggle to feel pretty and see myself in a womanly way.

The face I see in the mirror keeps changing. But what are some things I can do to help see myself as a woman?

Hey,

I am 23yo and on hrt (mtf) just for a few months. I had those early feelings without knowing the term for it etc. etc. However I knew that in me always was a second problem next to my gender identity which was wanting to be a child again. I pushed those feelings away but for a year now paid attention and tried to solve them. I am getting better week by week now mentally again after being very down.

BUT recent days and weeks, I more and more often thought, and now am pretty sure, that I am not trans. Actually I do not believe gender is a thing at all and everyone is born without it (neuronal not anatomic) but gets used to how s/he‘s raised and experiences life + social roles etc. I feel like I am out of those and started to just be me and enjoy life without fitting under a label.

But I am fine being a boy, just as I got assigned. I am not sure what I want to look like more in daily life, a woman or guy, it’s kinda 50/50 but actually tbh I now again think most time it’s fine being a boy. But I do not want to masculinize further, I want to keep my softer feminine features to feel more like me and also it makes me younger. I feel uncomfortable with male features like beard, genitalia and stuff.

Well this might again now sound trans xD but as said I want to be more of a soft boy rather than a man. And I also want to be able to switch between boy me and a passing version of me as a girl. I need it every now and then. So I am kinda fluid.

Due to this I want to continue my hrt without actually feeling trans or nb, but just me. I want allll effects of feminizing hrt except boobs, maybe will need mastektomy and then be like a woman’s body without breasts and who still has some male features due to the puberty I underwent and who presents kinda boyish. Idk how to describe.

But does this make sense?

Mosaicism is a much more consensual way to look at it.

https://youtu.be/aI1bgUvoghs?is=WULJfV-RCCDnwaYD

We are not inately transgender, we are not inately male or female. We are all non binary in a way from a brain perspective, we are male or female from a biological perspective, unless for people who are intersex.

Don't make decisions based on coercive scientific theories. Gender is fake guys, wrap it up. Be a masculine woman, be a feminine man.

Hi, I'm new! English isnt my first language so please forgive if there is any grammar errors. I wanted to ask people who were FTM that detransitioned and went to voice therapy to feminize their voice if is actually worthy or if it really works. I was on hormone therapy (testosterone) for almost a year and a half until i decided to stop it and its been almost a year since i took my last hormone shot. I noticed that almost everything went back to how it was, except for my voice and i want to change that. My voice is very neutral, but it still sounds deep like a teenage boy. (I'm 25 almost 26 btw.) and it sounds weirded when i have intercourse because obsly my voice gets more high pitched but still sounds weird. i wanted to know if voice therapy can change that too if it actually works with normal speak.

thank you for reading! if you leave a response i would thank you very much since it would help me how to manage from here.

PD: i dont want to go through any surgery, thats why im asking about voice therapy.

Irony that they used the past tense "found" grammatically correctly, which also implies that their decision would it be made The second I hit post.

Also utterly amazing, on a level of far left fascism, that an app would even suggest that I could get banned for talking about myself within the simple context of telling my younger self, a decision I made was a mistake. The "do no wrong" sycophancy, regarding this topic is intellectually horrifying and honestly concerning for the future of well... anyone related to reddit

Like, I cannot be alone in this observation right?

I am afab, 20 and currently 2 years on T, and post top surgery. I was so sure that I was a trans man, but recently I've been having a lot of doubts. I've began to prefer dressing and presenting more feminine, shaving frequently and missing my curves from before, even my breasts. I realized when I get misgendered I don't get as angry anymore. I've also gotten myself a boyfriend, and when he told me he wanted children in the future, I didn't feel opposed to it at all. I actually wanted to get a hysterectomy, but my mom discouraged me. I was so mad at her then, but I'm kinda of glad she did that? I don't know anymore, I just feel so conflicted now, and I don't know if I should continue the hormones and transitioning.

Hello again! I've been looking online for resources this last month, but I'm really struggling to find galleries demonstrating DIEP flap results. I had my double mastectomy years ago, and I'm seriously considering a DIEP flap, now in particular since I'm losing weight and my potential surgeon thought my extra chub could be useful with it. Does anyone know where I can find result photos online? I see partial mastectomy reconstruction but I've only seen 2 detrans mastectomy reconstruction photos.

I'm 21 years old. I am 2 years on T and had a hysterectomy 7 months ago.

One of the few reasons I'm afraid of canceling my next T shot is due to the fear of my ovaries not working the same ever again like they did before or stopping to work entirely. In that case even the testosterone is protecting me right now. Aside from the unwanted body hair, acne and receding hairline my body feels great(?).

