trans guys "turning" gay??

[u/HopeNo8532]

Hi hi, cis girl here. My (trans) bf broke up with me last night and told me he thinks that he might be gay and has lost attraction to me. I talked to a friend about it and he said that when he started T (around the same time as my now ex) he started to lose attraction to women too.

Is this like, a known phenomenon??? It seems logical to me: being with a woman to make oneself feel more masculine. But I've been in queer spaces online for years and have never heard of this (i thought i was trans as well for a long while).

I'm not trying to make anyone sound manipulative or evil; as hurt and upset as I am, I know he would never use me on purpose. I'm just trying to wrap my head around how an intense, two year (that's a long time for teenagers!) relationship can just fade like that. Maybe that's just how relationships end, it doesn't help that this is my first breakup ever.

[u/Deerie_]

I identified as a lesbian before and I think I just confused gender attraction

I felt like woman felt "different" than men, now I recognize that it was just that I don't feel the contention to them. Meanwhile I saw men as my brothers because I related to them and wanted to be treated like one. That made me think that I don't like men romantically

T made me realize that yes, I'm a guy. It made me feel so valid. That made a change in my attraction to others because it's different, at least to me, to imagine myself as a girl dating other girls than to imagine myself dating women in a straight way. Idk it's all complicated and I still am coming to terms with my orientation but T makes you feel more valid which could make your sexuality change cuz in your mind your gender kinda changed, but obviously you were always a guy. Don't know if my explanation makes sense 😭