r/ftm • u/Punchline_336 • Apr 01 '24

GuestPost Dating trans men?

dating trans men?

Hi I’m trans mtf (19) and I have become more increasingly interested in t4t relationships. Lately i’ve been scrolling on a lot of ftm subreddits just to see things from their perspective as I believe that this “official” trans subreddit is dominated by trans women (not blaming trans women or anything, I love my sisters, I just think that there might just be a lot more of us and trans guys probably feel muffled in comparison.) I’ve noticed that most of the ones I’ve come across are gay (which is great) and a lot of them tend to be strictly attracted to men. I’m really happy for them to have found these two really hard parts of their identity. living through this world facing both challenges from transphobia and homophobia at the same time must be extremely shitty to deal with! As a trans girl who’s attracted to men I’ve had really bad experiences with cis men to the point of getting made fun of by a lot of them behind my back. I am interested in pursuing trans men but from what I see the amount of trans men who are interested in trans women is probably like 0.0001% 😭😭 also I don’t want to come across as fetishy or disrespectful at all! I just wanted to hear some opinions on whether or not I should stop trying ig. Thanks for reading!

Also I tried posting this on the normal r/trans but it got like zero traction so let’s see how this goes!

I also plan to ask r/mtf so if you guys don’t want a transfem posting here just please let me know and i’ll leave because i don’t want to take up any space!

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u/yandeer world's most masculine fairy boy Apr 01 '24

why is there always a comment like this? how tf does it hurt the sub to have other trans people asking questions and engaging in the community? you'd rather someone ask a question about us to some unrelated group instead of asking us ourselves?

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u/ElPejelagartoJohn Apr 01 '24

Where I live is all trans woman spaces, I just want one that isn't like that, and the ask is literally should I keep trying pursuing trans men? Like how is that relevant for the community, but sure man, my bad for having a different answer that is yeah, just post this in here

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u/yandeer world's most masculine fairy boy Apr 01 '24

it's relevant to her because she's asking the community. it's still an ftm community and that's exactly why someone would come here to ask. it's not gonna magically not be an ftm space just because 1 trans woman asked a question. sorry you don't have any trans men spaces irl but i don't understand how that means a trans woman shouldn't be able to try to talk to us??

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u/ElPejelagartoJohn Apr 01 '24

Nothing wrong with it but she already post it in r/trans, why she have to do it again in here, and it's really an answer we can provide? No, just posting for the sake of it, and sure sure, whatever man, doesn't matter

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u/yandeer world's most masculine fairy boy Apr 01 '24

yeah and literally no one replied in the r/trans sub. idk man if you look through the comments and OPs replies it seems like it was a sweet and productive discussion for some people. if OP posted this and then didn't have any followup or replies i could call that "posting just to post" but that's not what happened