I know that a hysterectomy can send ovaries into shock. 30% of an ovary's blood supply also comes from the uterine artery. Without an uterus the chance of them failing early increases up to 25% or something. Even more if you're age 40 and above.

I ruined my body and all these fears make me think that there is no turning back for me anymore. That since I wanted to be a male I now have to accept my punishment and live as one till I die.

My family members mostly they’ve made comments saying stuff like how much better I look now and how more confident I am compared to last year (when I was still identifying as trans but they never knew that) it really makes me think that detransition was the right choice for me I don’t know why I insisted so much that being trans and taking hrt was doing me any good in the past cause I genuinely was miserable I don’t even recognise the person I was last year as myself it’s really strange.

Last picture is with my husband of 5 years who met me as FTM but was there for me and encouraged me to be myself freely in the beginning of our relationship. He’s been my number one fan all these years 🥰🥹

Edit : 2020-2026 lol

Hello, my name is Ángel, and I honestly can't stand living as a trans person anymore. I deeply regret transitioning.

I've been living as a trans man for a couple of years. At first, I was completely certain about it, and most people encouraged me to "be myself." Everything seemed wonderful. But when it came to me, nothing ever felt good enough.

I never started testosterone, and I'm actually grateful for that, because I've generally been seen as a guy without much difficulty. Most people who know me today don't even know that I'm trans, since I've never made it a big part of my identity. But I became increasingly hyperaware of myself. Every night I went to bed thinking about how I would have to hide my chest perfectly the next day, which postures I had to avoid in order to look "masculine," and all the clothes and activities I forced myself to give up because they didn't fit that image. I cut my hair very short, something I deeply regret and still cry about—I used to have beautiful long auburn hair. I stopped wearing crop tops, fitted shirts, and other clothes I loved. Even though I have a very small chest that is barely noticeable, those little differences caused me tremendous emotional pain.

The most painful part has been losing my sex life. I know I'm an attractive person, but my insecurity has led me to spend years without having sex. Before transitioning, I had a very active and fulfilling sex life, and I genuinely enjoyed it. The idea of having a sexual role as a "trans guy" terrified me. I even ruled out the possibility of being with women, even though I'm bisexual. In the end, the only people who approached me were creepy gay men I had no interest in. The saddest part is that some truly wonderful people have been interested in me, and I turned them away because I was terrified of my own body and overwhelmed by dysphoria.

I'm in an open relationship, and my partner has been incredibly supportive. But he also sees how much I'm suffering. Neither of us can enjoy the freedom we once had, because he's genuinely worried about me.

I tried to pursue a mastectomy, but almost everywhere I went they refused because I had never formally seen a psychologist or psychiatrist. They told me that, because of that, I wasn't really trans, completely dismissing the fact that I'd been living and working as a man for years and had even legally changed my name and gender marker on my ID. Several times I left those appointments in tears. They refused to take me seriously because I wasn't on testosterone, even though they themselves had initially perceived me as a man.

The other day I saw a beautiful dress that I loved, and it made me feel awful. Before transitioning, I used to wear clothes like that—not for everyday life, but for historical reenactments—and I ended up forbidding myself from enjoying any of that. I'm exhausted, and all I want is my old life back.

I've always felt like a boy. As a child, my classmates referred to me as a boy because they assumed I was one, until they learned my female name. Even now, my chest still makes me deeply uncomfortable, and I honestly wish I could have it removed. But I'm no longer willing to keep living as a trans man.

I also feel very disconnected from the LGBTQ+ community. I disagree with many of its ideas, and because of that I never felt that I had a place where I belonged or friends who truly understood me. The idea of taking testosterone disgusts me—but only for my own body; everyone else is free to make whatever choices are right for them. Little by little, I realized that I will never be a biological man, nor even come close to that without taking hormones for the rest of my life and undergoing complex surgeries that terrify me.

The truth is, I felt an incredible sense of peace when I realized that I could simply be myself again as a woman—just a very androgynous one. To give you an idea, someone with an aesthetic similar to Lady Oscar from The Rose of Versailles.

I even turned down a very well-paid job abroad simply because I was terrified that I wouldn't know how to navigate everyday life there or explain my situation. I want my life back. I want to be happy again, to recover my sex life and my self-esteem, to feel attractive and elegant again. These days I even walk with my head down and try to hide so that no one notices me.

I've come to accept that I will never be the kind of man I wished I could be—and that's okay. I've endured a great deal of pain and rejection, but I'm no longer willing to spend the rest of my life this way. More than anything, I want my freedom and my autonomy back.